OR The thread in which Dopers complain about members of the oppisite sex.
I’ve not had the greatest luck with females lately…or really ever. While it would be easy to attribute it all to the fact that girls are insanely difficult, that’s really only the case about 10% of the time. Instead, I’ll have to blame myself. I’ve come to realize that most of the problems are my own.
To start things off, I’m extremely shy. Getting me to strike up a conversation with a complete stranger is extremely rare, especially if it’s with a female.
Another problem I have is that I have a strange taste. I don’t generally go for what most people’s idea of “beautiful” is. I also am picky when it comes to a female’s attitude; I once broke up with someone because she was happy almost all the time, and it just got on my nerves. A girl also has to be pretty intelligent and artistic for me to show signs of interest in her…I’m annoyed when people don’t appreciate art.
Finally, when I do find a girl I’m interested in, she’s usually either already taken, isn’t looking for a relationship, not at all interested in me, or something equally frustrating.
So, fellow dopers, that’s my excuse for being single the past year or so. What are your excuses?
I can’t say I have an excuse, given that I have a wife. But my crippling shyness was, for a long time, my standard excuse. When I finally started to try to get over that, it was my crippling tediousness that drove women away.
Yeah, this is usually my problem as well. Case in point, there’s a girl where I work who I think is kinda cute. The fact that she was into Tool and Pink Floyd really did it for me too. So I’m telling a friend of mine about her and how cool I think she is. I close my conversation with him saying, “I just hope that she doesn’t tell me that her boyfriend wouldn’t appreciate her seeing other guys.”
Three guesses as to what she said when I finally got up the nerve to ask her out.
I used to think I was shy, but I couldn’t afford to date, anyway, so it didn’t matter.
Later on, I discovered I’m NOT shy (not with women, anyway), but merely antisocial: I hate parties, clubs, large gatherings of any sort, spending money, and getting dressed up.
You know you’re going to stay single for a LONG time when a pretty girl walks up to you and asks for your phone number, and you lie about being already taken, just because you can’t stand the idea of being dragged out to any more clubs.
My reason for being still single (legally, at least) is that I just can’t stand the idea of a monogamous, romantic, commitment. My privacy is just too important. Or, I’m an ass.
My mother is always asking why I don’t get married, or why I wouldn’t marry this one or that one, and I always ask her to recall that, since I was able to walk, I’ve never been able to spend more than four hours at any kind of family gathering. And I love my family. Really.
Perhaps when I’m old and gray it will be sad that I’m alone. We’ll see.
I have found that the women I am interested in are taken or do not feel the same way. Women that are interested in me, I am not really interested in them in a dating sense. While I will hang out with them I feel it would be wrong to lead them on. Overall I am content being single, but it would be nice to find someone I could spend my life with. Maybe someday, but I do not want to settle just because society thinks I should be married at this point.
I work weekends, work sleep…work…and the sleep. No chance to really meet women at all. On top of that I’m painfully shy around women. So basically, my gene pool is limited to my spooge towel for now.
What Zap said. Sometimes I think that the intersection of the set of women who are smart enough to be interesting and the set of women who are dumb enough to be interested in me is an empty set.
Too many girls too screwed up about there being physical aspect to the relationship. They want cuddle-sluts and platonic friends and can’t stand the thought that maybe, if wanted to be your boyfriend instead of just your friend, then EVENTUALLY THERE’S GOING TO BE SEX INVOLVED!
Men want the sex without the relationship. Women want the relationship without the sex. I’m willing to meet halfway. The women I seem to meet don’t seem to be willing to meet me there. Pity.
I’ve done that several times, actually. The problem is, people aren’t exactly the same in real life. Several key aspects are missing when you’re chatting online.
Well, up until this week, for a month I was had no time for relationships due to the fact that it was exam season and the two months before that I was busy being a miserable bastard because my girlfriend dumped me. I haven’t yet thought up an excuse for why I’m single at the moment. It’ll come to me.
I would go for a while, single, meeting people and making friends. When I finally got around to asking somebody out, either she’d have just started seeing somebody, or she’d be okay with it and we’d start dating, then two or three other women would pop up and want to go out with me, so I’d be going out with two or three women at once, then pretty soon I’d be single again (go figure), then women would point out, just before they got freakin’ MARRIED, “Oh, by the way, I was always kind of attracted to you, but you were dating Carol…” Blah.
Crippling shyness. I barely talk to my friends and family, why the hell would i force conversation with strangers
Crippling lack of self esteem (with women at least). Many men who know me admire my personality but i feel inferior to women. Maybe i should give that ‘gay’ thing another try.
Lack of interest. women are just people, and people don’t really do it for me i guess. Plus i’ve always found the idea of pursuing women only to be blown off by 80% of them degrading as hell, and not worth it.
Lack of options. See shyness. I don’t go to parties, raves, church, box socials, etc so i don’t meet people.
My standards are weird. I can relate to xgxlx on this one. For some reason, skinny women with soft white skin and long dark straight hair are amazing to me. I’d jump over 10 Carmen Electras and Pamela andersons to get to one plain faced, flat chested woman with long black hair. Aside from that, looks don’t really matter much for me as long as the woman isn’t repulsive.
I’m used to it. This may sound bad, but i’m 23 and have never been on a date. This is all i know and to change it now would be to disrupt the system. I’ve tried basic psychology tactics i picked up from dating website (laugh if you must) and had women hit on me for it but i didn’t care. I don’t know why. Why would i try to make women attracted to me by manipulating them and then just ignore them when they show interest? I should see a councelor.
Did i mention i bitch alot too? thats probably bad.
