I recently visited my best friend in London. We went out, had a great time and he introduced me to a couple of his friends.
I was totally fascinated by one of his female friends. She had a charming smile, always had a good story to tell and was quite beautiful. On saturday we went to a pub and afterwards to a club for some dancing.
So far, so good, but… Why is it that all the good girls at this age already have a long time boyfriend (well, the answer is obvious, but it’s still a tragedy!)? Oh well, gotta keep looking…
Optihut, it’s got nothing to do with ‘mid-20’!!
That happens everyday, no matter what your age!
Don’t give up… and if they have a long term boyfriend why aren’t they married???
Because they don’t want to… so… what does that tell you?
GO FOR IT!!
Yeah, another guy there told me “just because there’s a goal keeper, doesn’t mean you can’t score a goal.” I liked that line, but I guess the goal keeper was too good
I was there for just a week and except for that dancing on saturday, I only had the chance to talk to her twice, so I didn’t have much of an opportunity to leave a lasting impression anyway. I would have liked to stay in touch in a friendly way, but I guess it always works out like this - I meet cool people, but then everybody goes their separate ways again. A pity.
The problem that all the interesting women are already taken, still persists though. Ok, maybe next time I will “go for it”, but now that I am back here (in the middle of nowhere), I don’t have any suitable candidates, so to speak.
Well Optihut, if you are also considering the long term: a lot of those mid-20 relations don’t last. I’ve seen quite a lot of those dissolve after five, six years. That is not to say that you should wait all those years, but if it so happens that at that time you are unattached, hey, go for it! Hence don’t write off all contact because someone is already spoken for.
Oh, usually it’s not me who is writing off contacts. It’s the other people. Perhaps I do show too much interest and that scares other people away, even though I really only intended to be friends (for the time being…). shrugs
I don’t think all the good girls in their mid-twenties are single. Of course, being a single girl in her mid-twenties, I may be biased.
I think your problem is more being in the middle of nowhere. I’m in a pretty rural area, and most people my age have fled to much more interesting places. Perhaps things are the same where you are. I don’t know what the solution is, though. Move?
Yeah, I will move… Once I have my degree. But that’s still a year away.
Right now I am contemplating to move to an “english speaking” country afterwards. That might help, although it’ll be a beaurocratic nightmare to move to a foreign country, heh.
For Heaven’s sake, don’t let a woman’s having a boyfriend stop you, no matter how long-term. If he wanted to marry her, he’d marry her, and he hasn’t, so he doesn’t. Be the one to turn her head and show her a better alternative.
I’m 25, exactly in my mid-20s. While I don’t exactly endorse stealing another man’s woman, I don’t think you should despair. Just because that woman is taken doesn’t mean there aren’t plenty of other women of that age who are single and looking as well. Never give up the search, my friend.
It’s funny to hear a man complain about this because all I hear are my girlfriends complaining that there are no good men around. We’re in our early thirties, so maybe that’s the problem: we were all taken in our 20s, and those relationships didn’t work out. Now that we’re single, all the good single guys who were lonely in their 20s are now taken. Oh the irony.
I wasn’t that interested in her, she was just a cool person to hang out with and I would have liked to stay in touch. If she had been single it would have been a different story though.
And I can’t believe that there are no single guys hitting on you. First off it seems to be easier for women than it is for guys, but even I have the occassional single woman hitting on me. The problem usually is, that it’s only women I don’t have an interest in and so far I couldn’t bring myself to being an ass and starting anything with the women without having a real interest.
Well, I am kind of wondering myself. The last three guys that hit on me were either married or had a girlfriend. I am not saying that’s necessarily an obstacle. I do support the opinions that say if you really hit it off with someone you shouldn’t let a SO stand in your way (after all, he/she maybe on the way out, for all you know).
But if a person hits on somebody else while still in a relationship you probably shouldn’t be surprised when they later on cheat on you, too.
Usually, single guys I meet only complain about the lack of interesting women (which made me respond to your OP, as it’s rather annoying to hear that you’re apparently not in that category).
Hmmm, I am confused. I was complaining about the lack of interesting women. Ok, sure, I also had to add “single” here, because people in a relationship were always regarded as off-limits by myself.
How is it annoying that I am not in the category?
Oh and I noticed that you added a location. What’s MUC though? Is that anywhere near Aachen or Düsseldorf by chance?
My mistake: I meant to say when somebody complains to little old available me that he doesn’t meet any interesting women, he apparently implies that I obviously am not interesting as otherwise he would be saying: “How you doing?” instead
And actually, MUC is quite closer to Aachen or Düsseldorf than many other locations I could think of.
