Women aren't sexually attracted to the male body?

In My Humble Opinion
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My reasons.

  1. Girls can’t be sexually attracted to random men they haven’t met or spoken to.

  2. They aren’t physically turned on by men’s bodies except with an erect penis from their BOYFRIEND only. This is because it shows the guy is horny and desires her which results in her feeling turned on. But the initial desire comes from the guy.

  3. Most girls are sexually fluid and are able to get off to other girls, lesbian porn and still claim straight because its not the male physicality they’re attracted to but the emotional attachment/context.

  4. Girls look at guys/girls as partners only eg. Boyfriend/husband material (how well he can provide for her and the child, how well they get along and only after this do they want to sexually explore) where as guys look at girls sexually and after they establish an emotional connection then look at them as girlfriend/ wife material.

  5. Men ask women out and pay for dates because men are initially/ already attracted and need to prove to the girl they are husband/ boyfriend material. Where as in order for the girl to begin to feel attraction they must be close be able to see a future together.

Summary: Men are more directly attracted to girls so they ask women out and pursue them and are driven by their large attraction toward women where as women feel nothing until they meet a guy they can see a future with and only then begin to feel attraction.

So basically men are attracted to women and how well they get along with them.
girls are attracted to personality/ providing potential (of either gender, usually guys) and after feeling close and desired they begin to express sexual interest.
*It is widely said that women feel physical turn on only if they have some sort of connection with the person. Sex is not physical for them it all about mental and psychological. Girls say they don’t feel physical attraction before knowing the person. For women, it’s a lot more typical to need a little bit more to feel physical attraction. When they see guys doesn’t matter how hot they are they won’t feel any attraction physically or sexually until they know him a little bit and until interaction with him. Before knowing guys personalty girls don’t experience physical attraction. at first they can just recognize them that they are attractive then if they show interest, if they talk to them then you start to feel attraction. Before it their feelings is just neutral.

If it is stranger and unknown guys whom them never meet before then they won’t experience any physical sparks because hot body doesn’t turn them on. They feel neutral when they see sexy guys. But after talking them, after interaction with them if they realize that the guy has a good sense of humor, good personality then they will experience physical sparks before that they feel neutral. Same as when gay guys see hot women they can just acknowledge that the person is hot but wouldn’t feel any physical sparks.
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Don’t print too many newsletters just yet. You may have to eat your words and you wouldn’t want to cause a bowel (bowl?) obstruction.

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Maybe not YOUR body.

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This a popular bullshit answer. If you are not interested then don’t waste your time here. I heard it quite often that’s why I asked.

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I wouldn’t go as far as the OP - there are many instances of women being sexually turned on by celebrities they’ve never met - but it does seem that women require more “personal context” to be sexually turned-on - for instance, maybe hearing the celebrity’s voice, or seeing him on TV, etc. - whereas a lot of men can get aroused just by looking at a photo of a nude woman - no voice, little context, no knowledge of who that woman is or what her personality is like or even what her name is, etc.

Isn’t it true that women generally want more “background story” in order to get aroused by a porn video or whatnot, while men don’t need any “story” to get aroused by porn?

Someone once said that romance novels are to women what porn is to men, and I think the theory is that the romance novel provides story and background, something that men usually don’t need as much of.

Finally, there are numerous instances of women marrying or being attracted to ugly but rich/successful/famous men. Whereas a lot of men would have a hard time being sexually attracted to an ugly woman, even if she were rich/powerful/smart/famous etc.

So I think the OP is partially or mostly right.

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Possibly THE silliest mansplaining that there ever was!

Thanks for the laughs! A great way to start the day!

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So, women don’t sexually attract to random men body?
If it is the case then initially they are not attracted to any gender’s body so logically they can date any gender and should feel same interest towards same gender?
Everytime they have to experiment which gender they are sexually attracted to?

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How it is silliest mansplaining?

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I’m gonna jump in here (and may live to regret it), because this is a subject that I’ve thought about and have discussed with my female friends (and a few mail/male ones) over the years.

I notice great looking men, as do basically all the women I know. Whether in person or on film, an attractive man in great clothes, formalwear, grubbies, or bare-chested-- I notice him and note that he is attractive. A fully, frontally nude guy in a picture gets my attention, but is not sexually arousing. =

When I see a man who is really physically attractive, I do not automatically feel the inclination to cross the room and go talk to him. His physical attractiveness is not enough to pique my interest in him. If I can hear him talk and he seems friendly, kind, smart, funny–THEN I might be interested in seeking him out and meeting him. Physical appearance alone isn’t enough.

Also, if he’s not particularly physically attractive by generally accepted standards (short, bald, overweight, even disabled, i.e., crutches or a wheelchair) I will still want to meet him and talk to him if he seems friendly, kind, smart, funny, etc.

However, regarding appearance, there is something that applies to both physically attractive and (objectively) unattractive men: he needs to be on top of hygiene. He can’t look like a slob (to me). I realize that a fair amount of fashion today is pre-planned and paid-for slobbiness–torn jeans, partially shaven, whatever. But the guy needs to be aware of how he presents himself to the world and that includes having bathed/shaved (to whatever extent he does).

All of this will make me want to meet the guy, but the drive to become intimate (and it is a drive in women, too) will not appear until there is some sort of personal click/connection, and that can happen quickly (minutes, days), but more likely, slowly (weeks, months).

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You didn’t ask a single fucking question. It was a declaration.

A declaration of what is what we’ll get down to revealing.

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Look at it this way: most of the time the possibility of a sexual encounter is not the first thing that occurs to a woman when she meets a man. (Although she may be aware that HIS first thought is the possibility of a sexual encounter with HER.) A woman likely has already figured out whether she is generally attracted to men or women, so that’s not a question she has to ask herself every time. But for myself, I need to feel some kind of connection even to consider an intimate relationship at some point in the future.

As for being attracted to both men and women-- certainly some people are. I have a girlfriend who was married to a man for 30+ years and after he died, she entered into a long-term intimate relationship with a woman. It certainly can happen, and it’s not all that rare, but mostly I think people know which gender they are sexually attracted to.

Your question illuminates a type of male thinking that I didn’t know much about. Just ignore the ridicule. Some here are juvenile.

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:rolleyes:

:rolleyes::rolleyes:

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  1. I notice great looking men, as do basically all the women I know. > Do you notice great looking women? Then what is the difference between noticing great looking men and women?

  2. Whether in person or on film, an attractive man in great clothes, formalwear, grubbies, or bare-chested-- I notice him and note that he is attractive. > When do you see attractive women on tv or flim you can also notice her and note that she is attractive then what’s the difference between noting attractive men and women and noting they are attractive?

  3. A fully, frontally nude guy in a picture gets my attention, but is not sexually arousing. > Nude women in picture arouse you? Then what is the difference between looking at nude guys and nude women?

  4. When I see a man who is really physically attractive, I do not automatically feel the inclination to cross the room and go talk to him. His physical attractiveness is not enough to pique my interest in him. > What do you feel when do you see attractive women? Is it same as seeing attractive men?

  5. Also, if he’s not particularly physically attractive by generally accepted standards (short, bald, overweight, even disabled, i.e., crutches or a wheelchair) I will still want to meet him and talk to him if he seems friendly, kind, smart, funny, etc. > What about woman and hermaphrodite? They can be friendly, kind, smart, funny, etc?

I appreciate your post.

Be so kind and tell me some more about this:
If it’s true that attractiveness is caused by personality, a to you unknown man and woman are both maybe good looking and their form can be appreciated but only the guy can become sexually attractive if everything fits?
What would happen if the woman offers said desired characteristics in way of speaking, mannerism and chemistry?

I am not talking about being in a relationship with a person. I am talking about basic sexual attraction. If it is the case for you they very hard you do experience sexual attraction?

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I suppose the success and popularity of the Chippendales and many similar male strip shows for the past 40 years must be imaginary.

:rolleyes:

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Actually you didn’t get my question. I am not talking about attraction for affection I am talking about basic sexual attraction.
Why do we (straight) guys attracted to attractive member of our opposite sex when we see them on train, bus, or street though there is no chance whether we will meet them again or not or no chance of mating?

According to you women only sexually attracted to whom they have enough chance of being in a relationship. Without this confirmation women won’t attract to guys whether the guys is super hot or not?

It means women don’t experience new sexual attraction often, they are sexually attracted to same person everyday, every month.

They become asexual when they go in public/street.

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I’ve been to Chippendales shows and have also been to parties where there was a male stripper. The atmosphere is pure circus, wild party, laughing, screaming, and carrying on. It was sexy without being sexual. I’m guessing it’s difficult for a man to understand. Maybe another woman can come along and explain it.

You’ve raised some very interesting questions! And please remember that I’m only talking about myself and not about women in general.

And it’s not exactly attraction for affection… it’s more like an attraction to be joined to someone, wholly joined in all ways, especially including physical. Affection is the smallest part of it. And I’m (just me–I’d like to hear from other women) not going to feel like being sexual with a man unless some part of me senses the potential for this kind of profound joining on all levels, even in only one or a few encounters. IOW I don’t have to marry the guy, but I won’t even be interested unless it goes–however briefly–beyond the physical. Even though I came of age in the Swinging 60s, I was never one to sleep around. I was always looking for more. And BTW, this isn’t something the man can do anything about-- it’s how I see him and experience him as he is. It’s not a line, or an approach, or some behavior or appearance thing that he can change. It’s chemistry. And it’s a mystery.

I do notice attractive women, and frankly, I’d rather look at naked women than naked men. But looking at naked women does not sexually arouse me. For years I did therapeutic massage, but working on naked people never aroused me. I worked on some perfect athletic bodies (even a guy who went on to win three gold medals in the Olympics), and I recognized the perfection of their physical selves, but not sexually moved.

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Maybe because you seem to think all women think and act one common way, which is untrue. There’s no one single standard of female behavior.

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The man has raised some interesting discussion questions. He has said, “this is how it seems to me. Tell me if this is how it seems to you.” Ok, not stated in the most polished way possible but why not DISCUSS instead of dissing him??

You are correct: there is no one single standard of female behavior. So elaborate already. Help out here.

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gisaaanr, what does it mean to be “sexually attracted”?

  1. There’s a certain sense in which you seem to be using (what you understand to be) men’s way of being sexually attracted to women as the definition of “sexually attracted”, whereas women’s way of being sexually attracted to men (as you understand it), to whatever extent it is different, isn’t “really sexually attracted”. In other words, using the male model as the definitive model.

  2. Even if you nod with agreement to that observation, that leaves your other thesis, that men’s way of being sexually attracted to women is fundamentally different from women’s way of being sexually attracted to men. How universal do you intend this assertion to be? Do you mean all heterosexual men’s attraction to women follows Pattern A and all hetero women’s attraction to men follows a different pattern, Pattern B? Or do you think of it more like hetero men have more of a tendency towards one pattern than hetero women, who are more inclined towards the other pattern than men are?

  3. Either way, you haven’t really described the men’s way of being attracted; you’ve spend more descriptive text on how women are attracted to men. You’re sort of treating the men’s way of being attracted as if it’s something we all already know and are in agreement about.

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I don’t think it’s news to anyone that women, in the main, tend to place more value on a man’s confidence, status, sense of humor, and intellectual abilities than men do on women’s. Cultural sexism, hard-wired neurological responses that go back to caveman days, nature, nurture, whatever…the phenomenon undoubtedly exists. As a general rule, I think it can be said that men are more turned on by what they see, women are more turned on by what they hear/know/understand. Maybe that makes women more intellectually evolved; I don’t know.

But come on. I see and hear how women talk about Jason Momoa, Johnny Depp, Idris Elba…believe me, they are sexually attracted to men’s bodies. I can’t believe this is even up for debate.

Women objectify men. Men objectify women. People objectify each other. You know why? Because people are objects! We are all, literally, physical objects!