This shit pisses me off….I can’t help that I am a independent women, and not some whiney, worthless bitch with no confidence in her self….but because I am Independent….Men are scared off, or Just Plain Leave.
It’s not my fault I had to practically raise myself, and my siblings. It’s not my fault that I am mature, and take life seriously…It’s not my fault I know that I can take care of myself…with or without a MAN!! That I have confidence in myself. But some men get all “YOU DON’T NEED ME” ………so I will find some girl that does.
Well let me tell you that is Bullshit….eventually you will get sick of being NEEDED all the damn time…and want to get out of that too…
I am so sick of men leaving a GOOD women, cause she doesn’t NEED him, we all need each other….but I am not going to lay down and cry and depend on ANY MAN completely. I can’t.
These women that DO, what the hell is wrong with you??? You seriously need to get a backbone, and a life….a MAN is not EVERYTHING, honestly you can screw in a light bulb without HIM!
Sorry if I sound a little bitter right now…I am not! I love Men and look forward to finding another Good one, someday! One that can deal with my Independence.
It all depends on the man. You need a secure individual who is at home in his own skin and will not be intimidated by your successes. I had a friend who worked as an ad sales. His wife was a highly paid pediatrician, and the pride he took in her hard work and accomplishments warmed my heart.
Good luck, Truth. He’s out there, and you will find him. Maybe you need to start looking at professional men…doctors, lawyers, executives, etc.
I am a man. I am strong of opinion, confident of myself, and think I’m pretty damned good-looking. I am married to a woman, who though less educated than I is far more successful. She is strong, confident, capable, and pretty damned good-looking.
Of all the arguments and all the “discussions” we’ve had over the last 13-odd years together, her success has never–not once–come up as a bone of contention. Her desire to be self-sufficient, her wish to be completely independent of me, however, has.
I look at it this way: we are married and we share one life. I understand that in our era and generation there are career pressures and I understand that as a woman she has far more pressure on her than I do as a man. But she’s also a wife and mother, and those duties supercede what her boss wants. In return, I try to keep in mind that I’m a husband and father first, and a worker-bee second.
I don’t know if this applies to your situation or not, Truth, and I don’t even know if it’s coherent. But he wants to be needed as much as he needs you.
So how did you exhibit that you didn’t need him? What did he want you to do differently? Did you make him feel important, and cherished? What specific behaviors of yours made him feel unnecessary in your life? Did you belittle his efforts? We need some specifics here so that we can all learn.
Hey, I’m a man, and I love independent women. Independent, self-sufficient, confident, knows what she wants and how to get it. Independent women rock my world.
Women who make bad dating choices and blame it on broad, gender-based generalizations I could do without, though.
Hmm. That is troubling. Because I always thought most men wanted to not have to pamper their women because men are stupid, can’t take care of children, match their own clothes, understand social niceties, or use the toilet properly. Isn’t that what TV tells me? God, if it weren’t for INDEPENDENT WOMEN we would all have died from eating moldy hot dogs or blown ourselves up from trying to incompetently microwave said moldy hot dogs.
I have never met a woman, ever, who couldn’t take care of herself without a man. Only women who said they couldn’t, and women who boasted they could. Neither are very fun to be with.
Don’t you mean you are sick of MEN leaving YOU because you DON’T need [them]? As you say, we all need each other.
What do you want from a man that you can’t fulfill yourself? Obviously you NEED that or you wouldn’t be here BITCHING. Sorry to sound so harsh, I’ve been single for longer than I care to remember so I haven’t much room to talk, as they say.
Oh, I think they have dealt with your INDEPENDENCE alright. That’s why they left. Soon you will come to terms with (little ‘i’) independence and all will be right with the world.
Damn straight. There’s independence…and there’s being able to manipulate a guy into pleeeease killing the scary roach who’s eyeballing me every time I try to go into the bathroom.
ellipses…
they’re not just for poetry…
anymore.
Speaking on behalf of independent, mature women who can screw in lightbulbs AND love and cherish men…
shut up…
Wasn’t “Independent Women” on the soundtrack to the Charlie’s Angels monstrosity?
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The shoes on my feet, I’ve bought it. The clothes I’m wearing, I’ve bought it. The rock I’m rockin’ ‘Cause I depend on me. If I wanted the watch you’re wearin’ I’ll buy it. The house I live in, I’ve bought it. The car I’m driving, I’ve bought it. I depend on me
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Truth–a word of advice. Considering the recent threads you’ve started about the situationyou were in, it’s probably not very prudent to waggle that finger at other women and yell at them to “get a backbone and a life”. Seems someone who’s been there would be a tad more sensitive, eh? And maybe base her criticisms of past relationships on the fact that she chose shitty men, and not just that she chose men.
If it weren’t for the men in our lives, who would kill the icky bugs, take out the trash, and give me hours upon hours of fantastic sex whenever I ask?
I’ll agree with a few points. Women, learn to do the simple things: Check your oil, change a tire, jump a car, hook up a VCR or DVD player, do basic computer maintainence. My sisters are both “I can’t do that, I have to have my S.O. take care of it” and “Math is HARD!”. Come on now, suck it up a notch, pull your head out of your ass, and don’t stand there wringing your hands in an emergency. You don’t need a penis to fix things, hang pictures, or hook up electronics.
Now to the OP: Your personality, as it is presented here, totally sucks. It’s not your independence, it’s your attitude. Lighten up a bit.
There’s independence…and there’s being able to manipulate a guy into pleeeease killing the scary roach who’s eyeballing me every time I try to go into the bathroom.