Your sexual technique, that is! 
I was talking with a friend in ICQ and this question came up.
Where did you learn your sexual technique and if you want to improve it, what do you do?
I’ll admit, I never had a teacher. I was just a fumble-fingered young man who picked up styles and techniques from various one-night stands (this was back in the “Old Days” before the AIDS epidemic started ;)).
So, where did you learn yours and what would you do to improve it?
My very first lover was a very patient teacher, bless his heart. Most everything I learned from him and have just added to it over the years.
If I want to try something new I would just do it. It’s convienant having a steady guy and / or girl for things like that.
If you want to improve, you have to practice, baby, practice.
My girlfriend. She doesn’t just let me flail away at her in the dark, but tells me how what I can do to make it better.
there’s a technique to this? geez i wish i’d known that!!
seriously?
cosmo
no, you ask if they have favourite thing and then you do that until they beg for mercy!!
sorry, i honestly couldn’t think of a serious answer for this.
The second man I slept with.
Patient and experimental. He taught me that sex could be fun and enjoyable. He really opened my horizons and I still get a tingle when I talk to him to this day.
From a very patient older woman.
She taught me to do things to a woman that would curl their toes and make their eyes roll.
And then to do it veeeeeeerrrryyyyyy slooooooooooowwwwwwwly.
Technique for what?
Every lover I’ve had has taught me something, whether it’s a technique for giving, receiving, or just appreciating something new.
I’ve only had a handful of different partners (that I’ve slept with more than once, that is), so I still learn something from every partner. There was a period of a few years where I slept with a string of different lovers, just once each, and that actually set me back emotionally. I’m just not that kind of person… so I guess, collectively, they did teach me something.
Yes, some lovers have taught me more than others - especially the first older woman I dated. She wasn’t pedantic, she was just the first woman I slept with who wasn’t afraid to provide explicit feedback, and thought it was cute when I fumbled around…
My current lover has taught me that my refractory period isn’t nearly as long as I thought it was (or maybe it’s become shorter). If you want details, start another thread.
**bughunter wrote:
Technique for what?
Every lover I’ve had has taught me something, whether it’s a technique for giving, receiving, or just appreciating something new**
Just like I said in the OP, your technique for having sex. Was it a more experienced partner? A class you took, one of those self-improvement courses being offered? A book? A combination of all of those or something I’ve not listed?
I was my husband’s first and only, and he was mine. We just fumbled around a lot until we figured out what we both liked.
Everything I ever need to know I learned in Kindergarden.
Gekiganger-was that YOU!? I KNEW that my first time was in Kindergarten…
coughs Anyway. A few one-night stands, several boyfriends and a recurring visitor taught me much I did not know before.
Books are funny…Idiots Guide to Sex, etc are amusing.
Magazines like Cosmo, etc. are very explicit about what to get what you want and often include “Guidebook to a Man” and shit like that. I wouldn’t say that I’ve exactly taken these home and memorized them, but sometimes things stick in your head.
I think most people experiment and blunder through by trial and error.
I don’t know where I learned to pay attention to whomever is talking, but that would be the right place to look.
Your partner, whether verbally or physically, will let you know what to do. If my technique is defined by playing to those signals, so be it. I’m not the world’s greatest lover, I’m sure. But, I want to be the right one.
come on, fess up, you all learned stuff from watching porn.
Now now, Chas.E some of us actually got some tail in our teens.
He was talking about sex with people, Merc, not capybaras.
[sub]Newbies these days, I swear . . . [/sub]
I’m sorry, but that’s hillarious
— G. Raven
Some are born great, some achieve greatness, some have greatness thrust into them. I’m the first two. The key word is practice; it’s the same way I got to Carnegie Hall.
All jocks ever think about is sports. All I ever thought about was sex.
That and a lot of Showtime growing up. 
The main lesson I learned was to pay attention to what she really wants, not what I thought she wanted.
I learned about the clitoris early. From then on it was all clitoral-based improvisation.
Ah…heheh…heh…hey wishbone, how you doin’?