why am I talking to this guy? warning: introspective ramble

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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For some odd reason I decided to im the guy who inadvertently got me into this predicament in the first place.

But yeah I do know why I am talking to him, and also why it feels oddly comforting. Because he got me into this in the first place, so he understands.

Once upon a time there was this guy who was going to be my roommate. and we liked eachother, and then he admitted he still liked someone else and then he wasnt even moving and wasnt going to be my roommate.

He stuck me in a really bad spot, broke my heart, left me with a deadline to move out and nowhere to go. I hated him. I went online. I met the guy that now is my husband.

Ever talk to an ex bf/gf and find them to be wiser and more understanding than your current SO?

I guess its like that. When I feel trapped and depressed and that my husband doesnt understand I find that this guy does. And when I met my husband it was the exact opposite.

Life is frustrating.

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I don’t think this is an unusual phenomenon. If you start talking to somebody other than the person you talk to every day of your life, it’s bound to at least seem a little “fresher”, and sometimes, yes, you do find other people who “get” you, or at least have personal experiences that more closely parallel your own, and that gives you some common ground.

I don’t think it’s a bad thing, I suppose it would be nice if everyone had a “soulmate” type SO, but we don’t live in fairy-tale land (I don’t, anyway).

It happens, I wouldn’t be concerned with the occurance based on the information given so far.

What I will say, however, is that you sound both depressed and guilty. Maybe I’m misreading your post, maybe not. At the risk of sounding cliche, tackle those problems before you start worrying about what may be a largely superficial concern.