Who here is single and hating it?

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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Single, not hating it, but not loving it.

I certainly enjoy dating, but I’m just not into the bar-hopping scene and work and my the local haunt offer nothing. I’m really not even looking, here.

Luckily, there is someone whom I’m kinda fond of and we’ve been able to sort of build a beginning. Nothing too much, we’re growing, seeing what happens and all that, but she’s pretty…well, she’s a good egg. :slight_smile:

My problem is distance. The last few women I’ve actually dated have lived >100 miles away. When I was in Toledo, she was in Cleveland. When I was in NC, she was, well, okay, she was only 40 miles away. Here in Louisville, I’ve driven 300 miles in to bring a sick girl some soup. So, of course, now I’m looking at 380 miles and thinking “Fneh, piece of cake!”

Being single sucks if you are stuck thinking you have to be with someone. Having single friends certainly helps, though. Nothing worse than being surrounded by all your married friends all the time.

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I am 28 and single… I do revel in the freedom, but do miss having someone in my life at times… sometimes I seriously wonder if I will ever meet anyone… who knows? There are perks to being single and being attached. It sucks when all of your friends have SO’s though and you don’t! You get to watch them kiss, hug, go on trips together, all that good stuff while you decide if you’ll have pop or milk with your leftovers tonight.

I guess being dumped has left a bad taste in my mouth maybe… although it would be nice to have someone to kiss goodnight to sniff sniff

:slight_smile:

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I’ve been on-and-off single most of my life. I’ve had relationships, but none that lasted longer than 5 or 6 months. Nothing serious. No one I would ever marry.

I tend to like being single. My two most favorite things to do are read and write, and those are solitary activities. I enjoy, mostly, the time I spend alone, because I like myself and my company.

However, I have this vision that hopefully one day will come true: laying in bed, early morning, reading by sunlight. I look over and see the person next to me whom I absolutely adore, and he’s awake too. I say, “Listen to this,” and read him some poem or paragraph that I think is lovely. And he just listens and smiles when I’m done.

That’s all. I just wish I had someone to share that with.

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That’s beautiful, Sara. I’m all ears. :slight_smile: [sub]and smiling[/sub]

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Now, wait a minute Michelle. What do you mean you’ve never had a relationship? I remember being one of many on this board to console you because you dumped a boyfriend for being insensitive about your animals. True, he sounded like a jerk, but how was that not a relationship? Besides that, your combined beauty and great personality have garnered you multiple Doper proposals from around the country.

BTW, if you’re ever in San Diego …

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No real sympathy for someone who’d cheat with a married woman. Was this covered in some other thread?

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So that’s where that dream went. I had wondered why it was gone. Glad to know it found a happy home.

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Huh. Incredibly shy in real life…and I have all these guys on the SDMB panting after me. (Well, they haven’t seen me in person)…well, hey-I had the hump corrected.

:smiley:

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If I pant harder, will you send me a picture?:slight_smile:

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After seeing how society is falling
apart, after the whole dating rat
race, people’s expecting all this
rubbish from me wishing me to
be someone I cannot be, I said
heck with it all.

Relationships have been nothing
but trouble, fighting, screaming,
crying, sadness, depression,
its not worth it to me.

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Single… and begining to hate it.

After a broken marriage (ugly) and an end of a 4 year relationship (mutual, still friends). I decided to take some time off from personal stuff, and concentrate on other things, such as career. Went better than I could possibly hope for. Got a great job doing things I love, got all the toys I wanted (not many, a nice PC, nice car, motorcycle).

But…

I found myself looking at the online dating sites, almost always avoiding any outing with friends that involved SO’s, that kinda thing. God help me, I actually started looking in the bars. Never found anyone, and my job (which I do still love) puts me on the road quite a bit as well, which can make it harder. What few dates I had never seemed to go well, and so forth. Then I realized there was someone I would really like to know better and explore a relationship with, but she’s been burned a few times and is not sure she wants to get into another one. So I’m letting it lie for now, waiting for her to decide. Which is driving me absolutely bonkers, making everything bad about being single even worse.

So, while I enjoyed being single for awhile, I have to say for myself extended singledom, well, sucks.

Superdude, having been on the other end of what it sounds like was happening (wife eventually left me for him) I can’t condone that kind of relationship, it still hurts to think about it, but you still have my sympathy. Pain is pain, no matter my personal judgement on the type of relationship, losing one you care for is never easy.

Nacho4Sara, beautiful, absolutely beautiful vision, brings a pleasant peace of mind to this newbie, and hope too…

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Hey, now…I saw your picture on the SDMB People Pages, and I’d hit on you in a second.

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::There is nothing wrong with this thread. Do not attempt to adjust your monitor. I am now controlling the transmission. Consider this thread hijacked::

::snickt:: Hear that? That, my friends, is the unsheathing of very sharp kitty claws. Please move to the side if you’d like to avoid having to get nasty bloodstains out of your clothes.

I would like to draw your attention to the following quote:

Oh, very good. Very, very good. Is it comfy up there on your high horse? See, cause down here, where the rest of us live, it’s customary to not judge a person who is in pain. Rather, we offer empathy and support. Regardless of whether you agree with Superdude’s actions, the fact that he is a human being- and IMNSHO a rather spectacular one at that- who has been hurt calls for sensitivity, not pathetic attempts at sniping.

I admit I’m biased here. I’ve never met Supe IRL, but I’ve corresponded with him via email for some time, and honestly I absolutely adore him. He’s fun, he’s witty, and he’s a true friend. I was happy that he was happy… then and now I didn’t care where he took that happiness from. I’m hurting now because he’s hurting, and I’m keeping everything crossed that I can that he finds someone who can see him the way that I and just about everyone else here on the boards do, and love him for it. In your most vivid imaginings, you could never be one tenth the man that Supe is. Perhaps that’s why you felt the overwhelming need to strike out at him.

Actually, could you tell me exactly what your motivation for posting here was? If it was to point out your complete lack of humanity and social skills, you’ve done a wonderful job. You know, there are a few grief/loss posts floating about right now… may I suggest you pop in there and offer your unique brand of support? Everyone should experience getting kicked while they’re down.

Oh, and you want to discuss this further, may I suggest the Pit. I’ll be happy to join you there, where I can really let you know what I think of you.

Schmuck.

::we now return you to your regularly scheduled thread::

-BK

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Whoa! Just clicked the link. Glad I gave her that big ol’ smooch. . .

Hehehehe.

Zap!

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**tallinu ** writes,

Don’t let it stress you out so much. She’ll come around. I had to wait for the Corr-friend to get over his ex before I asked him out.

I actually didn’t mind being single. I got to spend as long as I wanted in the bookstore, not worry about picking my nose in the house :::snicker:::, eat anything I wanted to in bed and not have someone complain about the crumbs, and not have to manage dual finances.

Yeah, it’s worth it not to be, but it’s worth it to be single, too.

Corr, who’s currently fighting with Arctic Raven for closet space

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Thanks, bobkitty. :slight_smile: There just may be some extra gropes in store for you at Bamadope now. :wink:

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w00t!

I wouldn’t hit on you, Guin, but only because I’d be afraid I’d make a fool of myself.

More so than already, anyway:D

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Check your e-mail for an explanation.

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Well, considering my SO and I broke up today again, and he’s supposedly already making new plans, and the guy I like is his best friend and would never even think about dating me, and all of his friends are my friends and will most likely side with him and ditch me, I don’t think I need to be reading this.

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Well, that was after the hump removal, like I said.

:o

(That picture is from last year-and my hair is actually straight).