:dubious: Not really a good argument, considering that porn is…not exactly a good guide to normal human sexual behavior.
Do you think that a person who is not at all interested in sex would willingly perform those acts?
There are lots of people who will do things they aren’t particularly interested in if the price is right, it’s their job or it will get them something else they want.
Have you heard of amateur porn? It’s unpaid, and there is a ton of it available. Have you heard of sexting? Also unpaid. No one with access to the web needs any help finding proof that women get horny.
I don’t know… as a man, I can say that I do all kinds of totally ridiculous stuff to make my wife happy. And I’m not talking about sex. Valentines Day, for example, is an entire holiday structured around stuff men would never - ever! - do if it wasn’t to please the women in our lives. When was the last time a man bought himself flowers? Exactly.
So it’s not such a reach to imagine a woman having sex to please a man, even if it’s not really her favorite way to spend an evening.
That’s a dismal point of view. I don’t enjoy housework, but my husband works longer hours so I do the lion’s share to please him. Sex I do because we both enjoy it. I can’t figure out how to phrase the search for this board, but the parenting boards I used to chat on were peppered with threads started by women complaining they weren’t getting enough sex. I know of two friends who encouraged their husbands to check into testosterone therapy because they weren’t getting enough attention. I find it hard to believe that anyone truly believes women don’t get horny. How would you explain provocative clothing, setting, flashing, amateur porn, and the unholy selection of vibrators and dildos on the market? We aren’t using them as rolling pins, fellas.
Well, I’m not saying that this is my view. Especially not after it was my girlfriend in high school who chased me down and was the one putting pressure on me to have sex. That was something of a surprise to me, though, because I’d had the impression growing up that women just weren’t that motivated to have sex. I don’t know where I got that idea specifically, but there it was.
So if you start off with an incorrect point of view - and Lord knows there’s more misinformation about sex than just about anything else - I can see how it is possible to reinterpret certain facts in a way that maintains the incorrect point of view. That’s especially true if you buy into that whole whore/Madonna dichotomy that’s still buried in parts of our culture. So the OP’s question doesn’t seem so surprising to me.
(On a somewhat similar note about misinformation on women, I do remember being told by an older female relative that women don’t sweat and don’t fart. Maybe there was humor intended that I was too young to grasp, but she said it. And for the record, I knew that she was wrong even at the time she said it.)
This is true, and it’s sad. When boys are made to feel guilty about masturbating or being interested in sex and girls are called names and given bad reputations for showing any interest in sex it’s a wonder we manage to hook up at all.
Glad that post doesnt have the “needs answer fast” disclaimer. :eek:
I don’t know. I think the question should be framed a bit differently if you want to figure out a good comparison between mean and women. Like, if in a relationship, are any women gonna go out of their minds or bolt outright if they aren’t getting a steady supply of sex?
There are definitely going to be some women that fall into that category, but I imagine that that scenario is far more likely to apply to men.
Yes. I think about it multiple times per day and get cranky and frustrated if I go too long without it. Thankfully, I don’t need to wait too long these days. Since I no longer ovulate, I suppose that statistically my libido should be way down, but it most certainly is not. 
<raising hand up and waiving>. I was married for 17 years. Our break up 3+ years ago was the build up of various differences, but I will say that at the top of the list was the great imbalance of our sex drive along with his hang-ups that contributed toward my final decision. I was not willing to live the rest of my life with an unsatisfactory sex life - it’s just too important to me. And, I could see that no amount of counseling was going to change things.
I’m a woman and have generally had a higher sex drive than male partners.
Now I take meds that make me virtually uninterested in sex. Unfortunately, I really need them.
Male sex drive peaks much earlier (in terms of chronological age) than female sex drive. There are a variety of other differences including women being more sexually “flexible” (ex. a lesbian is more likely than a gay man to enjoy straight sex).
Everything credible that I found online does indicate that male sex drive is higher on average. Seems to pose a nature vs. nurture question, though.
If the OP is posing this question for… um… personal reasons: Sex drive varies person by person.