And what did you think about it? Correct me if I’m wrong, but from what I’ve seen & heard most people percieve dating as a way to meet a Mr./Mrs. Right – although most of them turn out (hopefully) to be just friends. Is there any way to ‘non-date’ where you meet just friends without the meat-market activity of the search for Mr./Mrs. Right?
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After being married for 8 years, and now divorced for two, seems like I STILL can’t get the knack for ‘casual dating’!
I am confused. Why would you “non-date” if you are looking for someone? To go out just to hang with friends isn’t dating…
I’m confused too. I thought the purpose of dating was to get laid.
Not looking for someone - at least not in the sense of Mr./Mrs. Right! (not right now, anyhow)
–somehow ‘How Now Brown Cow’ is going through my brain–
I was just wondering what the SDMBers thought about dating in general. I know women (potentially inflammatory statements to follow) who date specifically to get ‘free’ things (dinners, gifts, etc.) and I know men who date specifically to get ‘free’ things (sex, sex, etc.).
I also know both women and men who are dating looking for a spouse.
Maybe my thread Q should have been the best/worst date motivator! 
Right now, for me, dating is not about meeting someone who I want to marry. It’s about getting to know someone better, becoming friends with the potential for sex (or not). It’s hanging out more than the traditional “dating” type thing - extremely casual, usually without a plan for the date in mind. Yeah, sometimes there’s a traditional type “dinner, movie” date thing, but rarely.
I don’t ever recall dating to meet someone. Always thought the premise was that you’d already met someone, and wanted to get to know them better. Sometimes in the biblical sense. In fact, meeting someone while on a date is usually considered tremendously bad form.
So, back to the OP, I used dating as a way to get to know more about a person and hopefully have a good time doing so.
I just started dating, well not really but I’d like too but havent figured out how to start dating per say either. I realize that doesnt make sense at all.
I want to date.
I havent dated yet.
I dont know how to date.
But I will eventually. And I dont have anything in mind except meeting some new friends maybe, doing some fun things. I think I should get out more to accomplish this.
I’ve been dating regularly for the last 15 years or so. It’s how I meet people, get to know new people and start new relationships. It can also lead to sex, long-term relationships or nothing at all. That is what makes it so much fun; never knowing what is going to happen on a date.
You and me both. But (I first spelled that as “Nut” - Freudian slip?) we luckily have people (couldn’t work out the gender) like CasperQ:
who are on to us in a second. Happy hunting my friends.
It’s easier for me if I don’t label persons or events. So, I don’t call it a date. We just have fun & that’s it. Did they ever call ‘dating’ courtship?
Handy, because courting was a ritual of sorts performed between ‘nobles’ back in the good old days (plague,crusades,famine,burning of witches/catholics), between members of the royal courts.
Thus courting and courtship.
These are the same people who blamed birds for the spread of ‘thrush’
Oh, no, I still believe in Santa Claus and Cinderella! I’d never detect such delightfully nefarious intentions. Those males have TOLD me that’s why they date. <shrugs> But hey, at least they’re honest! :rolleyes:
[sub]“Why do (did) you date?”[/sub]
Well I dated because usually when I met a girl that I liked, I’d ask her out. Out on a date, ya’ know. So’s I could spend time with her. To get to know her, so maybe we could do cool stuff together. And that would be fun. Then we’d spend even more time together, if it kept workin’ out.
Your question is almost too basic to answer!
I should’ve titled the thread ‘Weirdest Date Motivator’ for some that I’ve heard!! So while you might think the Q is too basic to answer (as part of the teeming masses, I object!! :)) my point was that I’d like to date without dating. I also wish to win the lottery and I’d like a teleporter, too, while I’m making my list!