Why do you have a right to comment on my appearance?

The BBQ Pit
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Well, the story goes like this.

This morning, (early, about 8am), I ran out of cigarettes, and decided to go down to the petrol station. It’s only a 5 minute walk down my street. Anyway, as I am walking past a 4 wheel drive parked in the carpark, the male occupants started barking and hollering “ugly skank” at me.

Well, I buy my cigarettes and walk out of the station and their car is still there. I sigh, knowing that they are going to make more derogatory sounds and probably a comment on my appearance. I was right, as I walked past, one of the stupid fucking dickheads leaned over and said, “It’s not our fault you’re an ugly bitch.”

This floored me. I stopped and stared for a second, then said nothing and walked away. Too hurt and too shocked to say anything. Yeah, so it was 8 am. I walked down to the corner store with my hair in a messy ponytail, big sweater and baggy pants and dirty shoes. So what? It’s not a fucking catwalk!

Then, as I was walking towards my house, I see the car drive up and pull over next to me. The guys start screaming, “Yeah, fat ugly skank, go home! Go eat something you fat pig! Ha hahaha! Fucking ugly fatass!” I just ignored and went into my house.

But fuck! Now I am sitting here near tears, wondering why I care
what two dickheads think.

The funny thing is, these guys looked to be in their mid to late twenties ! These were not kids. These were adult males who found it nessesary to comment on how I looked because I didn’t fit their “ideal.” I have been a recovered bulimic for five years, and I struggle with my relationship with food everyday. It makes it hard when a complete stranger decides to make a derogatory remark and reminds me why I was bulimic in the first place.

I hate this! It’s totally unfair that women and men who are not the “ideal” of beauty have to walk down the street and be subjected to offensesive and hurtful remarks by idiots who think that they have the right to comment! I don’t understand how adults in today’s society can be so hurtful and rude to complete strangers! It floors me.

There is so more more than looks to a person. The only thing that this morning’s episode showed me was that these two men were ugly and horrible monsters underneath.

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Aren’t most men?

ducking

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Seriously tho, I’m sorry. That really sucks. You could have been a stunning model and they may have said the same thing. You don’t get nothin’ but shit from an asshole.

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Don’t take it personally. I can’t believe anyone would behave like that!

Their attitude is uglier than any human being’s appearance can be. They are ugly inside

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Sorry you had to deal with that, Cap’n. I’m thinkin’ a few boys didn’t quite make it out of junior high.

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In their world they demand that EVERYONE that comes within their sight have a perfect body–a size 0 of course. Cause in their egotistical minds they think that all women want them.

In your world you should demand everyone who comes into contact with you be beautiful on the inside. Unfortunately you had to meet up with some truly ugly people today.

I also do not understand how someone can be mean like that. They can’t be smart cause an intelligent person matures and learns that inside is as important as outside.

After saying all of that, I’ll bet that you really are a beautiful person on the outside as well.

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I’m guessing they’re frustrated because they have yet to successfully attract a (human) mate. Console yourself with the fact that the hurt you feel right now will fade and disappear, while they will live out the rest of their lives as horrible little trolls.

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Captain Blunty, I’ve never seen you, but I think you’re beautiful.

Sounds like those guys haven’t evolved yet.

Please, please, please talk this out some more if you feel the need to. Do not go back to old destructive patterns.

You are a wonderful person. Hey, you’re here, right?

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I used to get the same thing all the time. Every now and then, I’d be walking down the street and a carful of passing teenagers would yell “Fatass!” or something similar. And I’m a guy. It was hugely upsetting to me, too. I’d spend the rest of the day in a funk over it. Then I realized that I was getting upset because a bunch of strangers with no fucking manners and almost no intelligence didn’t like me, and I couldn’t think of a single reason why I should care. Think about it: you’re disliked by people who like to shout insults at random passers-by. Do you want these people to like you?

If that doesn’t work, I recommend Plan B: Kidnap them and place them in your own cunningly constructed Labyrinth of Death. Tape the results and sell it to Pay-per-View. It could be the latest thing in reality TV.

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That is awful. I have also been insulted and called ugly and–well, all kinds of personal things about my appearance, and even the most well-adjusted and happy person in the world can’t help but be poleaxed by such attacks.

I don’t know what to say to help you get over it, because I know it just plain hurts.

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Sorry to hear about the jerks, Caps. NoClueBoy has a very real clue on THIS, though. We’re here 24/7 (some of us literally) if you need someone to talk to.

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This is why men get a bad rap. Because of assholes like this. :smack:

Fuck those stupid bastards!!!

Don’t let those dusche(sp?) bags fuck your day up. People like that pick on other people because they don’t feel good about themselves and get pleasure out of putting other people down.

Be proud of who you are and know you’re better than them!!!:smiley:

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I don’t think they give Men a bad rap. Little boys maybe. They are not ‘Man’ enough to give men a bad rap.

I hope you understand my meaning (they are worthless shits)

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Amazing, isn’t it? These male individuals really think that if they call you names they will become virile, powerful, and not the laughingstocks of the gene pool.

Poor deluded monkeyboys.

Julie

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Assholes abound, and when they’re in cars they feel PARTICULARLY invulnerable. I was riding my bike today in 90 degree heat. I’d just climbed a long hill that has a WAAAY nasty steep section about halfway up, and although the hill had levelled off I was still winded. Basically, I was just trying to keep the bike going forward and not keel over while I caught my breath. Some jerk in a car yells "Look at him go! He’s really pedalling!’

Well. what a stupid jerk. I wrote him off as an ass and kept pedalling. You have to realize that the guys who say things like this are the absolute bottom of the barrel. You’ve been dissed by the male equivalent of an illiterate crack ho. You’re upset, don’t be. You’ll forget about this shortly, he’ll still be an ass, for years if not for life.

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Those guys deserve pity. I feel sorry for them. They will never get the pleasure of seeing, appreciating and enjoying your beauty. That is a huge loss. They must be miserable inside to have behaved that way.

Haj

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I can’t believe people actually do this. Actually, I can. My X’s sister, although she never shouted insults from a moving car, would make comments about people’s appearences loud enough so they could hear.

She had the lowest self-esteem of anyone I’ve ever seen. She was also a very, very unhappy person.

I’m so sorry this happened to you.

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Those guys deserve pity. I feel sorry for them. They will never get the pleasure of seeing, appreciating and enjoying your beauty. That is a huge loss. They must be miserable inside to have behaved that way.

Haj

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Because they could see you! backs away a little

I will bet you my life savings ($24.67) that they were drunk yet driving around making nasty remarks to anyone they saw. Really, that’s what high school boys do (which apparently, they’re still acting like)

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Fucking idiots. Frankly, I think we should kick people like that out of our great country (I’m an Aussie too), it’s so bloody un-Australian.

Personally, I think our country had gone down-hill as of late, when immature thugs a few beers short of a six-pack can harass lovely people in a vain attempt to increase their own self-importance.

Well, I always try to keep a postive mind but in this case, well, they’re just thugs. If it means anything to you, this rabid insulting is a sign of a lack of self-confidence, they feel they aren’t ‘man’ enough, they have short dicks, something like that.

You know, I’m actually pretty young and I see this totally unacceptable behaviour being almost rewarded amongst my peers, that sickens me. When it’s grown men acting like this, well, it’s just pathetic.

And just between you, me and the rest of the English speaking world, fuck what people think “beauty” is. You know how those fuckin’ movie stars and that get that thin? Mostly chuckin’ up their guts in the toilet and making sure to jog like mad, something a little silly when you have no energy, and dangerous. These whole fuckin’ “no carb” celebrity diets are actually dangerous to you health, sure, you may be unnaturally thin now but in a couple years, you’ll be weak as a kitten.

Once I read something Miss. Spears said, “I don’t lift weights anymore because it makes me look too big, I do yoga,” what the fuck is this shit? “Oh no, some tiny hint of definition in my arms, I LOOK LIKE A GORILLA!” Fuck this.

I don’t see the beauty in this unnatural body shape shit. Personally, I see beauty in women like you who are fucking strong enough to conquear this shit, so don’t give them any satisfaction. You shouldn’t bother with shits like that, who have sticks up their arse because they can’t get laid or whatever fucking bullshit reason because frankly, anyone who thinks that being a filthy, uneducated scumbag is better than not being the next anorexic Hollywood whore needs to get their head and their arse wired straight.

Sorry it had to happen to you.