That was probably the worst subject line in the history of mankind, but let’s try it and run with it.
This Saturday, I and Pricegal are going to a club. Sort of a swinger’s club. We’re just going to try it out, see if it’s our kind of deal. Not do anything with anyone else to start with, just watch and have others watch us, that kind of thing. If we like it, fine. If we don’t, we’ve tried it. That’s not what I’m worried about.
The club is private and membership is mandatory for admission. You contact them through an email address and receive a phone number. When you call it, you set up a meeting at this pub before the club opens that evening. Basically, this Saturday I’m going to the pub and ask for a certain person at the bar. We’ll sit down and chat with this person and if we feel up to it, we’ll go the club. We don’t know the location until then.
I’m worried about this: these people could be anybody. They could be rapists. Perverts. Kidnappers. International sex slave traders. Criminals of any description. Anything could happen. And I don’t have a clue what to do about it. I could leave a letter in my apartment saying where we were going, in case something happens to us, but all I know is the url, email address and cell phone number. The club’s location is known only to members. I’ve been dreaming up this scheme by which we leave one cell phone in the apartment and sms the location there when we know it, but what if we never get the opportunity? This would also require telling Pricegal about my concerns, and she’s really looking forward to this. I don’t want to worry her.
Do I have reason to be worried? Anything I can do to feel safer? Anyone had any experiences with this sort of things before? Is there any way I can check these people out? I’m in Sweden, so any American crime registers and the like aren’t of much use, and I wouldn’t be able to identify the people involved anyway.
dude, dont take it the wrong way. It seems to be one of those things that could hurt a relationship. The gun is for protection, as is the rubba, good luck.
I assumed you meant that I would lose Pricegal because she was kidnapped/killed/whatever, not because she left me. Anyway, I can’t and won’t bring a gun, and since I won’t be having sex with anyone but Pricegal the rubbers won’t exactly be useful either.
I read about it in the newspaper. Obviously no addresses or the like was given, just the city (which I happen to live in). I did a websearch on some key terms and found it immediately. I looked through the website and eventually emailed them.
No, as far as I know no-one I know has been there.
It does sound a bit dodgy, but how else are they supposed to run something like this? They don’t want a bunch of fundamentalists picketing the place. They don’t want trouble, basically.
If you have so many worries about it why are you doing it?
I guess asking some friend to go to the bar to watch over you is out of the question. So I hope you both have cell phones.
My suggestions: 1) tell a friend to call the police if you don’t call them by a certain time the next morning; 2) leave all the available information in a letter in your house; 3) SMS the address to your wife’s cell phone at home.
Although based on that article malaka linked to, it’s doubtful it’s anything more than you think it is, at least this way you’ve done what you can short of not going.
I can’t imagine why you’d want to go to such a thing, but vive la difference and all that.
I’d be worried as to whether they are dangerous too; it doesn’t look like there is any way to tell for sure (except going through with it and seeing if you come out alive) - if they would accept the presence of a minder at the initial meeting and the first visit to the actual club, then it would be better, but I’m sure they won’t - this could be for quite understandable reasons or for nefarious ones, there’s no way to tell.
Priceguy, I would definitely have a friend go independently to the same club as you for your initial meeting. To observe. Then, either he can follow to the other location from a safe distance (kind of like cool cloak and dagger stuff) or if that’s not feasible, at least ring him back via cell phone with the location, etc. And as mentioned by DeadlyAccurate, certainly have someone (the same friend, perhaps?) check on your return by a predetermined time.
