Just curious.
“Is” or “was”? Makes a big difference.
I don’t care, as long as I don’t have to watch.
“whom”
Multiple reasons.
I know what intimacy means to him. He knows what it means to me. We took vows when we got married to be faithful to each other. I don’t want him bringing home any STD’s and giving them to me. I want our daughter to grow up seeing a traditional, monogamous marriage.
Need I go on?
You’re going to call me on that but not on the preposition at the end?
Hand in your grammar nazi card.
The question answers itself.
You asked “why do you care who your SO is physically intimate with.”
You did not ask “why do you care who your SOs are physically intimate with.”
The preposition at the end is a lesser offense.
If he’s faithful to me and I’m faithful to him, I don’t have to worry about sexually transmitted diseases. I can go two or three years between Pap smears. I hate getting Pap smears, and going to the doctor in general. I might kill him for being unfaithful for this reason alone.
I don’t want him being able to compare me to other people in bed. He might find somebody better than me, and then want to leave me.
What, not a single “to ensure the legitimacy of our children” response, which seems to me to be the only really *good *reason?
Of course, historically, this has most often meant keeping track of who women get frisky with, less so with the dudes. The Odyssey comes to mind, where a lot depends of whether Penelope has kept the suitors at a distance while Odysseus was away. However, at the same time, he had flings with Circe and Calypso. No one seems to expect *him *to be faithful.
Anyway. I digress.
I care, but I’m not sure why. I guess I’m afraid my SO would fall in love with that other person.
Both B and C. Part of what makes the intimacy intimate is that fact that there are parts that are just ours. Of course, some people care more about the physical stuff than others, so I can understand how someone might not care at all, but it’s something that’s important to me and it’s important to me that it’s important to her, so… yeah.
I care who my SO is sleeping with, because if I didn’t know who he was, I wouldn’t be able to hunt him down.
Not really self-answering, since if I don’t know why you have an SO, I don’t know why you care about the target(s) of that person’s physical intimacy.
I like the way you think!
Before my partner and I met, both of us sowed our wild oats extensively. Then we met, and everything changed. Our relationship has evolved into something that literally completes us. Neither of us would have any reason to be intimate with anyone else. So, “Both B and C.”
Because there’s no way his income could support child support payments as well as support our current lifestyle (which is pretty much the opposite of extravagent), and accidents do happen (my current pregnancy is proof).
I think it’s hot when my SO hooks up with someone while I’m offshore and then tells me the steamy details… so I voted “I don’t care” even though that’s not entirely true.
But really, our criteria is that the other guy has to be HOT and the details have to be steamy. If my guy was hooking up with someone who was an ugly slob, I’d be pretty peeved.
I voted other. Long distance relationship. We care for each other, the L word has been mentioned. Often. But, we are honest with each other. This is a port in the storm sort of thing for both of us. I will always love M. I think that he will always love me.
I want him to meet someone who lives close and is his age and has the same interests as him. He wants me to do the same. So, bottom line is that I do care that he’s got a date with someone who could become his main squeeze. I want this to happen for him.
Because that is the definition of “significant”. If I didn’t care who she was physically intimate with, she would not be my “SO”. She’d just be some chick I’m banging in my spare time.