As an over 50 male who has had wives and relationships with a few people over 21 and have daughters over 21 and NONE of which I call sluts, I find you choice of titles and opinions pretty damn STUPID!!
Jim
Now this isnt an attempt at trolling its an actually question. I have known many women and after they hit 48 they all just become the worst voracious horn dog I have ever seen. Personally as a 48 year old male I find this very very exciting and am to the point where I want to have sex, possibly forever. If you feel offended, calm down, this isnt nessisarily directed at YOU. I just want to know what is it that causes this change? And can anything be done with it?
And why is FranticMad answering as if it’s xenothrope???
For goodness sakes, man read it carefully. I’m satirizing the poor lad who posted the original question. It’s an oblique way for me to say that what he’s saying is ridiculous. Or something. I don’t know, I just type and press “Submit”
Sorry, FranticMad, you are right. I didn’t read carefully enough to see that you were simply paraphrasing what he had said. … I’m very sorry.
[sub]“Why do women become sluts after they turn 21?”[/sub]
Let’s put aside your unfortunate choice of the “slut” term for now.
Perhaps your friends are choosing to have sex more frequently because they find it to be pleasant, natural, rewarding, and there’s nothing wrong with it.
ok maybe i have a “wrong” view of sex? I always thought sex as lovemaking, and should be between two people who love eachother and are simply expressing that love physically. I just dont understand the need to “go out and screw”. Why not read my other posts instead of basing everything off of one which I have admitted making mistakes in?
And its not just sex frequently, its sex w/ many and or multiple people in an unsafe manner. I just dont understand it. I came here hoping to understand this behavior, and instead of maturity (some posters excluded) I get childish behavior.
Now maybe its an age thing or maybe its not, but I really dont want my friends to end up w/ aids, raped, or worse. The best advice I got was to just try and talk with them, which I have and will.
Some of you people are rather heartless in your feelings of those around you.
Imagine if some of the people you truely cared about were doing such behavior. Have any of you seen or met people who get HIV? They were all normal happy people engaging in as what John Carter of Mars put it “pleasent, natural, rewarding” sex. Only to be rewarded with a death sentance. I consider myself an adult and take responsibility for my actions (hence the appologies for using “unchoice” and “tactless” words, once again i do appologize)
All of the name calling, belittling and sniping at me wont help my friends keep from getting hurt, so honestly I really dont care what you say about me. This was a honest question about how to help a few friends, who I KNOW are good people just doing foolish things.
Much thanks to those who helped me, the rest of you can go point your flamethrowers elsewhere.
-x out
(final post for this thread, email me if you REALLY need to say something else to me)
So, in other words, only women who are “sluts” get raped?
:mad:
Keep digging…just keep on digging…
And these slutty 21 year old women… they are haxing sex with… um… slutty 21 year old guys? Hmmm?
Have you? I ask because I watched my nice, straight, non drug using, monogamous cousin slowly die of AIDS.
WHAT? Can this be true? A person in a committed relationship who only “makes love” can die of AIDS? Yep.
Guess what - it’s not just “slutty” people who get HIV. Just the same as it’s not “slutty” people who get raped.
I really have no idea what the point of your OP was. If it was anything other than moralistic verbiage, then perhaps you should come in here and try to explain yourself a little better.
At this point, you’ve done a really good job of alienating a number of people on the board.
“Trampage” (pronounced like “rampage” but with a “t”) - when people go through a period of their lives with frequent bouts of casual sex and one night stands.
“When I broke up with the s.o.b., Bob picked up 4 girls in 5 nights at the Pub. He went on a real trampage that week.”
“She’s 19 years old, she just discovered she likes to get drunk, and she just got initated as a little 'sis in the Delta Tau Delta fraternity yesterday. Yep, she’s about to go on a trampage.”
Well, as with anything, YMMV. I don’t know you, but you could have your opinions for a number of reasons, be it religious, cultural, or ethical.
I prefer not to use the term ‘slutty’ because it has a largely female bias in application. I think its easier to communicate that someone is having lots of casual sex by describing them as ‘promiscuous’ rather than ‘slutty’. Its more informatory, and doesn’t simultaneously degrade the person while describing their sexual lifestyle/habits (but thats just me)
I can understand your alarm on the basis of any sudden behavior change. When somebody does a total 180 personality wise, or hobby wise, people are often left wondering WHY there was a change. But before you go bashing sexually active 21 year old girls, you should adress the age demographic in general, not just girls. I think sexual behavior is sexual behavior- having some behavior is acceptable for one gender but not for another is silly and IMO just seems to divide the sexes socially.
Well, they’re definitely not having sex with me, that’s for damn sure. :smack:
ditto!
What are you disagreeing with? Women can do what they want? No one said women should do anything, just that they can. Or do you live in some alternate universe where it is illegal?
To the OP: you know 5 women? And you’re generalizing based on that!? When I was 21 I celebrated my 2 year wedding anniversary. I know plenty of women who aren’t and never were promiscuous. Perhaps you are in the wrong social crowd?
look.
once again here i am posting just to help some of you understand something… I was looking to help some friends of mine who I am afraid are going down the wrong path. I know that not just people who have sex and do drugs (IV drugs) get aids… but having unprotected sex w/ many people is a good way to get it. It sucks to see good friends go down the tubes via their own demise.
alice i feel your pain i have had reaitives die of lukemia (not the same thing, but i understand what its like to loose a loved one out of illness) and since you know what seeing a person die of aids is like, im sure you wouldnt want anyone you know to go though the same ordeal.
as for everyone STILL bashing me over making a foolish generalization, Im very sorry that i offended you. That was never my intent, clearly I did not choose my words well enough on my original post. It wont happen again.
to Guinastasia: no you misinterpate (sp?) me. (that seems to be a running issue in this thread) not just those types of women get raped. however, engaging in sex w/ many different men can allow you to meet some very unsavory characters. and moreover why are you upset that i want to keep a friend from getting hurt?
to opalcat: Yes, I am possibly in the wrong social crowd.
to incubus: your probably right, however I know more girls than guys (something on the lines of 16-20) all over the age of 21 and none of them seemed to get this personality change. Like I have said MANY MANY times before, I just dont understand it. Is it like a liberating thing for women to go out and sleep w/ as many guys as they can?
Bah. i cant belive i just made another post on this dead thread.
-x out
please stop posting if ur just gunna keep this same retoric, ive appologized enough for a simple mistake now. I just wanted some advice on how to help a few friends who worry me.
If your friends don’t want help, there is nothing you can do. Many people would argue that they don’t need help–that what they are doing is fairly normal and accepted.
I feel that I need to warn you, btw, that typing like this: “if ur just gunna” is going to lose you a lot of credibility and respect around here.
I think you should be looking to do something about your misguided opinion that all women are AIDS-infected whores.
Before you start re-enacting the crimes of Jack the Ripper, for preference.
turning 21 did it?
you sure?
maybe it was something els?
like leaving home?
or getting a new job?
or being fired?
or getting dumped by a boyfriend?
or failing exams?
think about other reasons the ladies you know might feel the need for casual sex for fun or validation.
i’m thinking the big cake with the candles wasn’t it.