The fact is you’re unemployed. I’ve basically been unemployed for the last two and a half years. Oh I get enough temp jobs to pay the rent and keep my Internet afloat, but I can’t do anything else.
I live in a horrible flat, in a horrible part of town, surrounded by druggies, thieves and other people who just ain’t much good.
What can I do? Get a job. Fine, if I could find one. I go on interview after interview and still get turned down or I get the job with lousy hours. Last job I had at a drug store kept cutting my hours. The last two months I wound up working 7 hours PER MONTH.
What can I do? Suck it up and wear it, till times get better. From my angle your deal looks sweet. I would love to be able to go to a doctor or dentist. But that just ain’t happening for now at least.
I suggest you focus on what you CAN do and just leave it at that. Make sure you are only in your brother’s house to sleep. Get up and spend the rest of the day elsewhere. Looking for work or just grab a book and go to the park and read. From my standpoint you’re lucky to have someone who cares enough to give you a roof over your head. I know lots and I mean lots of people who don’t even have that.
Good luck
Ryan, probably the only wisdom you’ve gained from posting a thread like this is to NOT EVER do it again! :eek::eek::eek:
Some of the responses you’ve received were totally out of line, judgmental to the extreme and just plain ole shitty! Usually, if someone posts a thread like this, it means they don’t have a lot of people they can talk things over with. If this is true, I’m sorry for that. Don’t let any of the crappy comments get you down any more than you already are.
As for your brother, it sounds like he’s not very happy, either. If he says something hateful, DON’T respond in kind. DON’T argue with him. Just let it go. Use that energy to find a job and a way out of this situation. I know his behavior is hurtful and if I were you, I’d get out ASAP and keep my distance from him in the future. You can’t change him, only yourself! If he’s always been this way, then he’s probably gonna stay this way.
You need to take a brutally honest look at yourself. Are you using your time wisely in your job search or are you sitting around the house on the computer instead of out job hunting? Are you using the computer for job hunting or reading Straight Dope all day? Are you trying to be too picky on what kind of job you’ll do?
I’m a computer programmer/analyst by profession but I’ve done everything from working in a vet’s office cleaning up dog poop, house cleaning and being a personal assistant to a rich snob that treated me like I was a sub-human species. Sometimes you have to just suck it up and do whatever it takes.
Back to my first comment - Unfortunately, when things are going good, some people tend to forget what it was like when things were bad for them, when they longed for understanding and a little encouragement. We all need it when life takes a turn for the worst. Empathy for others seems to be sadly lacking in some folks. Encouragement is what most people need to move forward, not ridicule and negativity.
In summary, DON’T argue with your brother! Complete waste of time. He’s not happy for whatever reason/reasons. Be the kind understanding person you wish he was. Next - Google is our friend! Google job hunting strategies. There’s a ton of information out there. Let your brother’s anger be the fire under your a** to get you going instead of wasting time wondering why he’s such a miserable bastard. Your goal should be to let him be miserable by himself if that’s what he wants. GOOD LUCK!