I’ve never been taught anything. I’ve always just paid attention to what the woman likes. That and I have NO problem out right asking what the woman likes. Actaully that makes it more intersting when you ask anyway, I like to watch them give :eek: faces etc.
Sex scenes in various books and movies. Having a lot of empathy helps too. My first lover thought I was fairly experienced already and was surprised when I later worked up the nerve to tell her it was my first time - of course, my being 22 might have had something to do with that as well.
In my teen years there was a novel I read that had some beautiful sex scenes in it, which I memorized for later use. The book was written by a woman, which may have contributed to its usefulness. It very poetically described where everything was and how it was used.
Since our former president changed the definition, now I can only claim two lovers. Jerk.
The first didn’t teach me a dam’ thing, other than what a real, live nekkid woman looked like.
The second has taught me everything else. And I’m still learning.
F’rinstance, I learned my now-patented Gentle Touch[sup]TM[/sup] technique and how to apply it all over her skin. I’ve also learned the secret to reading and understanding verbal and non-verbal cues.
My favorite and most recent lesson is consistency. That is, when something you do gets a good response, by God keep doing it! Until she asks you to stop, or pushes your head away…
Penthouse Forum and my martial arts instructor.
Before ye ask, I didn’t have sex with my martial arts instructor. Instead, he taught me acupressure and therapeutic massage. Turns out it was easily adaptable to the sensual.
Sua
Well, I’m saving myself, so I…
Hey! Quit laughing!
Okay, so let’s say, hypothetically, that I’ve had sex. I do what feels good, but I also ask my partner what feels good to her. If you’re going to be sharing something as intimate as sex, or even if it’s just a “fuck,” you should be able to ask each other if they are at least enjoying themselves, rather than just hanging on for the ride or waiting until it’s over.
Starting with kissing, I have no idea where I “learned” it, or if I did at all, but I think women I’ve kissed would agree that I’m a teasing kisser. I’ve gotten smiles and laughs (good things, in this case) so that goes to reinforce the technique. Actually, I don’t like the word “technique,” it sounds too contrived. Style, preference or method, perhaps, but not technique.
So, next: I love giving oral, and most women (you know, the hundred or so I’ve been with) are vocal enough to point out a specific spot, slow you down or speed you up when the time and sensations are right. After one or two good partners, you start to pick up on sensations and body movements and you may be able to, or start to learn to, anticipate the move, gesture or pressure that will fly them to the moon, so to speak.
As for sex, the same applies. You have to learn to almost disassociate yourself from the feelings you have and are having and notice, rather, pay strict attention to your partner. Their body, if not they themselves, will show you what to do, if you only listen. IMO.
Where did I learn [my] technique? From every partner I’ve ever had.
Well, there was the girl I dated when I was 18–Brazilian dancer. Taught me about how the women get involved too. The girl i dated after that taught me about persistence in oral sex (giving and receiving) and finally the girl i dated before my wife let me explore every single thing I had ever heard about or read about. My wife was VERY pleased with the results when we started dating.
I learned from my first ‘rea’ girlfriend for any length of time. Karen was much older than I (I was 17 she was 44 when we met) and she taught me the majority of what I know now. Since her I have learned from a varity of people, books, and movies.
Hmmm. Primarily common sense, I think.
It is easy with someone of the same gender. You know what they say about gay sex…
As for the opposite gender…Hmmm. Experimentation and open conversation. And lots of fantasizing…
Fumbling around in the dark with a girlfriend, watching som porn movies and reading Cosmopolitan. Watching the girl what makes her feel good and keep at it slowly of course.