It started in high school when I heard how my best friends were lousy boyfriends. It paused (mostly) while I was married then restarted immediately after Wife died. Heidi felt a need to explain why she was divorced–he demanded a blow job every night was one complaaint. Was this a come on? No because she was already remarried. She just needed a friend she could talk dirty to.
Then today an RN was visiting for extra long and told about her kids and grandkids while letting her hand linger on my bum knee until it hurt. Then a CNA told me all about catching her husband sexting with an old girlfriend. Is there a sign on my bed saying that I’m bedridden and am happy listening to the worst you have to offer?
Don’t say it’s because I’m a nice guy because you know i’m not.
I work with a lot of women in the healthcare field. I’ve heard a lot of complaints about husbands and boyfriends. Sometimes they’ll ask what I think about a situation or thing, and then tell me it’s such a guy answer.
Heh, I had to read “hand linger on my bum knee” 4 times before my brain got stopped getting stuck on the hump there at the word bum.
Honestly, and maybe seriously too, it’s because
A) you seem like a nice guy,
B) being bed ridden you present as “safe” and “harmless”
C) you listen well? Maybe?
D) being bed ridden you are a captive audience
E) they are trying to keep you engaged with the world
F) Hi Opal
Once you are mobile, try my gambit. If someone bores me, I pull my phone out of my pocket, look at the screen, say, “sorry, I’ve got to take this” and walk away.
Ah,I remember the last significant ChiDope, when my hand lingered on Opal’s knee and thigh for longer than the two Mississippis it takes before my knee starts hurting these days. :D:cool:
Giving a spiritual answer or two. One is that people who come around you are close friends they may be akindred spirits, basically brother/sister souls who sense you are comfortable to discuss the hard stuff with. The second is a spiritual gifting of council, which would be a skill set some get to help others. with that last one, without proper defense it may be possible that you are holding their relationship together, often to your expense in you getting a relationship. Basically spiritual vampirism on the woman’s part.
And a further non-spiritual answer is perhaps, and this is not to be insulting nor should it be, but you may have some feminine aspects to you that make them more comfortable around you and more open to you.
When my friends talk to me about their husbands/ mates latest crap I always supply outlandish and crazy solutions. Like, “I’d leave him” or " Call his Mom/Sister/best friend and tattletell". “Sell his collection or prized possesion”, it usually elicits a shocked response. They always come back with “I couldn’t do that to my significant other because I care too much for him/ her”. It fosters good feelings for their problem mate. My own version if reverse psychology.
There it is.
You listened. You posed no threat to their relationship. Their boyfriend wouldn’t get jealous that the two of you were talking. She wasn’t worried about you doing this simply because you were attracted to her (whether you were or not). And the list goes on. In the end, girls (or their SOs) didn’t see you as someone that was talking to them because you wanted to get in their pants (even if you did).
I’m guessing you were also quickly friend zoned by a number of girls that you liked.
Has it crossed your mind that they’re striking up a conversation to preempt the sort of thing that you come out with?
Because, if I was you, it would cross my mind. You spew a lot of cryptic stuff, maybe they’re just tired of whatever you’re offering up? It seems like they’d rather control the dialogue, and maybe there’s a reason?
Just a thought, something to consider, no offence intended. Carry on regardless, and Good Luck!
Actually, I can’t see how telling me about her cheating husband fits in that scenario.