A child’s death, even if the child is an adult, is emotionally devastating. How long ago did your brother die? Nonetheless, it can be extremely difficult when you have to parent your parent.
My mother is extremely petty too. She’s 77 and she never stops whinging about stuff, you’d swear she was born in a palace with a silver spoon in her mouth and it all went downhill from there. Far from it, she was born in a house in the middle of nowhere, no heat, light or running water … and now she has all of these things and more, but still she moans. I gather from her most frequent gripes that getting married and having children completely screws you up … some people are just born moaners
It was last year. The situation with my mom was already in place by then though.
Sadly I’ve become rather desensitized to the whole thing to to mind numbing repetition of my mom’s reactions to it.
You’re living my life! I swear! My mom is just like yours. I can’t stand to be around her or talk to her for long periods of time or I get depressed that she won’t take my advice or my support.
'Life is a bitch and then you die" is her creedo! It’s tearing me up inside and if I try to talk to her about problems I may be having with my daughter’s diagnosis and treatment (autism), she just flips the conversation to herself again and doesn’t seem to listen. Only her life matters, only her petty insecurities are allowed to be discussed.
I have tried all the hypothetical and rhetorical pondering with her but she just doesn’t hear it. My mother is highly spoiled, she may lose her house because she won’t work for anyone else and has a tiny income she gets from her own mother (my mom is 57). She shops so much, too, for all the useless crap that clutters her house that she won’t dust. She won’t take the time out of her “busy” schedule to clean her house and so I won’t visit. I don’t want my daughter in that environment.
Her “schedule” keeps her from concentrating on things that really matter. I’d be devastated if she lost her house. It’s a sick and endless cycle she’s trapped in but she did it to herself. She won’t try to help herself at all.
I’m sooo glad to hear I’m not the only one who suffers from having a strange mother
I’m a relatively easy-going person. Not a lot of things that happen in my life bother me; my most characteristic expression is “Well, you can’t have everything.” Nevertheless, sometimes I can’t help but get upset by stupid little shit. I try not to let it happen too much but it still does. Oh, well.