Never had one with a partner. Yes, there is such a thing as bad sex.
We’ve been together 3 1/2 years. I’d say average, 6, but on a good night. . . 15? More? I don’t really count, to be honest. It’s always been this way with him, though, from the very first time. With previous boyfriends I rarely orgasmed; maybe once or twice during an entire relationship. I guess I’m just picky!
Consider my ignorance fought; I always thought the answer to ‘How many orgasms?’ was ‘How many you got…?’
I’m similar to Baffle and Nava - never had an orgasm with a partner. Guess that’s why I burn out vibrators.
Mouse_Spouse and I have been together for three years. I enjoy sex with him, but climaxing is difficult for me. Its a combination of the medication I take, not wanting to lose control and body image issues. Ah, the joys of women’s sexuality.
Depends on the night, what we’re doing, whether I’m fully awake or half asleep, how long we go at it, and whether I haven’t seen him for a while. I can go anywhere between 6 and 20 with my current partner depending on the circumstances, and sometimes I end up having to change the sheets; female ejaculations are really, really messy.
I’ve had partners who were awful in bed as well, so this seemed nothing short of miraculous to me when we were first dating.
You ejaculating gals need to get yourselves some of those oh-so-sexy disposable pad things to put on the bed, if you don’t have some already. My favorite sex columnist once answered a hilarious question about that subject (well, she answers questions about it fairly often, but they’re not always funny), and somehow it stayed with me.
I can come from different varieties of stimulation but don’t often come from intercourse unless some other stimulation is occurring or I’m really aroused otherwise. The usual tally from partnered sex (but not intercourse) is six to ten, maybe up to fifteen or more depending on the partner. I don’t mind being touched after I come and that way subsequent orgasms occur a lot faster. I came during intercourse with my latest partner, but we have sexual chemistry that I haven’t had with anyone in a long time, so that’s not surprising.
I’ve never orgasmed from intercourse (though in some positions I feel like I almost could), but my boyfriend of 5 months is getting much better about remembering to think of me when we’re in bed. He doesn’t enjoy cunnilingus (the only thing about him I’d change … sigh), but he has good hands. It’s never more than once per “session” though: by the time I come and then he comes, we’re both wiped out. It’s fine with me, though, because he only gets one orgasm per session, too.
Perhaps all you girls that come 5+ times could get you partners to post their secrets.
Or maybe all you America women are lying, little, f*cks, as the two or three europeans report drastically different results.
I’m an American and I’m lucky if I make it to number 2. I think at least some of the women here may be counting the waves as orgasms. I’ve actually heard of women that thought the waves before orgasm WERE an orgasm.
I’ve also heard of women having 10 orgasms in one night when in reality they were probably having more like 1 or 2 with lots of “previews”.
Unfortunately I also have a friend who has never yet been able to have a man give her an orgasm
Whatever the number, its all fun!
We normally just throw a towel down before we get busy, so it’s not a big deal. Sometimes, however, it’s more than expected. Ooops.
Chew Barker, it’s a matter of compatibility a good deal of the time. I don’t universally get the same results, and just happened to fall into a spot of luck when finding my SO; we mesh well, and it’s not necessarily a matter of technique that can be universally applied. Until about four years ago, almost all the sex I’d ever had was pretty bad.
Yeah, so I hear. The one time I managed it, it was more like just extra lubrication than anything else, so it didn’t cause a mess. I haven’t tried for it anymore, since it takes a lot of work.
One time when the SO was, er, “eating some cookies,” I shot over his head. We were both so impressed we stopped and started laughing. Must be from all that water I drink.
Haha! That would be amazingly entertaining, as if just getting some wasn’t entertaining enough.
To the women who can’t orgasm from intercourse, do you ever help things along with a little manual rubbin’ while he’s pumping away, or is that cheating?
Yes, or else with a vibrator. I never thought of it as cheating, though.
I have at the minimum of two, and more frequently four to six REAL orgasms, not ‘waves’ as has been suggested. I wonder if the one-timers are younger ladies; the multiples didn’t start for me until I was 40, and with my second husband. I’m not sure if it’s the ‘40’ or the husband, or probably a combination of both, but sex in the last few years for me has been amazing.
Nah. I don’t think of it as “cheating,” I’m just usually either holding my legs, pinching his nipples, grabbing his ass, hanging on to the headboard, and/or unable to comfortably reach myself. Besides, I like the way intercourse feels enough to want to concentrate on that. I don’t have an “intercourse = orgasm” mentality: for me, having sex and being brought to orgasm are two separate, almost equally pleasurable things.
You forgot tied up, holding the videocamera, and keeping your hands on the steering wheel. Not that I’ve been watching, or anything.
Now this reminds me of something that I was just discussing with someone, which may be worth a thread of its own.
Hey, the videocamera was just that one time!
Well if you decide that it is, be sure to post a link for us.