… I guess you best investigate
The facts of life, the facts of life…"
See, there’s this guy I know from online, and I really didn’t like his online persona, as it were. In fact, on a few occasions, we got into arguments in PM and email.
In any case, I had a chance to meet him IRL a little while ago and was quite surprised to find him witty and rather magnetic. So we’ve kind of started seeing each other.
I know very well this isn’t going to go anywhere serious, but I must say I’ve enjoyed the short amount of time I’ve spent with him both in chat and IRL.
Here’s the clincher: I don’t want to lead him on, and have him think that there’s more where there probably won’t ever be. I don’t know him well enough to know how he views these kinds of situations, but what I do know is that it’s far too soon to bring this kind of thing up without seeming like some kind of flake.
I think I should just go with it and keep my mouth shut. Do you guys agree? Or should I say something soon?
Scott Evil said, "In any case, I had a chance to meet him IRL a little while ago and was quite surprised to find him witty and rather magnetic. So we’ve kind of started seeing each other.
I know very well this isn’t going to go anywhere serious, but I must say I’ve enjoyed the short amount of time I’ve spent with him both in chat and IRL."
Maybe you don’t find him as undesirable as you think you do. Sounds like you may have judged the guy a bit prematurely. I wouldn’t say anything, as long as you’re having a good time. If he asks you to move in with him, you might want to broach the subject then.
Why are you trying to chart where the relationship is heading? Why don’t you just enjoy it for what it is? I don’t understand why some people seem to think that every date is an audition for a lifelong committment. I see nothing wrong with having fun with each other, going on dates, and seeing what happens without trying to foce the issue.
If you’re not having fun. dump him. If you are havign fun, then continue. Unless he proposes or asks you to move in, or says the L word, you have no reason to think that he’s necessarily looking tomake you his husband.
My advice is enjoy it for what it is and don’t try to label it.