We were both 24 when we got married, but I’d already lost 3 of 4 biological grandparents by then and lost the last one a few months later. None of my 4 grandparents made it to 75 - two had multiple forms of cancer, a third had heart troubles young, the fourth was diabetic and generally in poor health for a long time. I’m extremely concerned about this, so while I’ll never smoke and I rarely drink, I’m working on my diet/fitness/mental health with a renewed focus so that I can live more years and enjoy them more.
After about 5 years married I didn’t care who went first as long as it was soon. 
We were very young when we got married (19 & 21) and didn’t think beyond the next week, so no. But, when I found out his grandfather & uncle died of heart attacks before age 50, and then when his Mom died at the age of 50 of heart disease, I sure did start thinking about it.
Fast forward 33 years and he has had 2 heart attacks & a bypass and does not take as good care of himself as he should, so I still think about it.
We didn’t discuss it at the time. But now that both of us are in our mid-60’s, he goes around saying “I’m dying, I’m going to die tomorrow, yes I am, I’m dying,” clearly not meant to be taken seriously (i.e. I don’t immediately dial 911 for an ambulance). I think it’s just whistling past the graveyard, and an expression of feeling a little less than perfect.
I, on the other hand, am the quiet, stoic type. Since both our families are mixed bags for longevity, I hereby predict that I will go first, but not by much (barring accidents).
Roddy
… and now I’m prayin’ for the end of time, to hurry up and arive! 
This made me laugh right out loud!
The mister is 9 years older than me, and I think we both assumed he’d go first. However, I’m experiencing low level stress and anxiety almost continually now, so that makes me wonder - it must be hard on my body.
Overall, though, I figure I’ll drop dead about 2 weeks after my term-life insurance expires. 
My ex wife would often sleep in the ‘death pose’, that which we see a corpse in a coffin. Need to find someone who sleeps in a fetal position which also more conducive to spooning.
To put it in a polite way, you don’t own anybody. When you are gone what are you going to do. Your control dies with you my friend.
Peasants are always perfectly acceptable.
The majority of people have their heads in the sand when it comes to delicate questions such as death. who is going to die first. I have everything sorted in my will & testament since 1992. It causes so much havoc and heartache if you leave it to the gods.
I did, but we didn’t talk about it. If he did, I don’t know.
He is thirteen years older, but I was in poorer health so I figured it was a wash.
I threatened to haunt her.
No, we never thought about, at least I never did and she never said a word. I was 27 and she was under 26. Then a year after we were married I had a heart attack and after that I always assumed she would survive me. When we bought a house, I had her listed as the owner on that basis and I am sure she understood why. (Although I didn’t know that there is no inheritance tax between spouses in Canada.)
If I live till March, we will celebrate our 50th. I still think I’ll go first. But not quite yet.
Getting married in a few months.
I’ve thought about it. Odds are I will. She’s a few years older than me, but she’s more athletic than I am and I there’s a history of heart disease in my family. We’re both in our 30s, though, so that’s a long way off.