Men!

The BBQ Pit
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Ok, I have got to get this out of my system and then I’ll try to explain…

**Why do perfectly normal, decent men lose their minds over women with nothing to offer but a nice body? I mean, a guy goes nuts for a girl because she has big boobs, a nice ass, and blonde hair, accompanied by the personality of a brick.

Meanwhile, I have a great personality, lots of character, confidence, and substance, but I get passed over because I am not Claudia fucking Schiffer.

No, my hair is not blonde, my ass can only fit into a size 10 pair of jeans these days, and my boobs, while big, are real, which seems to be a disqualifying agent for the aforementioned men.

Yes, I notice handsome men. But a man, no matter how fine, has to offer me a hell of a lot more than nice abs if he wants to get past MY front door. I SEEK personality, character, substance, kindness, and if he happens to be cute, wonderful.

I am so sick of feeling not good enough because I do not fake tan, my boobs are real, and I don’t dye my hair every four weeks. I have more attitude and more to offer than most of these hoochies can fit in their left nostril, and that should fucking me enough.**

Ok, I feel better now.

See, this guy at work…he is wonderful. We are friends, have everything in common and there is definitely an element of sexual attraction. But he falls for this blonde bitch who breaks his heart every day because she’s sexy.

Fuck him.

Some day my prince will come… :frowning:

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[shallow]
You’re only a size 10? With big boobs?

Well, hellooooo, Sarah!
[/shallow]

If you hadn’t figured out already, guys are putzen.

As are the women, and I’ve known many, who will pine the rest of their days for some jagoff who dumps on them. There was this one that I wanted to go out with, but she kept dating this guy who treated her like shit, cheated on her, and left her, um, unsatisfied. I asked, “Why do you still go out with Bill? He’s an asshole!”

She replied, “Maybe it’s because he’s an asshole.”

Women!

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See!

I’m not like that. If a man treats me with kindness and respect and makes me laugh, he has a chance with me. Unlike most men I have met, I don’t write people they open their mouths.

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And if I weren’t happily married and old enough to be your, um, significantly older brother I’d be asking you out right now.

So there!

Harumph.

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Why, hello there Sara. I don’t know how often you here this, but are you interested in younger guys? (I really don’t look 17) It’s not that big of an age difference. PLUS, I know exactly how you feel. I’ve been in that boat for my whole life.

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Sara, it is my experience that women are first attracted to men by what they hear. Men are first attracted to women by what they see. It is just a difference in our makeup.

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So my problem is that I don’t wear makeup?

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*Ahem :smiley:

Men can’t figure out women, and women can’t figure out men.

…So where’s your picture :wink:

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If a man does not meet a woman’s minimum looks requirement he has no chance. He is dismissed without a second glance. His personality, sense of humor, career, etc. have no impact on this. Women are always bitching about how superficial guys are when they themselves are so superficial that they totally ignore unattractive men. As far as women having it worse than men when it comes to finding a lover, trust me ladies when I say this, men will fuck anything. No matter what you look like there are guys out there fantasizing about you right now. You should see some of the porno magazines I have been exposed to (and horrified by). There are magazines which specialize in fat chicks, women with GIGANTIC asses, tiny breasts, ENORMOUS breasts, fake breasts, real breasts, hairy legs, even one which specialized in women that have had one or more limbs amputated. If you don’t believe me, surf the web for porno sites and see for yourself.

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Understand whatchyer sayin’, Sara, but it’s true that the problem runs both ways, just in slightly different channels. I think it’s true that initial attraction for guys is more visual while it’s more mental/emotional for women. (Though there are plenty of exceptions on both sides.)

One of my best friends was a genuine, whiplash gorgeous knockout. She was also funny, grounded, kind and intelligent–and lonely, because what she wanted was the decent, everyday guy who’d be her companion for life. What she got was come-ons from “studs” and paralyzed silence from the men she really wanted. She broke her heart over several “regular guys” who panicked or something, not believing this great (and beautiful) woman was honestly nuts about them.

It’s so sad and stupid, great people wandering around lonely because we’ve messed up the signals so badly.

That added a lot of clarity to roiled waters!

Veb

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Why do perfectly normal, decent women lose their minds over men with nothing to offer but a lot of money? I mean, a girl goes nuts for a guy because he has big networking skills, a nice salary, and stock options, accompanied by the personality of a brick.

Meanwhile, I have a great personality, lots of character, confidence, and huge pectoral muscles, but I get passed over because I am not Donald fucking Trump.

No, my portfolio is not diverse, my wallet can fit in between the stones of the Great Pyramid at Giza, and my student loans, while big, are making me broke, which seems to be a disqualifying agent for the aforementioned gold-diggers.

Yes, I notice rich women. But a woman, no matter how loaded, has to offer me a hell of a lot more than front row seats for “Rent” if she wants to get past MY bulging fly. I SEEK personality, character, substance, kindness, and if she happens to have bi-curious female friends, wonderful.

I am so sick of feeling not good enough because I do not invest, my debts are real, and I don’t watch CNBC every four hours. I have more attitude and more to offer than most of these Dockers-wearing investment banking zombies can fit in their Palm V, and that should fucking be enough.

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Cool it, Alpha. You’re turning me on.

Not that there’s anything wrong with that…

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Alphagene, I just wanted you to know that, on behalf of repressed men EVERYWHERE, you are our new hero!

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Hear hear. Now pass the hand lotion, hero.

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I can honestly say, without exception, that the only women I know who prefer a thick wallet to a personality are those that resemble the “blonde bitch” in the OP.

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Hey Nacho–aren’t you like 15 yrs old? Didn’t you have a post saying you just got a learner’s permit to drive?

At 15, the only guys that should be interested in you are immature. I know I was when I was 15.

Suck it up. Most guys will eventually get a clue as they get older.

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Why do so many women like men with ripped abs, dirty hair, tattoos, piercing, a bad attitude, a criminal record, a cheap grease dripping motorcycle, and a propensity to slap their women around?

When a middle aged, slightly paunchy, ponytailed, professional, with no tats, no criminal record, etc, had problems geting dates.

nacho: life ain’t fair. Flirt with some of the guys, here, as you do so well, and maybe you’ll find a guy that isn’t those things, but will love you for yourself.

I’ll be honest. I LOOK at girls like you listed, BUT- DATE girls like you.

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Ah Sara, you have probably already met that prince…
and passed him by because he did not cause that special spark. The one who truly steals your heart will not have the aformentioned fine qualities, but will be a tatooed, muscle-bound badboy who will treat you like a kleenex.

Oh, the irony.

God is indeed cruel.

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OY, don’t talk to me about men. {Ptooie!}

And for as much as men can’t figure out women, there are oftimes men can’t even figure out other men.

Oy.

Esprix

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nope, gotta agree with Alpha on this one. If anyone has been following my posts lately, they’d know that i’ve just been burned, again. I don’t go out and seek women, but when i happen to meet someone i’m interested in, (yes physical attraction first, doesn’t work any other way, if you don’t like what you see first, you wouldn’t approach what you see) it’s because of more than physical attraction. Brains are big in the turn me on scale, money means nothing to me, but having a job and a sense of responsibility does mean quite a bit. So why is it, with all my charm and the fact that not a woman i’ve been with has yet to complain, but in fact gives so much praise to me for my treating a woman like gold, why do women still run away from the good guy, and run back after some schmuck that treats them like dirt, disrespects them, cheats on them… etc.
I’ve personally never gone after a blonde, i prefer brunette, i like smaller breasts, and i love a nice big rump. :smiley: sorry, had to say it that way. I don’t go for the real leggy type, i like the fleshy type, but again, if there’s nothing up in the noggin, there’s nothing gonna happen 'tween me and her. Sincerity, compassion, responsibility, consideration, honesty, and confidence. that’s what i look for when i’m looking. And i am sure to notice a woman when she approaches and lets me know she wants to be noticed, as to the fact that you nacho seem to think what you have is enough, it isn’t unless you provide a man with a reason for WHY he should approach you. Doesn’t mean put on makeup and dress like Brittany Spears, it means taking some initiative and approaching a man yourself, talking to him, and i’m sure you’ll see his head turn your way more often. I have yet to meet a woman who isn’t so fickle she can’t figure herself out and blames all her issues on men being the problem.