I’m sorry that I did a highjack on this thread earlier-
that earlier post of mine makes it sound like I hate my bf, but I love him and I don’t want to lose him, I don’t care about the sex, I just want to stay with hiim, now I am worried that he will see that thread somehow (he doesn’t read the sdmb, but it is possible) and then he will be so hurt that I talked about him on here that he will hate me, and it will destroy our relationship.
I have no one to talk to about this. He is about my only friend, and of course I can’t talk to him directly about this, as it would just hurt him. I’m sorry about inflicting my hysteria on you all, I just feel the need to let it all come out sometimes. I hope I didn’t sound contemptuous and hate-filled about him, it is just frustrating and I needed to vent. I’m sorry
…if he ever reads this, I’m sorry and I love you please don’t hate me…
You might be wrong about that. I mean, saying “You’re lousy in bed!” would hurt him, but there are other ways to approach the issue. You might gently suggest that you are interested in more variety. You could try getting some sort of sex manual, or even one of those awful Cosmo sex articles, and go through it with him to pick out things you both might like to try. I think a lot of men would be excited, rather than offended, by this. If he’s a decent guy he’ll enjoy sex even more if you’re having a good time too.
Oh, bf has read what I wrote…he wanted to see the sdmb reaction to the loss of the space shuttle and I said don’t read what I wrote and of course he went straight to it…and um he isn’t upset at all. We have actually talked about our problem a lot and we do know that our sex life is less than satisfactory and he isn’t angry with me…thank god! I am so relieved!
Infectious Lass
I wanted to e-mail you but you don’t use that option. My husband and I had the same problem. He had only had one other partner and felt very insecure about sex. We wasted alot of time angery and upset with each other before we finally talked and worked our way thruough it.
We learned to trust each other and express our needs. Now we have a great sex life and can’t keep our hands off each other. We will be celebrating our 27th anniversary this year.
I would think that the women are going through a period of sexual liberation. They probably all have thier own place so some privacy is possible. They probably have some expierence during college and they liked sex. So now they know what they want sexually and they have the ability to get it.
I think this is a probably a normal thing for a person to do and yes they should try to pratice safe sex at all times. Oh and don’t do drugs.
Here is my 2 cents worth:
In my teens and 20’s, i was a prolific pursuer of the pleasures available with those of the female persuasion. It was my observation that most girls lost their virginity with someone they loved, later had a fling that meant nothing, then around the time of the early 20s had had a couple more relationships that had included sex. So by this point, sex was no longer something that was solely reserved for love, and were realizing just how damn much fun it could be. So for a couple of years or so, they happily experiment with various things before deciding that casual sex isn’t really what they want, and they again become “nice” girls and seek out a permanant relationship.
Ok , just to the OP and thread title in general. I’m gonna be 22 on tuesday, doesthat mean that I could have been having all the wild sex I wanted for the past 12 months. and I missed it? Damn!
