As I read it, she doesn’t like to be hit, and he hits her.
My impression is the law would not look kindly on this.
It’s not about sex?
Damnit, now I’ll have to take off my waders and unpack the Orville Redenbacher’s butter flavored oil.
Sorry, bran Muffin.
Hmm… Sure… By this standart, I’m not sure we would need any other forum besides the Pit.
I went back and read one of her earliest posts in the other thread, and the most outrageous thing he says is “bring me food!”. Granted, it’s not polite, but that’s hardly the kind of thing that will “damage” children.
When she says 24/7, I take it to mean her husband has the option of doing the dominant thing whenever he wants, but doesn’t usually exercise it in front of the children.
If I read that wrong, I’m sure someone will correct me.
I disagree, so let’s find out: http://boards.straightdope.com/sdmb/showpost.php?p=9607275&postcount=153 .
Mwah!! You dear, wonderful man.
Gah, I’m responding to so many things it’s hard to keep it all straight. For me, I LIVE it, it’s my life, so it all makes sense. Can I just give y’all my address and you can just come hang out for a day or two and see for ourselves? I make a mean chicken stiry fry!!
Hey, I have an awesome idea. How about you leave my gender identity the fuck out of this?
I realize a lot of you are really enjoying posting vapid, destructive bullshit from your flameproof, thoughtproof high-horses, but this is crossing the line for me. If things had gone differently in my life, I’d be saving up right now for a sex change and hormone therapy.***** And yeah, I’d still probably desire someone who holds me down in bed and appreciates my servitude, but – guess what? It would have all of jack shit to do with my gender and sex. If you want to pit me for not feeling the same as every other genetic 23=XY, I’ll simply lose all faith in this board as a bastion of intelligence, but at least then you’ll have your issues straight and separated.
This is the main problem with any misunderstood identity: if the closed minds hear that you’re kinky, they start trying to analyze everything you are and everything you do and fitting it to that. Quick, pigeonhole, pigeonhole!!! We only have tiny tidbits of information, but we must make them fit this psychopathic identity we have created in our own minds!
Jesus H. Christ on a pogo stick. No wonder freekalette hasn’t embraced this thread the same way as the one she actually, y’know, created.
And as to whether the submissiveness she feels is caused by or is exacerbating any depression she has - I haven’t heard of or witnessed any D/s relationship lasting longer than a year when it was destructive to either party. These are just like any other relationship: they’re people growing together. I was pretty close to socially phobic before I met A Priori Tea, and I struggled with that and with motivating myself to manage my time. When I chose to respect her authority, I knew it would mean different things for me: she made me go meet people when every fiber of my being wanted to stay indoors; she made me keep a journal and a dayplanner so I wouldn’t forget things.
I’d be a much worse person today if I hadn’t met her and submitted to her. Of course, I guess according to some, I should’ve just seen a counselor and gone on medication of some sort. That’s always more healthy, right? “Drugs before perversion!” There’s your rallying cry - I’ll bill you later.
*No, dipshits, this is not an invitation to perform armchair psychology on me. I know my gender, it’s not yours, and it’s not up for fucking debate.
She said that he “orders her around.”
This would go back to my football analogy – the players do not like to be hit, but they consent to get hit within the rules of the game. As long as there is valid consent, there is no assault.
As long as she consents, he is in the clear. If he goes beyond the bounds of the consent, or if he does something to which a person cannot consent (e.g. kills her), or if she later denies having had the ability to consent (duress or mental incapacity), then he could be nailed for assault.
He also has sex with her whether she wants it or not. That sounds a lot like rape to me. From the MPSIMS thread:
That depends, how do you feel about polishing jackboots and ironing double-breasted Victorian laboratory smocks?
While whistling Ride Of The Valkyries?
I of course will spend my time judging your children’s mental states by having them act out dramas with balloon animals I provide.
She should have started the thread in GD or the Pit? You’re shitting me, right? When was the last time you saw an “Ask the” thread in GD or the Pit?
As for Diogenes the Cynic, he’s gone from tragedy to farce, and I get the feeling that he’s just trying to get our reactions so he can write them into a Saturday Night Live script. How’s that House script coming, BTW, Diogenes? I guess it turned out that you are better at everything than everyone else, right?
Doc that sounds like FUN! But be warned, Joe will want to play with the balloon animals too, is that okay?
Philly ain’t too far, either…
The issue for me isn’t that what they do in front of the children is particularily outrageous. It’s that these apparently rather inocuous behaviors, like saying “bring me food” or him tickling her are in fact are elements of their D/s relationship. She isn’t tickled because it’s fun, she’s tickled because she’s a sub. He isn’t saying “bring me food” because he’s in a bad mood, but because he’s a Dom. Which means that they are, in fact, acting out in front of the children.
And this does bother me. It’s only because those acts are indeed pretty inocuous that I only expressed reservations, rather than an outright condemnation (and also because I don’t have children, nor any experience of 24/7 D/s, making difficult for me to assess the situation). Still, I think there shouldn’t be any acting out in front of the children, even acting out unlikely to damage the kids, even acting out in disguise.
I was about to add that for that matter, I don’t think there should be any acting out in front of unwilling and/or uninformed people, but on second thought, I don’t have an issue with some exhibitionnist/ public humiliation actions (like for instance the collar thing), so it would be inconsistent for me to state so. In any case, the children can’t walk out, hence ideally shouldn’t be, I think, witness of behaviors that are a direct consequence of the OP submissive tendancies, whether they (the kids) currently understand it or not.
And Priori Tea tickles me when I don’t want to be tickled. Where’s my righteous outrage?! Save me, Diogenes the Cynic! You’re my only hope!
It’s been pointed out repeatedly that consent has already been given in a way and can be taken away, even if your plugged mind can’t see it. What’s wrong with your eyes that you keep ignoring the parts of posts in this thread that make it really clear that kinky people are, on the whole, a lot more communicative and respectful than most?
I finished the script a long time ago numbnuts. I posted the link and everything. I proved my point quite well. Keep up.
You never answered my question. Do you have kids?
As evidenced by the FBI’s crackdown on tickling and butt-slapping, of course.
Except that games end.
Good demonstration…
Well at least now I won’t have to rig a trapeze.
Then again . . . 