I’m not upset, but I think you misinterpret what some of us (especially the women who have never had a serious relationship) are trying to say.
I would say your description of yourself applies to me almost completely…except that I have never been in a serious relationship.
And my attitude about that is that I’m happy and going about my life without it, but am expressing the desire to find out what it’s like to have an SO and be in love at least once in my life. And I think that’s normal.
26 yo. Been single for over 5 years. Haven’t even had a date. Been nearly 9 years since I have had sex (yep, I was 17) and I don’t really care anymore. Tried all the dating services, bars, clubs, blind dates, etc. Nadda.
One good thing has come of it though. I have developed a very ambitious attitude. I actually have goals in life, plans to fullfill, places to see and things to learn. Instead of getting laid being primary, I have my education to think of. I no longer drink, smoke, I run several times a week, lift weights and eat healthy. (most of the time anyhow)
I think things have come full circle. Instead of complacentcy with one I “love” I have developed into what I am now- and plan on growing even further.
I guess you could say that my single streak has made me pickier than ever instead of desperate. Intelligent, ambitious, outgoing, athletic, yet know how to have fun, but most of all responsible. Yeah, thats going to happen. Not going to settle (or jump into the next person’s arms that comes along) for just anything, and it certainly will not bother me to be single all my life. Sex is so overrated. (ok, so I have nearly forgotten HOW it is rated 
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I’ll consider that. I’m always up for a bit of reading. 
Now THAT is an excellent suggestion!
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I didn’t write much yesterday, but after posting and reading some of the other comments, I’ve been thinking a bit about this. I remember a conversation I had with my sister when we were 17 and 19:
Sister: "Well, at least I have a boyfriend!
Me: So?
Which stopped the conversation dead. She simply could not understand that I didn’t have any interest in getting a man. 20 years later, she still doesn’t. Neither does most of my family; I’m the only woman over 25 who has not ever been married and has no intention of being so (except for one great-aunt, a nun). I think most of them assume I’m gay, which makes family reunions entertaining, but at least no one tries to fix me up anymore. Some of my friends, on the other hand, have not given up.
It’s difficult to make them understand I’m just not interested in being married or otherwise having a man around the house, without sounding like I’m somehow insulting their own choices. I’m not; if that’s what someone else wants, good for them. It’s just that I’ve always known it’s not for me. As I said yesterday, I’m happy with my life as it is and I’m pretty well set in my ways by this point.
For whatever my humble opinion is worth, you are a wise young person (are you male or female?)says a 50 yr old geezer.
Wise, wise, wise! I like this Eve girl.
What’s the point? The only reason I drink, run or lift weights is to attract girls so I can get laid. The only reason I even work is to have money to get laid (so I can go out and meet women, not topay prostitutes). Shit…the most important thing I look for in a job is how hot and single my coworkers are (of course I never picked the right company).
Most people like human companionship. Problem is that as you get older, people move away, they get married, and so on. There’s less people to go out and do stuff with. Being single in your 20s seems fine when you live with six guys and spend every night drinking and playing X-Box. It seems a little lonely when you get older and all your friends are married and gone and you come home to an empty house every night from work with no one to talk to:( .
Of course…whenever my girlfriend mentions the idea of marriage or moving in together, I feel like I just won a free rectal probe with each root canal.
I spend every day, all day, talking and socializing. To me, coming home to an empty house with no one to talk to is sheer heaven.
I’m sorry you feel that way Msmith537. I run, eat healty and lift weights to look good to myself, to feel good, be healthy and have a greater quality of life, and possibly a longer more fullfilling life.
I strive to work so that I can make money on the assumption it will get me the things I want. A new car, a nice house, books, a great computer, trips to Europe, camp, hike, etc. I strive to better myself for the sheer fact that I hate myself as I am. (uneducated, anger problems, etc, NOT hate myself because I am single)
I have lived by myself, with no roommmate for over 5 years now. I don’t play video games, drink or live with 6 guys and I get by just fine. I go out with my friends once in awhile on the weekends, read books and surf the net, but I don’t even watch TV.
I like human companionship, I am no misanthrope, but I don’t NEED companionship. I get plenty in talking and joking with people at school, work, and hanging out with friends and family. The only difference is I don’t have sex. Woopdedoo. 5 mins of pleasure and half my paycheck every week. Yeah, sounds worth it to me.
No thanks, I will spend my money on things that I enjoy, rather than on worthless crap like diamonds and 10 sets of shoes. If I feel the need to have a companion, I will get a dog. If I feel the need to get pleasured… well, there are lots of ways, porn, hookers, one night stands from some bimbo in a bar… Needless to say I am not the type that NEEDS this kind of pleasure. I have gone 9! NINE years without it so far with NO, ZERO, ZIP, side effects. (nine years in three months anyhow) I don’t lament or poke about all depressed because I am a loser. Sorry, I don’t judge my worth on my ability to have to cling to a woman to feel secure.
You find that job that has lots of hot women you will probably never date anyhow (lots of people are actually professional and grown up and don’t date those they work with). I will find that job that pays well, has great vacation and health/dental benifits and a great investment package. Of course you can live up the high life while I spend the next 7 years in college. (of course in your mind I am sure college is only worth something because of all the hot babes)
To each their own I guess.
Well shit, i had no idea i was in good company. Everyone else is so quick to lie about how many members of the opposite sex want them that you think you are the only one w/o many options.
For me, i am 24, and have never had a girlfriend (talking to women on the internet doesn’t count IMO). I am deeply shy and i have a crippling sense of being an inadequate person which pulls me away from women. Plus most women my age get off on talking forever about stuff i find smothering and pointless so i really cannot relate to them. Also, most people my age are already married. Plus i had some mental health problems years ago that have given me some baggage. It seems like shyness and low self esteem are a common thread among all of us who expect to be alone for a looong time. That and, to a lesser degree, not being able to relate to people.
So i am more or less in agreement that i will spend the next 5-10 years alone. I can’t say for sure about my life, as i am 24 and will probably live to be 80+, but the next 10 years or so i’m pretty sure there will not be any S.O.
I am 21, single, and have always been so. I can say with near-absolute certainty that I will remain single until I die. I know this because I plan to become a monk after I finish my schooling 
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You do realize that this makes you appear shallower than a puddle in a colander, don’t you?
Hard to imagine, with your attitude, that you have any trouble getting any action…
Oh, I think that’s absolutely normal. I’d like to be in love again - and I think it would be a stronger desire if I had never been in a serious relationship.
At the same time, I realize that if I never fall in romantic love again, I have friends that I love, family that I love and myself that I love and I’m making my life something that I love (I admit to not liking my life for a long time).
At the age of 33, I come home to an empty flat and I can watch whatever TV show I want, cook whenever I want, use the phone line all I want, or do whatever else the hell I want and there’s nobody around to stop me, and far from being lonely I think it’s GREAT!
If I’m feeling the urge to talk to someone, I do have friends I can phone. I don’t need them around me 24/7.
First post!
Eve and [TVeblen** summed it up perfectly for me.
I’m happily divorced, happily single, and I have every intention of staying that way. I have friends and family that I love dearly and supply me with all the socialization I want.
But at the end of the day, when I go home to my quiet house, I LOVE it!! I have everything I want and need, and I like my life just the way it is. Why rock the boat?
God I WISH I was single. Or had had the common sense to say “leave us the hell alone” to my future mum in law. If I could support my son and me without Mr. whiny depression why cant I have everything I want right fuckin now by myself I sure as hell would! sigh
Just a rum tum tugger I guess…
Cherish your money, your time and your bills … be glad you arent payin someone elses, well other than the federal government’s bills of course
me too… I dont want to be disabled at 55 and dead at 60 like my mom. I get an intense feeling of satisfaction each time I add more weight to the bar. Who cares if my body shape makes others happy or not?