While I think this chick sounds more than a little deranged, I also don’t get the outrage over her Hot Topic outfit choices, Dio. She’s just part of that contingent of Fallout Boy look-alikes who are most likely going to end up breeding future investment bankers. Investment bankers who are terribly terribly embarrassed by their lame-o NIN-listening alterna-parents showing up to watch them graduate from Wharton.
Does her Husband-Master also command her to listen to The Cure is what I want to know. “Lovecats on REPEAT, bitch.”
While I don’t want to be judgemental of anyone, I unequivocally agree with your thoughts on this. Being a parent (as I am) means setting an example that imprints the minds of impressionable children. And like you said, even if children aren’t involved (which seriously lessens the potential impact of said behavior, IMO), it’s still a little out there.
But I abide by to each his own. But please don’t ask me to babysit.
Don’t ask me why I’m wading into this thread again, but I think yall are missing the point.
Plenty of things are “legitimate clothing accessories”. But obviously a spiked dog collar is not something that freekalette dons on a regular voluntary basis or else it wouldn’t represent a humiliating punishment sufficient to get her husbands rock’s off. What the collar represents is the point, not whether or not it’s all that bad. Just like the damn tickling.
If I saw my mother walking around with something like that around her neck, and I knew it was something out of the ordinary for her and I suspected it was something she didn’t really want to wear, as a kid with a limited understanding of what’s going on in parents’ mind, I would be disturbed by that. I might even be upset, especially if we were out in public and her embarrassment became my embarrassment. If I suspected it had somethng to do with my stepdad, then I might become disgusted and angry.
What do you tell a kid who asks “Why are you wearing that around your neck, Mommy?” Either you lie and tell them they it’s because you wanted to wear it (that’s not truthful because it wouldn’t be a punishment if that was the case). Or you tell the truth: “Mommy got mouthy so Daddy is making me wear this as punishment.” In my opinion, neither of these answers is all that appropriate because such a conversation should never happen if you’re a parent talking to her kids. This kind of game playing is unfair to them because they aren’t going to be in on the “joke”. There’s a whole “wink wink nudge nudge” dynamic that the kids will eventually pick up on, if they haven’t already. How weird it must feel for them in that house, sensing the changes in their mom but not knowing for sure what’s going on.
I still think the greater issue is that this relationship is so new for the two older kids that I can’t see the 24/7 slave thing helping them to adjust. It seems to be just asking for trouble. Their bio dad has drug issues, mom has a history of depression and anxiety, they just got a new stepdad who’s barely old enough to shave, and as if that’s not enough, let’s just pile on the some pseudo-abuse, disrespect, and games of humiliation and degradation!
Not that anyone asked me, but I don’t think these kind of relationships are automatically bad news. I just think that the circumstances outlined by freekalette warrant some prudence here.
Urgh. I love my collar. I’ve said as much before. The only time I’ve not been comfortable wearing it was in front of the little old grannies, and they just thought I was some punk kid anyway, so no foul there. Why do people seem inclined to think that Joe is incapable of enjoying anything BUT humiliating me? Yes, he does it and loves it, but that’s not all we’re about. I know, I know, you can only see what I show you. But you guys are some seriously bright fucking people here, and I’d think you could at least figure out that we don’t spend every second of every day dreaming up new ways to play together.
Freekalette----your refusal to address the issue of raising your three young children while being a slave to a young step"father" is telling.
Please go be cute in your own thread OR quit avoiding discussing my (and others) main concerns.
Others have expressed alot of concern over your own mental health, and how your choices may be bad for you…but in my opinion you are an adult and I absolutely have no room to judge any choices adults make, having made many bad choices myself BUT you are forcing your choices onto your kids.
They will be seeing behavior that is COMPLICATED,. they will not understand.
I will not let you off the hook in this thread, I am leaving you be in your other June Cleaver in a collar thread.
Maybe it’s the 24/7 slave thing that keeps tripping us up.
That said, your life is your life. If everything is fine at your house, then a few comments from a few strangers should mean very little to you. And I mean that with no snarkiness intended. So please take my posts in the spirit that they are given: as a common sensical analysis based on the information you’ve provided.
Guestimate I HAVE addressed the issue. And no matter what I say, I’m either digging myself deeper or trying to backpedal out of it, according to some here. What would you have me address that I haven’t already? And how exactly is Joe’s age relevant?
We’ve all seen things we don’t understand, as children and as adults, from parents and strangers, so that wording doesn’t fly with me. I’m not going to tell you what you want to hear just for the sake of making you (general you) happy, so ask me something I haven’t been asked and I’ll respond with the truth. Deal?
My goodness, Ritter…thank you very much. I appreciate being put into that company.
freekalette, if you haven’t taken anything any of us have said to heart, I hope you will at least consider this post and the last one from you with the face.
no deal. But I grant you that it looks like nothing is going to change your mind right now, so I will stop trying.
I guess there is a faint hope that since you care about this board at least somewhat, as I do, later IF some one of your kids start to act out, whatever, the THOUGHT that intelligent people did have reservations, that their concerns could be valid, will be maybe harder for you to repress.
