Why do men fall for bimbos?

Miscellaneous and Personal Stuff I Must Share
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See this is what I’m talking about. I’ve been lifting at a gym since I was twelve, and I brew and enjoy my own beer. The biggest guys I know, including some professional bodybuilders, drink beer (though not to excess, true-not enough to get fat). Athena, you are making assumptions about people based on your own preconceived idea of what personality must correspond to what “look”. Go beyond this and realize that personality traits are not always easily connected to looks. Neither is a sexually aggressive or promiscuous looking woman necessarily stupid or foolish. Maybe I’m misunderstanding exactly what you all mean by “bimbo”.

Can’t men can be interested in a woman who at times dresses suggestively AS WELL AS being interested in other aspects of her? We guys want it all (just like you ladies, if you’ll admit it). It’s simply that the sort of displays we’re talking about are immediately obvious and can be evaluated before even “hello”. The rest has to come with time. If we want a thousand things, naturally we gravitate towards those whom we know immediately have at least some of them. Don’t mistake the difference between necessary and sufficient.

But again, I think maybe you are defining “bimbo” differently than I am.

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To Greg:

Both of us often remark on attractive people of the opposite sex. It’s interesting to do at bars, and it allows us to learn what the other person finds attractive. Trust me on this, he is NOT trying to weasel out of this relationship. I could go into details, but suffice to say that we’ve gone through hell and high water to preserve this relationship, and it aint going anywhere.

APB9999:

Hmmmm… you bring up a good point. But yes, I do believe that you can tell some things(not all!) about someone’s personality by how they look. In the postcard example, the man was obviously a professional bodybuilder, and worked damn hard to get his body that way. I feel fairly confident saying that he would not enjoy having a few beers with me 2-3 times a week.

I don’t think a sexually aggresive or promiscuous looking woman is stupid. I’ve been both in my time, and I don’t consider myself stupid. However, you CAN tell a lot from a person by looking at them. How do they carry themselves? Does he/she walk with confidence and smile, or do they shuffle around and avoid eye contact? There’s a ton of things you can pick up from appearance alone.

>>Can’t men can be interested in a woman who at times dresses suggestively AS WELL AS being interested in other aspects of her?

Oh, yes, no question. But I think you can put two women in the same outfit, and most people could easily guess within a few minutes of conversation what socio-economic class they’re in, a general level of intellect, and base personality type. You don’t get to know everything about a person that way, but you can figure out enough to know if you want to date them or not. I think that the original topic of this thread was talking about “bimbos” in the sense of a woman or man who is nothing but looks - no personality, low intellect, etc.

And, btw, I like muscles as much as the next girl. I like men who lift, AND men who can drink beer (jeez, APB, you might be the perfect man!) But, a man or woman who spends all their time worrying about their looks is distasteful to me, and to a lot of other people. I’ve heard a lot of men complain because their mates take an hour to get ready to go to dinner, then spend dinner talking about all the things they can’t eat because they’re on some strange diet. Not for me!

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Okay, if a bimbo is a woman with no brains or personality but good looks, I retract my objections. And I suppose a lot of guys will go for that on occassion, though usually not to start a real relationship, if the people I know are any guide.

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Athena says [q]And, btw, I like muscles as much as the next girl. I like men who lift, AND men who can drink beer [/q]

What if they only lift beer?Some of those kegs can be heavy, but…

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There’s no easy answer to this question. I have been happily married for 17 years (unhappily for 3 – just kidding!) and my attraction to my wife hasn’t changed, even though we have, physically. When we met in college, we were both a lot thinner and in much better shape – hell, we were only 19. Now that we’re 40, and our bodies are heavier, saggier, grayer and more calloused and lumpy, we’re both glad that the physical attraction was not the only thing that brought us together. The fact that we share common interests and genuinely like each other as people still allows us to see the other as the person we married.

On the other hand, physical beauty as an attractant can not be discounted. As noted throughout this thread, men seem to notice and appreciate physical traits more than women – even physical traits of men, and it’s not surprising that they would assume women would be attracted to a well-built man. Men appreciate visual stimuli when it comes to sex, and women don’t (which is why magazines with nekkid ladies in them proliferate and magazines with nekkid men don’t). Maybe we’re just genetically coded to be this way.

I know this to be true in my case. Consider me a pig, figure I’m shallow, whatever. My head will be turned by an attractive woman, and if she’s wearing something revealing or which otherwise showcases her feminine attributes, so much the better. It doesn’t mean I can’t appreciate a woman who has a mind (my wife is smart, funny, well-read, edumacated, etc.). But dammit, I like to see a purty gurl! I don’t necessarily want to reproduce with them, but it’s nice to see beautiful things. Fortunately for me, my wife understands this, is confident that I’ll still be sleeping next to her every night, and is secure enough to actually bird-dog them for me. Not that she sets me up, but she’s not above pointing out a nice-looking girl for me to see.

And Sassy, two things for you to keep in mind:

  1. Everyone knows you’ll sell more goods if you advertise more.

  2. I happen to think women in “professional” or “business” clothing can be extremely attractive…even downright sexy. It’s not just showing some leg or cleavage, it’s a combination of looks, brains, confidence, attitude, etc. that makes a woman sexy. At least to me.

The Dave-Guy
“since my daughter’s only half-Jewish, can she go in up to her knees?” J.H. Marx

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I’m with Dave on this one. You are first attracted to each other by looks and then you discover the contents. If all you have in common is fabulous abs and great hair, well, they are both gonna be gone or gray eventually.

Having common interests and beliefs and a sense of humor is crucial for a relationship to work.

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Any man or woman who “falls” for the bimbo or its male counterpart gets exactly what they deserve. It all comes down to what you value, doesn’t it? Besides, you don’t want any of the guys that are after “bimbos” any way.

My sixteen year-old son has been complaining to me about a friend of his that talks about finding a girl that he can “go out in public with.” Very sad. be mindful about the values you share with your children, since whomever they mate with will be coming over for all the major holidays.

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Men like women with past 'cause they hope history will repeat itself.

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Never mind the bimbos anymore. Why do women fall for charming bums? The musician/artist/wacky enterpreneur/other with no steady income.

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Why not?

Kidding!!! :wink:

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To Sunbear:
I fell for one of those “charming bums,” a musician, in fact. We’ve been married for almost four years. No, he doesn’t have much of an income. But I do. Why do some people think that if the wife works & the husband doesn’t, he’s a leech, but if it’s the other way around, it’s “traditional”? We did not marry for money–we married for love. We’ve got a 2 year old & one on the way. He’s a stay-at-home dad, and he loves it. And I love him for it.

BTW, I bird-dog for him, too…just 'cuz it’s funny. :wink:

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OK,the charming bum has more potential. Guys don’t hook up with bimbos for the long run, at least that’s not the plan.Often there is no plan.
Of course the charming bum may turn out to be someone who later needs a restraininig order.

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Charming bums (or is it bumb) [anyway] are like due to the rescue syndrome.

Women like men who are helpless. Not that I would know.

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Take a good look at your spouse, every characteristic they possess is a reflecetion of what you value, whether you choose to see it or not.
If they are successful and wealthy, don’t kid yourself that’s something you value. If they are a physical trophy, the same applies. We would all love to attribute these things to happenstance, but not so. Similarly, those things that drive you crazy about your partner are actually reflections of issues you have. These are both projections and valuable learning and evolutionary opportunities.
Don’t you find when you meet a couple where one is an intelligent being and the other a beautiful physical speciman, but smart as a bag of hammers, don’t you find that you instinctively jump to the insight that for all their intelligence they have issues, are flawed. I think you’ll agree we all do this.

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Sunbear:

Regarding fat women and skinny men: considering the number of women who at least become fat if they didn’t start out that way, I think your theory blows.

Perhaps skinny men who like fat women just like fat women? Perhaps they don’t like fat women specifically, they just like women in general and the one they like best of all happens to be fat?

I’m fat, and the women my fiance takes notice of seem to almost always be slim. Yet he loves me, no one else. He has no issues with my weight, other than concern for my health. He would be pleased for himself if I were slimmer, but has stated repeatedly that his love and desire for me are in no way dependent on my weight. He loves ME.

And yes, he’s skinny. Way skinny: nearly 6 feet tall, 126 pounds. Maybe he just likes the fact that I feel all nice and cushioned. I have wondered sometimes how pleasant our lovemaking would be if I were as skinny as he is. I imagine lots of bones bashing into each other…

Oh, by the way, his mom is a delicate little rail, and always has been.

Stoid

Too often, we lose sight of life’s simple pleasures…Remember, when
someone
annoys you, it takes 42 muscles in your face to frown BUT it only takes 4
muscles to extend your arm and SMACK the person right upside the head.

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Sassy: Keep in mind you tested your theory in a bar. People go to bars to escape the daily drudgery through drinking, flirting, etc. Most are not there to choose a life-long partner. I realize that sexually attractive women get extra attention out in the real world, too. We are visually-oriented creatures. That’s not good or bad, it just is. Pretty is nice. The more intelligent and sensitive among us have other, more important, criteria. On the flip side: I used to gnash my teeth over the fact that so many gals went for the arrogant, shallow, abusive, or stupid types. Then it occurred to me: Why would I be with someone who wanted a guy like that?

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It is really not so hard to pretend to be shallow, arrogant, and abusive. Stupid is a little harder (you have to watch yourself continuously), and hardly worth the trouble. Most women will settle for one out of four, so if you just brush up on your arrogance you should do fine.