You know I’m going to call. I keep telling your voice mail that I will. I’m tired of saying “I’m sorry I missed you, I’ll call you tomorrow.” and I bet you’re tired of hearing it.
I understand your work schedule changes and you have to work a different shift. SEND ME AN EMAIL AND LET ME KNOW! I understand you sometimes have to stay late. I understand you don’t have long distance and you don’t have a calling card, or the money to buy one at the moment. I really do understand. In fact, I think I have been too understanding. Why am I doing all the work in this relationship? It was all your idea in the first place.
It’s been more than a week since I actually talked to you. Did you get hurt at work? Are you sick and sleeping when I call?
I know you are online everyday, how hard is it to send me an email? I know you know how to do it, you actually sent me one once. ONE! And I can count the number of times YOU have called ME since I moved on one hand.
If you think I’m calling too often, TELL ME! I haven’t developed telepathy yet, I need to be told these things. Funny how I interpret “Call me tomorrow” as a sign that you want me to call. Of course, you’re not there half the time when you tell me that. Maybe that isn’t the problem, maybe this last week has just been a case of bad timing. EMAIL! I know we’ve talked about this, that’s why I got that one email from you.
You’re lucky I’m not done beating my head against a brick wall yet. You’re lucky I like you, you jerk. This, on top of my shitty work situation, is about as much as I’m willing to take.
Now all I need to do is figure out a way to get this across to him without sounding like a shrew. :mad:
I think that you could probably make your point well by letting him contact you next.
You can always tell him, “I would appreciate it if you would let me know blah, blah blah…”
But just tell him once and make sure you have his complete attention when you say it. If he obliges, give positive feedback. If he doesn’t, then you have to decide if his notifying you is a requirement for you.
Don’t nag, don’t plead, don’t beg. But do communicate what your needs are.
I’m perhaps speaking prematurely, but I have a sinking feeling in regard to the lifespan of this coupling…
That being said… Were I you, I’d follow Zoe’s stellar advice: Let him contact you next, & when he does call/e-mail/smoke signal, get his full attention & be very clear about what you’re asking of him without appearing to have a conniption. If he gives a good faith effort to do what you asked, good. If not, then y’all might need to have another, different discussion, depending upon how bothered you are by the situation.
I realized almost from the beginning that this wasn’t going to be the grand romance of my life, but I guess I was hoping for something out of this besides a whole lot of phone calls on my part. I’m not quite done deluding myself about him yet, so I’ll probably keep this up for a while.
I think I’m just too stubborn to admit this is not going anywhere.
If you’re a long distance from each other and he is not calling or emailing you, even after repeated messages from you, then it’s over. He’s just too chickenshit to tell you. You can keep calling and maybe even force him to talk to you on those rare occasions where he forgets to screen, but you’re wasting your time.
You can do a lot better. Don’t waste your energy on someone who isn’t interested enough in you to send you a frickin’ email. Stop calling, stop emailing. If he suddenly realizes he wants you and makes a big effort to get you back, you can consider it. Otherwise, consider it over and move on.