To be honest, vaginal sex feels better, usually, because, once you’re past the ring of the anus, there’s not a lot of “grip” from the inside of the rectum. The vagina, on the other hand, creates gentle pressure/contact along the entire length.
Also, once the anus starts to relax, even the enjoyable pressure from the ring of the anus weakens, and it’s just not as enjoyable.
I find anal to be a poor cousin to vaginal penetration. Given my druthers, I would be perfectly content to never engage in it again. But I have dated women for whom it was a favorite thing to do. I don’t know if we were hitting something just right. Or if was just in engaging in a “taboo” that really turned their crank, but whatever the cause, it absolutely rocked their worlds.
That is what made it special. And if I found a woman that responded to it that way again, I would happily engage in it again.
I am no ass bandit myself. But I knew a guy in university who would do only anal sex with the girls he went out with. He claimed this allowed him to keep his vow of faithfulness to his girlfriend back home. To him, anal-only = faithful, vaginal = unfaithful. Don’t remember his stance on blowjobs.
That reminds me of an occasional conservative-female variation on that attitude; that non-vaginal sex doesn’t count as sex, so they can have anal or oral and still be “virgins”.
I ran into girls when I was younger who used anal and oral to maintain the virgin status. I think most guys like to at least try it but I like the vaginal way far better.
It’s great if the girl is into it and she is relaxed and not uptight and tense. Otherwise, it’s going to be an unpleasant experience for the receiver (and thus both parties). I find that some vaginal intercourse first is good; this gets her aroused and relaxed. Then it’s an easy transition to the forbidden zone. When it’s done right, it really can be awesome.
So it is your contention that at best all women are either disinterested or hate it? Because that has not been my experience. In my experience 15.7% of all women love it (granted my survey size is small ;)). The few I have been with who do it really enjoy it, especially when combined with other stimulation.
Yeah, someone needs to tell guys to stop taking cues on what women like from porn. Psst, note to dudes: Porn is meant to play to your fantasies, not women’s. But anyway, that article doesn’t seem to say anal sex is really that popular. It says “44 percent of straight men and 36 percent of straight women admitted to having had anal sex at least once in their lives.” I dunno, 36% of women having tried it at least once doesn’t mean it’s going over well and is a common occurrence.
While we’re here, I’ll tell a joke you’ve probably heard before. A woman tells a man “Make love to me like they do in the movies,” so he fucked her in the ass and came on her face. I guess they watch different types of movies.
This was my college girlfriend’s reasoning. No complaints from me! Fortunately, we’re married now so there’s no reason to stop the practice.
I think you’re watching the wrong kind of porn.
As to why it’s supposedly popular, I guess there’s a nastiness aspect to it- it’s taboo, yet still erotic and sexual. It feels different for me than vaginal, but that doesn’t mean it doesn’t feel good. Oral feels different from vaginal, and they both feel different from a handjob, and they all feel different from anal. They’re all sexy in their own way.
My first question at seeing the thread title was: “Oh, sure, popular with porn producers.” At least in American porn probably just because they remember from the porn they grew up with that it once used to be a somewhat rare thing so it’s “special”. Europorn OTOH seems to always have had a high rate of buggery. Never thought to find it remarkable, attributed it to a de gustibus difference.
And yep, I too come from a culture where it used to be common that anal = virginity dodge/poor girl’s birth control (yet at the same time fellatio was an extraordinary special-ocassion event).
Hell, to be truthful much of the recent crop of porn doesn’t even play all that well to mine.
Then recommend something, yo. Seriously, every time I watch porn, I’m like “The fuck is all this bullshit?” There’s a lot of obnoxious screaming, girls attempting to look lustily into the camera, anal (gross), and sometimes even choking? WTF? Dear gods, I don’t want to be choked, and stay away from my asshole. Honestly, the moment it even looks like anal is going to be attempted, I’m done. There is no part of me that’s turned on by being poked in the back door, and it is actually a very serious turn off.