A few months back I was wondering why I didn’t get anything out of porn so I decided to watch a lot of different types. The only porn that kind of turned me on was older women doing younger guys. Not really attractive women either. So go figure. Sex appeal is sometimes hard to pin point.
She’s standing right there next to you, isn’t she…
The self-absorption of young people is annoying, but the bitterness of older people is off-putting. Neither is more pronounced in women than men, but their courtship role differences matter. You might go shopping in a store whose sign said “It’s All about Me,” but not one with a window banner “Customers are Jerks!”
The best experiences I’ve ever had with a woman was with a 55 year-old woman. I’ve had a wide range of experiences with women ranging from age 17 to 55 and my most pleasant experiences were with a 55 year-old woman.
I understand that a woman in her 20s can be the most attractive and beautiful. But a pleasurable experience between a man and woman depends on much more than her physical appearance - much, much more.
This one lady just knew and understood what kinds of things would give us both great pleasure and I was happy to please her just as much as she was to please me. I have never experienced that with younger women. I’ve never found one who was willing or able to give me what I wanted while I was able to give her what she wanted.
Only a very tiny part of my experiences with women consisted of intercourse. I happen to enjoy other things much more than that. Much of it involves talking and exchanging other things.
When I think back to my happiest experiences, it’s not the intercourse that I remember and cherish. That is pretty far down the list. I often think of some of the things we did together and when I do that, I hardly spend any time at all thinking about intercourse. All of the pleasure associated with intercourse only lives in the moment it happens. It does not translate down through time.
The most pleasurable aspects of the experiences shared together by a man and a woman consist of much more than intercourse. In my experience, intercourse is only a very small part of the most enjoyable times we spent together.