Fighters?
My girlfriend and I are having the exact same problem. So far, she has tried joining a knitting group, but everyone in it is a lot older than we are. I tried joining a Dungeons and Dragons group (had a lot of fun with that in college) but I didn’t really click with anyone I met in the group. They were all a little… odd. Perhaps many of the normal, well adjusted RPG players stopped playing after college 
? Next I’m going to try and join the local running group, hopefully I will meet some people I share common interests with.
Sometimes I really wish I lived in New York City, instead of suburban hell. Even if I do meet cool people at an event in the city, it’s too much work and too expensive to commute in more than once a month to hang out with them.
On the bright side, my girlfriend is a literary agent, and we enjoy going together to science fiction and fantasy literature conventions. We always have a lot of fun there making friends and going to parties. Unfortunately the chances that you will meet someone who lives near you are slim to none, and the conventions themselves are infrequent and expensive.
The idea of looking in the calendar section of my local paper sounds promising. I haven’t found anything that looks like a good local paper online yet, though. Perhaps I’ll check out the library or some local stores and see if they have such a thing.
It’s frustrating for me, since I enjoy lots of social activities like video games (guitar hero, DDR), skiing, hiking, board games, sci fi and fantasy movies, bowling, fake rock climbing, amusement parks, and going to the beach. None of these are things you really invite strangers to, though, and only a few of them have clubs. Maybe I’ll try going to the next NJ Dopefest.
Yeah. Back in Atlanta, there was a singing group, lots of cooks, dancers, etc. Here, I’ve heard it’s all fighters and dumb college guys, although I haven’t been myself. Also, I don’t know if I want to make the big time committment that sewing garb and all entails; I mean, we’re getting pretty scheduled here as it is!
- Ho hum, ho hum
We think the dwarves are dumb.
They’re six foot six,
with heads like bricks,
Ho hum, ho hum!*
Glad I’m not the only one that could figure out SCA, google led me to believe it was Sexual Compulsives Anonymous.
only one that could **not ** figure…
I was always told they were ‘refined’ LARPers or something. :dubious: Meeting the ones that I have, I’d have to argue that definition. I’m beginning to think they’re all LARPers who figured out they’d get more action if they started playing more ‘seriously’.
Hey, the thing I went to in Memphis had a “Lacivious Eating Contest”. These ladies were holding watermellon slices up to their faces, and the juice was running down their arms…this was cool, and without a rattan sword in sight.
For certain SCA chapters, that’s not so far off…
Married, out of school and without kids. That’s a tough combo. I am guessing not much extended family (cousins, etc) either. Going clubbing and hitting on couples without giving the impression that you are looking for swingers is pretty hard.
Take classes of stuff you like (which you already are with the Aikido and the dancing). At least you will have something in common with them. Change to group dancing classes.
Make friends (individually and of your same gender) at the gym or classes of stuff you don’t share. It is easier for each of you to make a personal friend (and hope s/he has a decent partner) and then bring them in the couple’s space, I think