Why does this trigger so much anger

[billfish678]

@OffByOne

If you are one of the males in the conversation, you can make big brownie points with the women by saying, “Well, as Sharon just said, ‘…’”

It works the first time you try it. Then the Matrix catches onto your little trick and the rules change yet again.

Remember, even for Capitain Kirk that kinda shit only worked once.

[gnoitall]

@billfish678

It works the first time you try it. Then the Matrix catches onto your little trick and the rules change yet again.

Remember, even for Capitain Kirk that kinda shit only worked once.

I dunno. Kirk pulled the Corbomite Maneuver twice. And that’s pretty outrageous on its face.

[GargoyleWB]

@elbows

Ok, but the need to bask in their, (in your eyes righteously deserved), bad Karma is only more manifestation of your attachment, y’know!

That’s why you gotta practise the indifference of, “That’s okay. You don’t have to believe me.”, a few times. If you do, after a few goes, you’ll find you won’t be feeling to revisit such events, years later with still unresolved feelings. Practise. That’s all I takes to shift this from rage to indifference.

But it’s all on you. Nobody else can get you there. Change your mind. Change your life.

This.

It’s still hard in my case. Though personally not getting hung up on what others do or don’t take of my expertise on something, Mrs Gargoyle get attached, livid, and enraged on my behalf. She then feels that if I don’t support her, or that her feelings about the slight should be let go, that I’m somehow disrupting the social dynamic. There’s a lot of need in how she was raised to ‘be right’ and have it acknowledged at any cost no matter how much fist thumping, table pounding, and voice raising is required.

[kiz]

@Aangelica

Over the course of several really very frustrating decades, I’ve learned to just make appropriate non-committal noises when one of these topics finds its way to us and then change the subject as quickly as possible to something else. And to just let it go. It is simply not possible to either change her mind about one of these things, or to convince her she’s gotten unreliable data or doesn’t really know as much about the topic as she thinks. I know. I’ve tried. God, how I’ve tried. All trying does is make both of us unhappy with the other - with at least some justification on both sides. Best just to let it go.

For some reason my husband can’t just let it go. Obviously everyone else in his family has. It’s almost like he takes this quirk of hers as a personal offense. Everyone – including myself – tells him “it’s just how she is, ride with it”, but for some reason he can’t