I live in New York City, and a certain close relative of mine lives not too far out in New Jersey. He infrequently visits (more often I go out there to see him), but whenever he does come in for a day, he always sets exactly where we’re going to eat and what we’re going to do. It’s very hard to convince him to do anything else.
On the one hand, it’s his trip, I’m in New York every day, and it makes sense for him to pick what we do. On the other hand, I’m always easy-going about what happens when I go visit him. To make matters worse, he has a very narrow set of things he wants to do in New York - most times he explicitly does not want to leave Times Square, and only wants to eat at chain restaurants there. I’m no snob - Times Square is fun, and some chain places are damn good. But it gets old, and I feel like he could have a more interesting (and cheaper) time if he said, “Hey Rodgers, you live here - why don’t you show us around?”
It’s probably a pointless question, because (god love him) the guy is very stubborn, and I’m not going to start a real argument over this. But I’m curious: should the visitor always set the agenda?