Yes, it’s widely accepted that husbands cheat more than wives. But I’ve heard that this is a myth. I KNOW I’ve seen more than one proof of this. But I can’t seem to find unbiased statistics on that. I’ve found plenty of statistics that show men cheat more, but I find myself doubting the statistics themselves because #1 many are admitted guesses #2 they are ALLLLL over the place: saying that from 15% to 70% of wives commit adultery. I mean, come on! How can I believe ANY statistic with a standard deviation that high!
Does anybody have a RELIABLE statistic about the percentages of husbands and wives who cheat?
It seems like the statistics I’ve seen imply that women cheat as much as men, not more than men. Of course, getting reliable statistics about infidelity is damn near impossible, because so many people lie about it.
The stats ive heard are closer, but probably as much guess as anything else. The one that comes to mind said 30% of wives, 50% of husbands.
I wonder how long it will take for someone to bring up a question about the definition of cheating and mention clinton.
All of those husbands are cheating with someone. I bet the real numbers are pretty close. There probably isn’t a good way to get a GQ type answer to this.
Those someone’s don’t have to be married women. They could be single women. Also, there are probably some real ho’s out there that rack up multiple married men. Then, there are hookers.
Is a guy cheating if he hooks up with a married woman? If so, then the marriage part of the equation gets even more complex. If the question is what percent of men or women have been part of extra-marital affrairs, you get a different set of answers. Still, self reports on this one will be unreliable, we agree.
Yeah, I was hoping for something along the lines of actual statistics like divorce records in which one party divorces the other for infidelity. Something that should be able to be quantified. I can’t find any such records.
So if she doesn’t charge, then it’s not adultery? What if the husband boinks the 18 year old baby sitter? He’s paying her, but not for sex. Maybe he pays her an extra dollar for the fringe benefits. That would make her a prostitute, wouldn’t it? So then it’s not cheating? What if he payed a classy prostitute in Vegas $10,000? Now is it not cheating?
I know you were just joking, but really. The joke really didn’t make much sense. Sex is sex. If you don’t pay for sex, it’s still sex. If you do pay for sex, it’s still sex.
A married guy is cheating if the married woman he has sex with is not his wife.
I don’t see any distinction between ‘cheating’ and ‘extra marital affairs’, unless we want to breach the topic of open marriage and create, to no discernable end, the subset of extra marital sex that is not cheating. The point being the non-involved spouse is giving consent to the affair, thus it’s not considered cheating.
Far be it for me to question a mod, but I WAS asking for a specific answer. I don’t need opinions here xash, I need a cite. So it belongs in general questions. If there’s no answer, then it should remain unanswered in GQ.
For the purposes of this discussion, a single man having a sexual affair with a married woman is NOT cheating, because he cannot get a divorce. And THAT is what this discussion is searching for, the percentage of men/women that cheat on their OWN spouses.
[Rodney Dangerfield]
I snuck out of the house the other night, when downtown and caught a cab. Take me to where the action is I said. He drove me back to my house.
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That’s pretty typical of what I’ve found: guesses about statistics. They mention Kinsey reports, but being 50-60 years old (20-30 years before the women’s lib movement) you can hardly use them today.
This is way too “apples and oranges” in a way because I think that many times men and women cheat for different reasons. Before there’s a backlash to that statement, I’m just wondering because I want to know why you want to know this…
It’s probably equal with all things considered. . . but I don’t want to make this a whole different topic. . .