cuauhtemoc, I wonder that because it’s hard for teachers to meet men through the workplace. Most teachers are women, and if you’re a kindergarten teacher, you may not get much of a chance to meet men who are over 3 feet tall. 
Just a thought.
cuauhtemoc I also tried the Match.com thing. Ugh. No pic up, but e-mails saying “You’re hot!”. And you would know this…how??
Back and forth for a few weeks, trade pics, meet. Uhm, didn’t you say you were 6’3"? Not 3’6"? You musta done some SERIOUS editing of your pic, boyo.
There were the “Forgot to tell you I’m married” (even though they professed to be single)
There was one honesttodiety rapist (caught two weeks after our date when I faked an allergy to onions so I could bolt outta there).
I’m with celestina. For the most part. I do appreciate a whiff of psychosis and bent thinking. Freaks 'r Us mentality. I just find the idjits.
That’s precisely why I stayed on it for so long!
I did meet the angel of my life (not a teacher) using such a website. They’re good places for men to go (lots of men, but not many good/interesting ones – or so I’m told).
old song (no I don’t know any new ones…):
“***They’re married, neurotic, or gay…
(or into leather…)
I tell ya,
They’re married, neurotic, or gay…
(or from New Jersey)…”
[sub]rimshot[/sub] 
I thought this as well. Is it so common for people to meet in the workplace that if you can’t do that you have to resort to match.com? I gave up on it after a while because it just seemed so artificial. I may do it again someday, but not before I get desperate. Again.
MissTake - that is one creepy story. You sure dodged a bullet there.
Thanks, everyone who replied. I feel much better after getting a chance to vent, and y’all have been real nice and encouraging, though I still retain my cynicism and jadedness.
BayleDomon, [giggle] Yes, that was me. I represent all the ladies who’ve been put upon by naughty fellas. You ought to be ashamed of yourself. What would your momma say if she knew! As far as how I’m doin’, I’m just fine. I’m surprised I’m not hungover as drunk as I was when I composed this OP. How’re you] doin’? Now about your suggstion to join interest groups, I am in some. But surprise, surprise. The few fellas that attend are either taken or gay or just not interesting. Believe me if I had the time to join more to increase my chances of finding a decent fella, I would, but you know what would happen if I did find the time to do so? The psychos and losers would find me. [sigh] I don’t know you well enough to know if you’re a loser, but I don’t think being addicted to the SDMB makes you a loser. There are worse vices folks could have than being compelled to read and post to a message board.
spooje, hon, I don’t know you well enough to know if you’re a loser, but I was under the impression that you have a girlfriend.
SPOOFE, give it time. Given my luck, I’m sure my day to hear that particular gem addressed to me is marked down somewhere in my future.
Larry Mudd, sweetie, what makes you think that having an anime collection makes you a loser? 
I’ve seen part of one anime, and while it was okay, I didn’t see anything all that bad about it besides its perpetuation of stereotypes and objectification of women, but then I’m hypercritical of films and stuff. My friends just grin and bear it when I start tearing into films. [giggle] Like I told BayleDomon, there’s worse vices folks can have. You shouldn’t let a lil ol’ anime collection bother you.
jackelope I feel your pain, except it’s crazy, lyin’, triflin’ SOBs what be trying to pull the wool over my eyes. [giggle] Well, I’ll just have to check out the P&H Cafe now won’t I?
BlackKnight, hon, psychos are folks that stalk, harass, and can resort to physical/mental violence. Losers are fellas who take off their wedding rings when they get to the bar and then try to pick up women by bragging about how much $, property, status they have. They’re also the types who tell me they’re divorced and the reason they’re living at home with they mama is because their wife took all they money for the kids. Still they’re not satisfied with their current girlfriend because she nags them and what not, and they want to know if I want to go out on a date with them! :eek: Or, losers qualify as fellas who don’t believe I can hold my liquor and who after knowing me all of two minutes offer to take me out, get me drunk, and drive me home. [shudder] Does that give you a sense of what I’m talking about? If not, I’ve got plenty more examples.
LunaSea, awww, that’s just too cute about your hubby!
Edward the Head, I’m glad to hear that you’re not on any meds, and I hope that you won’t have to be on any meds. I’m doin’ just fine, and like I told another fella in this thread, I’m really surprised I ain’t hungover, as drunk as I was when I wrote this OP. How’re you doin’? Keep me posted on the outcome of your crazy motorcycle adventure. As far as where you can go to meet decent ladies, well I guess clothing stores, grocery stores, you know. Just go shopping. I’m terrible about going to bookstores myself.
El Elvis Rojo, hon, I know the psychos hang out at church. That’s one of the reasons why I don’t attend church. But my real reason for not going to church to meet men is that I’m not trying to front up in there. It’d be obvious that I’m not interested in religion or worshipping a deity. I figure once the fellas find that out, they won’t be interested in me as a person. If they ain’t totally repulsed/frightened by my stance on religion, they’ll be interested in trying to convert me from my “heathen ways” and save my soul. No, thank you.
dantheman, sweetie, that’s what all my friends tell me. I know I’m nice. My momma raised me to be a lady, and I just in general detest unpleasantness. [sigh] I can’t change who I am, and I don’t want to, but how do I get the psychos and losers who are attracted to my niceness to leave me the hell alone?!!
** cuauhtemoc**, what an interesting handle. What does it mean, if you don’t mind my asking? At any rate, I’m not afraid of commitment. I’m fed up with bullshit. I don’t have time for it.
Homebrew, I was lately informed by a friend that he’s met my soulmate, and he’s gay! Well, a dream of mine is to see if by the sheer power of my feminine wiles I could tempt a gay fella to be straight, even if for a short time. [giggle] I know it’s impossible, but a girl can dream, can’t she? At any rate, I’ll see what I can do about hooking you up if things don’t work out. 
Attrayant, well, if I go on match.com, I’ll only be adding another teacher to the long list of teachers currently on there. I generally don’t like online match-making services because that’s where the losers and psychos love to find prey. I could see myself experiencing the same scenarios MissTake has. If I’m having so much trouble IRL, can you imagine what kind of shitstorm I’d stir up if I went to one of them internet dating-service thingys? [shudder]
I’m so cool, too bad I’m a loser…
[sub](Thank you Bare Naked Ladies)[/sub]
Hey celestina, you registered on my birthday! Crazy.
24 straight female, been kissed ONCE, and had one date.
Anymore, I only attract guys who want to stalk me, or whatever.
Or I like a guy, and then he shows interest-and I really back away.
celestina, the reason I mentioned the fear of commitment aspect is that I never would have suspected myself as a commitment-phobe. Then, not too long ago, I took a critical look at some of my habits and patterns and realized that I’ve been avoiding getting close to people my whole adult life. Probably because of all the relationships I’ve seen fail so miserably. I decided that being single is nothing to be ashamed of, and actually preferable to being with someone for the sake of not being alone. I travel by myself, I go out by myself, and I’m not responsible to anyone. Now, instead of looking for a woman to rescue me from loneliness, I’m just hanging out enjoying myself until I meet the woman who makes me want to give all this up. I hope it happens someday, but in the meantime, no rush.
And Cuauhtemoc (with an accent over the ‘e’) was an Aztec prince. No, I’m not Mexican, just pretentious.
What do you call 'em when they don’t bother to take the ring off?
Seriously: hang in there.
I swear.
I’m a perfectly (for the most part) normal guy, I complimented celestina on her giggles-even exchanged an email or two- and got nowhere.
Don’t believe her guys…She is just a tease.
'course you’re the online-dream-woman of half the straight male dopers between the ages of 18 and 38 or so, so I don’t feel too bad for you
Seriously, wrt match.com, I think those of you who think its the domain of losers and psychos are dismissing it too quickly. The trick (as someone else pointed out) is to email the person for a while first before meeting in person. It would take a pretty serious level of sickness or dedication to convincingly fake being a sweet, smart, funny guy over multiple lengthy emails over several weeks.
And of course there are various other ways to keep yourself safe…
Eonwe, well what a coincidence. Happy Belated Birthday!
cuauhtemoc, thanks for answering my question. I hope you find what you’re looking for someday.
Cervaise, I call fellas what don’t take the wedding rings off bonafide losers. Thanks for the encouragement, hon.
Spit, IIRC formerly known as jcmckaig, I didn’t get the sense that you were trying to get anywhere with me in the few emails you sent. But I do wonder how it is that I deserve the title of “tease.” And I’m fast coming to the conclusion that the title of “tease” is better placed with you.
Well come now… Didn’t you read my mind?
No? Well then the blame is placed squarely on you!
But it is a moot point anyway, as I realized I AM a loser.
What other explanation can there be for sitting at home on a friday night trying to practice algebra? Damned ASVAB.
Elaine: Well here’s the thing. Being a woman, I only really have access to the, uh… equipment, what, thirty, forty-five minutes a week. And that’s on a good week. How can I be expected to have the same expertise as people who own this equipment, and have access to it twenty-four hours a day, their entire lives.
Jerry: You can’t. That’s why they lose very few players.
Elaine: Yeah, I guess I never really stood a chance.
Hey Spit, here’s a little something for you. :p:p:p:p:p:p
Homebrew, darlin’, I declare your post just put me in a fit of the giggles.
I’m still lamenting my fate as the psycho-loser magnet extraordinaire, but y’all’s antics in this here thread have cheered me up a little.
Hey Spit, here’s a little something for you. :p:p:p:p:p:p
Homebrew, darlin’, I declare your post just put me in a fit of the giggles.
I’m still lamenting my fate as the psycho-loser magnet extraordinaire, but y’all’s antics in this here thread have cheered me up a little.
Well, if I were being totally honest, celestina, I would have to say that, were I living in your locality (which I’m almost positive I don’t), that I’d be at least worthy of your giving it a shot.
I mean, any woman who lists “guys who can dance” as being a major plus with her is really all right with me…
And I’m a really nice guy. Nice to animals and people alike. And non-psycho, despite the semi-stalkerish tone of this post…
I don’t do the long-distance thing, though. Geography is really a bitch.
Any chance you’re moving to Montana in the next month or so?
Awwww, LindyHopper, what a sweet post! I’m so flattered. No, darlin’, this Southerner ain’t moving to Montana next month. I love doing the pen pal thing, but I agree that long distance relationships are difficult to do. Why don’t you drop me an email sometime and tell me all about Montana.