Per this article what the heck does “post gay” mean?
My guess is the people who supposedly stop being gay and abandon homosexuality in favor of a “normal” life, through religious programs, things like that?
Means “back in the closet.” One could understand why they wouldn’t celebrate Pride. Makes them feel all oogy in their secret places.
There are also the slews of (mostly female) folks who are bisexual or gay for a while, and then change their minds, and settle down as functional heteros, but still have an affinity for the gay lifestyle.
Hell, that describes 2/3 of the gay friends I had in college.
I googled around and here is what I found It’s gay, but ummm…not…well… “real gay”.
Well, if the old joke is true, “the difference between a straight guy and a gay guy is a six pack of beer”, my guess is that a “post gay” is on his third beer.
So…“Post-Gay” is to “Gay Pride” what “Democrat” is to “took the brown acid, tried to climb onto The Who’s helicopter at Woodstock”? 
Hmmmm, interesting. Not heard that term before but I think it probably describes me.
I’m straight, so this is possibly conjecture more than anything, but I suspect the answer is pretty mundane. I know about “scene” and “non-scene” gay folk, so my wager is that this is not set in stone, and some people progress from “scene” to “non-scene” as a part of growing older. Straight people tend to get boring and suburban post 30 or 40, so why not gay ones?
I thought I understood what they meant until they said Anne Heche. I would call her bi or just opportunistic…depending on how you look at it.
I would like to be the definition Astro gave (prior to the quote), but until the struggle is over, such as full marriage rights, I really can’t do that.
Ah, yes, the “hasbiens”.
That’s an “ex-gay.”
“Post-gay” is a play on various other “post-fill in the blank” constructions, like “post-feminist” and “post-modern.”
I think those would be “pre gay”. The morning after, they’d be “post gay”.
So what the heck is a “banji boy”? (afraid to google it at work…)
Shouldn’t that be a “denial-gay”?
I’m pretty sure the APNA laid the “gay cure” idea to rest…
It describes me as well. While I am a man attracted to men exclusively, I don’t feel any kind of affinity with gay culture, and my being gay isn’t a big way in which I define myself either socially or politically. In fact, I don’t think of myself as “gay” at all.
It has absolutely nothing to do with being in denial or pretending to have been “cured.” It’s a way of reacting to the fact that one is attracted to people of the same sex that is different from what we’d normally think of as embracing the gay community or whatever. I think the “going to a gay bar and wishing there were girls to talk to,” is a good definition. I rarely go to gay bars, and when I do it feels about as strange to me as if I were going to a bar exclusively for left-handed people. For me it’s something like going to a Pride parade and feeling as though it has absolutely nothing to do with me.
It’s not an age thing, either. I’m 24, and I’ve felt this way since I was around 20 - 21.
Quite - I’m only 29 myself.
I only knew the last London Pride was happening because I happened to stumble across it whilst walking through Soho. My reaction was “Oh man did it have to be today? It’s going to take ages to get to Tottenham Court Road through all these idiots”.
I’ve heard it used to define 20-somethings who are basically bi by default and couldn’t care less about who is and isn’t a homosexual.
Then why not just call them bi? Good grief we complicate everything needlessly don’t we? (We as in the general we)
Banjee Boy, a phrase that originated at least in the early 80s.
See related terms such as* homo thug * and gayngsta.
All this pre-gay, post-gay, ante-gay, whatever bullshit just cements my belief that we should agree on four categories:
- Likes cock
- Likes pussy
- Likes cock and pussy
- Doesn’t care for either cock or pussy
Ever so much simpler than all this philosophical bullshit.