Yes, yes. But how does one good looking guy stand out from the rest of the good looking guys?
Really? I get complimented on the things I wear all the time, regardless if they are hitting on me or not. Wearing distincting things are good convo starters.
This is where the true disconnect comes. I know exactly what kind of guys you’re talking about. Such guys are quite level-headed, but they seem to make poor decisions on what they wear.
Again, I have joined this crowd recently. While my attire hasn’t significantly increased or decreased my dating prospects, I have been treated differently in other areas of my life. Since I have been dressing down more, I have been pulled over more often. People have asked me to leave if I linger around a store or whatever. People have called the cops on me for “loitering” inside and outside of establishments. Service people like bartenders sometimes ignore me. I’m sometimes treated like a bum. None of this stuff previously happened. As soon as I make more money, I will be buying more stylish clothes.
In other words I’m very confused why some men, who are otherwise level-headed would deliberately spend less money and time on their appearance, and why some women find it sexy. It seems like these guys are self-sabotaging themselves.
Maybe it is because they are men and can get away with it. And I am a woman, a butchish at that, and therefore much more harshly judged?
I wear old navy jeans and whatever t-shirt I could find at value village for less than five bucks in my size. Every day. It’s my uniform. (I wear sweaters sometimes in the winter, I guess.) I brush my hair every morning but nothing else. I wear eyeliner in terms of makeup. Pretty low maintenance.
I have never been asked to leave anywhere for loitering. I often get served a bars before other people. I don’t get treated like a bum. Heck, when I go to the grocery store, I feel dressed up since more than half the women there are wearing sweatpants or yoga pants.
I do EXUDE confidence (that’s what my boss says, anyway). Maybe you just don’t feel confident in your clothes.
The OP is a chick? Diamonds, what I wear more often than not is jeans and a t-shirt, but its for comfort, not joining any subculture. Sometimes I wear a nice shirt and slacks, I’m not in any higher-class or hipster subculture for the day, it’s just what I wear. Not that this is the only way the whole premise is flawed from the beginning.
That’s, um, quite the picture you’re drawing there.
I have two words for the OP - Jensen Ackles. I don’t actually know why straight women find simply dressed men with simple haircuts attractive; I just know we do.
I find your question odd, as if you imagine attractive men in big packs like those autotrader commercials when they get to the point they’re narrowing down the seach by color. Unless it’s a photo shoot for a clothing catalog, a good looking guy will stand out by being a good looking guy surrounded by average or ugly guys. And if there are a statistically abnormal number of good looking guys in a given crowd, tastes vary enough among st straight women that most are going to pick out a different guy as the best looking anyway.
What if you find a hot guy who’s your type, looks wise, but he’s a hipster with skinny jeans and a mustache? Or cutoff jorts and a rebel flag bandana on his head? Or an oversized basketball jersey and sagging pants? Or any other type of attire that isn’t found in your subculture? Would you still be into him?
Judging by the replies so far, it seems like what a man wears is completely irrelevant as long as he’s hot.
You don’t seem to understand that more people here don’t identify with any particular subculture than do. Unless you think that middle-class counts as one.
Uh, who’s to say that a guy that’s my type looks-wise would have “skinny jeans and a mustache?” Or “sagging pants?” What I’m trying to say is, a lot depends on personality. I think what they wear is sort of indicator of personality (people do make judgements off of appearance, after all), perhaps, but it varies from person to person. What matters is how they’re behaving.
For instance, the man I love is usually in a t-shirt and shorts or jeans (and has, yes, a simple haircut). Of course I find him physically attractive, but a huge part of my attraction to him is not physical. I love his appearance, yes, but I also love his personality. His appearance is only a small indicator of his personality underneath all that though.
Well I will pipe in as the 46yo man who is now ‘back in the market’ and I must say I have had most compliments when wearing a nice pair of 501s with a fairly plain tshirt and boots. The tshirt must be well fitting an in very good condition.
I also sport a short back and sides. Bit messy on top.
This has only been since I lost 30 pounds, before that I was just another pudgy man in an ill fitting tshirt.
I look great in a suit but then so do most blokes so no real advantage here.
She’s mentioned she looks like a 13yo boy; if her clothes enhance that, she may be drawing the kind of attention a loitering 13yo boy would. Many of the behaviors she describes for herself/her friends fit a 13yo boy better than a woman twice that age, that’s for sure.
D02, you didn’t answer my previous question. Do you not see any difference in people’s looks if they’re dressed the same way? If you look at a squad of soldiers with no hats on, you can’t see differences? I find Keanu Reeves, Benicio del Toro, Patrick Swayze and Gregory Peck attractive, but anybody who needs them to wear different clothes in order to tell them apart is both face and size blind.
That’s my thought. She may give off the vibe of someone likely to try to steal change out of the fountain, or suddenly hit someone over the head with a bag of apples.
The correct answer is that a guy wearing jeans, a t-shirt and a simple haircut looks “normal”.
I sense from many of the topics started by the OP that she has difficulty comprehending normal or why people like it. The reason is that people like people to behave in a predictable way. Weird or different behavior can be interesting or charming for awhile, but it tends to get tedious and exhausting very quickly.
