To introduce the question: NinjaChick’s latest befuddlement as to social norms.
I (as of a few days ago when a mutual crush was finally brought to light) am kind of with a guy who I know from TKD. He’s almost brotherly, kind of overprotective. Sweetest guy in the world. Very, VERY good looking.
But - I’m sixteen, he’s twenty. I’m white, he’s black. I’m athiest, he’s Christian (don’t know what demonination).
I was updating a friend on my social life yesterday. They were amazed that I’d date a guy who was not only four years older than I, but of a different race. Religion, according to my friend, is a line you can (usually) cross comfortably in dating, but not race, at least not in our white-bread suburb. This was a total shock to me - I’m a die-hard liberal, many of my friends are different race/religion than I am, and it’s really never made a difference. I’ve never really thought of my guy (who I’ve known for…four years or so), as black, just as…him. It had no effect on my affection for him, at all.
But am I just weird? What traits would cause you to maybe be attracted to someone, but not willing to date them?
I’m by no means trying to label anyone as racist. I just very recently realized that race might be a major obstacle to a relationship for some.