I seem to start many threads about weddings, so here is another
My GF has a friend back home who is getting married in August. The problem, however, is that her fiance is dying. He is 38, and when they met was already in treatment for various forms of cancer, primarily in his neck and throat. He has been through rounds and rounds of treatment, lost all hair, lost weight, can hardly speak due to the throat suregeries, etc. The future bride, Lisa, has remained positive and supportive throughout, but also a bit delusional, planning her fairytale wedding (her words) and planning on having children and a long happy life.
Last week he was diagnosed with pancreatic cancer, and possible stomach cancer. At this point, it wouldn’t be a suprise he if doesn’t make it till August at all. But Lisa is going full ahead with the plans, booking a honeymoon, everything.
A few issues - he hasn’t been able to work in over year, and has considerable debt from all the treatment. Won’t she be responsible for this once they are married? Not to mention the cost of the wedding itself. This is also going to be the most akward and depressing wedding ever. All the guests know what is going on, and will likely feel very uncomfortable trying to keep a smile and good attitude. And if he does live that long, likely won’t be in very good shape at that time.
I don’t mean to suggest they should necessarily forgo the wedding if that makes them happy, I guess it just scares me that they aren’t be realistic about the future, and not looking forward to going myself, as it will so sad.
(I know the theme of my wedding posts appear to be ‘How can Fat Chance get out of going to this wedding’, but I assure you I have no thoughts of not going)