Yeah, but they’re your little people, to [del]warp[/del] mold in whatever way you think is cool. Anyway, far be it from me to talk anyone into having kids! If you don’t want any, I’ll take your word for it.
Perhaps that was the case when they were nothing but poop factories for me, but you know what? My kids have great personalities. They’re really neat people. I love them each for their own merit as well as for the fact that they came from my own body. If I were to meet either of them as from another mother, I would very likely adore them, perhaps not as much as I do now, but definitely close. I guess you could say that not only do I love my kids as nature would have me, but I like them, too.
And to be honest, I don’t recall choosing to love my husband. It just happened. I choose to be with him. I choose to be monogamous with him, but I don’t choose to love him. YMMV.
Hee hee. 
I don’t think you can change their basic personalities, but you can teach them silly things, sure.
We’ll see what the future brings. With my girlfriend it might be doable for me, since I can be like the dad and earn the money needed to let her stay at home when they’re below school age. I just don’t have the skillset to be a full time mom myself…I know I would do something wrong and the kid would need therapy for 84 years. It’s too much pressure. 