Eating icecream made with raw eggs, or unpasteurised milk, or allowed to thaw and re-freeze would put anyone at risk of food poisoning- which could be especially dangerous for a pregnant woman.
However- eating a McFlurry- possibly the most processed foodstuff I can think of, is highly unlikely to cause food poisoning.
The pre-emptive ER attendance, and all the posts of :mad: about not being treated for an unlikely (and as yet nonexistent) illness was when the stupid finally pushed me over the line.
Oh, phew. I was racking my (non-parent) brain trying to think why on fucking earth it could have been a problem. I was hoping it was a woosh, but couldn’t stop myself from going, “Mercury? Growth hormones in the milk? The fact that it’s [del]teh evil[/del] McDonald’s?”
True story: when I was pregnant with my first kid, I once wrote a blog entry in which I mentioned having a jelly donut craving that my husband very kindly indulged me in, by going out to the donut shop at some ungodly hour on a Sunday morning to get me one.
I got an email from someone who read my blog, telling me that I obviously cared nothing about my unborn child’s health due to all the junk I was “cramming down my maw.”
I also posted a photo of my kid buckled into his carseat once and got another email from a different person telling me that I had buckled him incorrectly because he was wearing a coat and wearing a coat means the restraints won’t be effective. (I am telling you right now that if you are reading this and thinking about posting “no seriously, it’s really true, they should’t wear a coat” I am telling you preemptively that a fuck is greater than the amount that I will give for that opinion.)
Sometimes I wish the village would just shut the fuck up and mind its own business.
The worst thing about mommy boards in general (not including motheringdotcom, which has so many things wrong with it they can’t be listed) are the stay-at-home vs working Mommy Wars. If I saw one more person say “I don’t want my child being raised by strangers,” I would have lost my mind.
The sparkly dress-up sling!!! because us girls just love sparkly stuff!!! totally cracked me up.
But the…what the…but…
You know what, I have no problem with people who decide to do that. But the idea that there’s one Objective Right Way of child-raising - that the exact same things are right for every single family, because parents and kids aren’t individuals - and that anyone who doesn’t conform to the One Right Way is a bad parent… that makes me go into sputterandgibber mode.
In some ways we may actually be towards the attachment side of the spectrum - Widget napped in her sling till she was three months old, for example. But I have absolutely no thoughts about whether that would be the right thing for any other family, or even for any other kid we might have.
Also, Widget likes private time. She has for a long, long time. She loooooves being with me, but every now and then she’ll toddle off and read by herself for a while, or have her own private tea party. She would not be pleased if I decided that she needed to be on my hip instead, to satisfy my image of the kind of mother I want to be.
The virtual village and real village can be the world’s biggest pain in the rear. Nothing makes New Yorkers come out with the opinions quite as much as babies. Bring one into the subway and you’ll get half a dozen conversations about what you’re doing wrong. I finally told one old biddy that she was the reason people don’t visit their relatives in nursing homes.
So, all this being said - is there any such thing as a “more reasonable” parenting board? I don’t expect the Bastion of Rationality which is the Dope, but something relatively closeish, that you could recommend?
Seriously, I’m kind of scared by the assumption that there are only two kinds of mother: Perfect Mother and Terrible Mother. I do my best, but I’m sure as hell not Perfect Mother, so I like to hope there’s something in between.
Meanwhile, most of the fathers I know feel that, as long as they feed the kid, give it plenty of love and don’t drop it, they’re probably doing OK.
I spend a fair amount of time on www.storknotes.com (as does another poster on this thread who I will not out - she can do it for herself if she wants). It has a certain fraction of the motheringdotcommune freaks, but also a fair number of relaxed mothers who don’t really give a rip about what other people think.
That would be me. I actually found out about StorkNet from some other SDMB members, a really long time ago. (I no longer remember who!) The MDC factor is really low there but it does piss me off on a regular basis just from your standard “I’m terrified of perverts lurking around every corner” and “here’s some easily-debunkable glurge I thought I’d share” and “can you please pray for my pet hamster” stuff. But it’s not too bad overall I guess.
They did move all the “please pray for my hamster” stuff into its own forum, which helped. I agree that the “terrified of perverts” thing is annoying, but when it gets bad, I always have you to vent to.
I found out about it from hedra here - is that who told you?
It’s definitely a lot quieter than it was five year ago. I’ve been checking out that TWWS forum linked above, and I think I may like it quite a bit. We’ll see.
I’m pretty sure my wife reads that board. She told me almost the exact story a few days/weeks ago…of course maybe that means there’s more than one of these nuts around.
I have a friend who recently had a baby and used to browse two different baby boards( I forget their names, I wasn’t the one who knocked her up so I didn’t care). One was helpful and full of mostly sane pregos who loved advice of all kinds. The other was full of dimwitted fucktards that she chose as her White Whale to try and educate. It was a losing battle.
Actually (unless this is the mother of all zombie threads) not quite 100% of us adults are dead. I’m still waiting on scientific developments on that front.
The issue with ice cream safety isn’t the eggs/dairy - it’s the potential to get listeria from soft serve ice cream. It’s apparently very difficult to properly clean the soft serve machines (scooped ice cream is fine). So better to avoid anything using soft serve for the duration. (Although I have to admit I caved when in Cambodia during my first pregnancy and had a one off slurry to cope with the heat).
Other than the dubious nutritional count of the average item at McDonalds, I agree that it is silly.
Now homemade ice cream that I [for example] didn’t make I could see that. Honey - botulism issues, I can understand. A frozen dairyish substance made fresh that shift, not so much a problem.
about not being treated for an unlikely (and as yet nonexistent) illness was when the stupid finally pushed me over the line.