One was rude, the other one was probably scary for the children in question.
So the guy in my view.
Otara
Well, we’ve been over that, and don’t agree, so let’s get back on topic.
For me the point of going to the cinema is the shared experience. I’ve been at movies where total strangers have started talking to me. I’ve even traded MSNs with row buddies once or twice.
I can watch a movie at home if I want total control over the venue. The cinema is a social thing.
Here is a new thread on the topic. I’m genuinely curious about your opinion so if you wouldn’t mind explaining in a bit more detail there, it would be much appreciated.[/derail]
“It’s a social thing” doesn’t mean anyone can do what they please regardless of how it affects others. If anything, being in public means that everyone needs to try harder to be on their best behavior. (Would you bring a radio to a movie? Why not? It’s a social thing and you and your friends might want to hear some music.)
Put another way, being in public doesn’t mean that the space is yours and everyone gets to be there; it means the space is everyone’s and you get to be there. You can watch a movie at home if you want to be able to talk to friends during the movie. The cinema is a public place so don’t be a nuisance. When your behavior prioritizes yourself over the dozens of people around you, you are behaving badly. The fact that strangers have spoken to you at a movie in the past is irrelevant. The fact that some people do things they shouldn’t doesn’t make it acceptable.
The people in the OP’s story were putting their own desires above others’ by either talking during a movie loudly enough for others to be disturbed or by swearing at others in front of children. As far as I’m concerned, they were both behaving badly given the public setting.
LOL, this is a great poll.
It’s 49.1% him and 50.9% them.
But I’ll add this: the women are why I never go to the movies any more–not him. I’d go more often if the theater were filled with guys like him.
I say definitely the guy. If he was a man and not a wuss, he’d have told them to be quiet during the movie. As it is his behaviour has not been noble - it’s either been to look manly in front of his date (in which case I predict he failed massively) or out of genuine irritation but he was afraid of what two mothers and their pre teen daughters would do to him!
By the way, races and location were not mentioned in the OP, and that is hugely relevant. In many countries it’s totally acceptable to make loads of noise when watching the movie, to basically provide feedback as if it were a pantomine… clap at the good bits, boo the baddies, and so on. I assume from the OP that where this happened that kinda behaviour has lesser acceptability, but that’s not to say the loudies knew that.
You didn’t answer my question.
Missed edit window. I asked what you would consider rude behavior in a theatre; not your opinion on what other people commonly consider to be rude.
Assuming they really were talking during the movie, I’d have to say both sides were close to equal in jerkishness.
I don’t think there is a place on Earth you are more likely to participate in/witness a confrontation with strangers than the movie theater.
the guy wasn’t being very tactful, and should have mentioned it to the ladies during the movie.
OTOH - death is the only possible solution for people that talk during movies.
Well we already know that the ladies are going to the special hell.
I’m going to second this (or third or fourth or whatever it is now).
As well as being dirty, it’s annoying for a number of reasons.
e.g. You can tell when someone on the row behind has their feet up, even if they’re not directly behind you, as you can feel every time they adjust their leg configuration (seats aren’t designed for resting things on the top of the backrest, or have forces pushing the backrest forwards).
Yeah, feet on seats in really oafish behaviour. Always.
I can top that. Years ago, I was in the Village on Clark watching something when someone came in well after the movie had started. I was the only person in the theater, and I watch as the person stumbles through the darkened aisles. To my amazement, the person selects the same row, and begins moving over. I’m thinking how incredible it is that this person is about to sit in the seat next to the only occupied seat in the entire freaking theater, when he proceeds to scoot over one more seat and start to sit in my lap! Their eyes hadn’t adjusted and they thought the seat was empty - my angry “Are you KIDDING me!” scared the crap of them.
It is incredibly douchey behavior to talk during a movie. An audience member shouldn’t have to ask someone not to talk during a film, it is like having to ask someone not to shit on your sandwich.
There is no scorn or language that is too much for movie talkers. I would support sterilization vans outside of theaters for making quick corrections to our gene pool to fix the movie talker mutation.
I said, “Yes”. Both sides were incredibly rude. I have corrected people for talking in the theatre. What the fuck is wrong with these assholes? To me they are pretty high up on the list of assholes. But he made the disruption even worse.
I also absolutely hate people who think it’s funny to be corrected, like the horrid bitches in Karen Lingel’s post. WHY are you at the movie theatres if you’re just there to talk? Have some respect for other people and watch the goddamn movie at home.
What she did may have been unnecessary, but I don’t see how sitting in the row in front of someone is a real problem unless she was much taller then you. If it bothered you so much and the theater was as empty as you say, then it should have been easy enough for you to have moved.
On the other hand, sitting with your feet up in the chair is a theater rule violation. It’s rude and inconsiderate to everyone that uses that theater.
So sorry, yes. You were the real trouble maker in that situation.
I thought he waited until the movie was over to call the people out for their horrible behavior. That seems pretty consderate to me and he’s doing the world a favor: these talkers will think twice next time. Rude people count on the world not calling them on their bullshit.
Oh, I missed that, sorry.
Some comedian, maybe Zach Galifianakis, does a funny bit about this. He says he purposely sits next to the only other person in the theatre and, when they complain, says “Shhhh. I can’t hear Keanu.”
One of the Scary Movies also does a funny bit about the girl talking loudly while watching the movie. Everybody, including nuns, takes turns stabbing her.