Did you mean this as a joke? If not, don’t blame me for your lack of skill.
I echo miss elizabeth’s sentiment. WTF? That seems bizarrely hostile if it’s meant seriously, and has a whiff of insecure misogyny either way.
Actually, I’m going to take back the misogyny comment, because that may be going too far on my part, but the bizarre hostility stands. The thread seems to be following the normal pattern for such topics as far as I can tell - i.e., the first bunch of posts are always going to be from people who are having lots, as those who have less or none will be a bit shyer about admiting it.
You guys are shittin’ me, right? You don’t really have 4, 5, a dozen orgasms? Really?
Gah. I’m depressed.
Oh, and for the poll: I haven’t indulged in several years, but back when I was having sex with other people, mostly zero. On very rare occasions, one. I guess I’m European or something.
And still depressed.
My record is only two; not during intercourse, either. I’ve never found a position or angle that lets that even begin to work. With manual assistance I can, but I don’t always.
By myself is another story. I’ve never counted, but I wouldn’t be surprised if I got to 10 or 12 on a number of occasions. Partner sex is about way more than orgasms, so it doesn’t bother me.
please don’t let my mom read this thread…
I just don’t get this. I’m confused.
I’m a woman. I like sex. A lot. I’ve been married for 14 years, and still have sex at least 5 times a week. I have really good sex, 90% of the time. I enthusiastically orgasm relatively easily. (Waves don’t count as orgasms, people.) Typically once per act, although there can be more than one act in a day, obviously.
Sometimes, sex is sublime. This, at best, is about 6 orgasms in about 3 hours with minor breaks.
Now, I could understand that every woman is different, and maybe my body just isn’t designed the same as these women having 15-100 orgasms. However, pretty much every guy I’ve slept with in my life has been very appreciative; some were highly experienced. None has ever remarked about a deficiency in my orgasms. Yes, yes, I understand the whole, “You were the greatest, baby!” line to ensure further sex would be forthcoming. Only one has ever remarked about having sex with a woman who orgasmed continuously, most men were familiar with just the once or twice per act.
When I see article after article saying how rarely women orgasm, and how some NEVER orgasm, well, I just can’t figure this shit out. I really can’t. I’m not trying to cast doubt on earlier posts, I just don’t understand how it can be* that *different.
After researching some more, it seems like between 12-33% of women don’t orgasm ever, depending on the source of info.
And only about 30% orgasm regularly with intercourse. Yet 48% report multiple orgasms.
WTF?
Lots of conflicting statistics.
Words from the master.
http://www.straightdope.com/classics/a3_224.html
I do have those long extended orgasms, but I’m telling you, if I had 15-20 in one session, I’d either die from exertion, or kill him in the process.
Solo orgasms are more like relieving pressure, multiples haven’t really been the goal.
Color me confused.
I did once have one long, continuous orgasm lasting about 20 minutes. Not in 1960, either. There was a certain illegal herbal substance involved, though.
The guy was a psycho jerk but I still remember that occasion quite fondly.
Yes, this is what I’m saying as well. I orgasm every time with my SO and we have great sex. And FTR, I’m 38, been around the block so to speak. He can do every delicious imaginable thing to me and my body just will never orgasm 15 times in one night. I think my heart would burst first! Besides I’m perfectly content with what I do have.
Yes! Exactly, how the hell can things be so clearly on opposite ends of the spectrum? We have gazillions of women who cannot have one measly orgasm and yet in the first several posts here BAM, 4.6.10.12.15??? I’ll tell you, in my 38 years, I have done tons of reading myself, talked to many friends and acquaintances and I don’t think I have ever met anyone who has had 10 orgasms in a night. This is just amazing to me. I know it’s the big bad internet and anything can be said but…
See heart bursting above! And color me confused with you…
I have one quite large one during intercourse, with the help of a toy. No toy, no orgasm. I have the refractory thing going on as well, and even if I “work through” the irritating after-orgasm part I won’t be coming again any time soon. In fact, I have to be careful and not masturbate within a few hours prior to intercourse, or I’ll have “performance problems.”
I feel so stupid. What the heck are people defining as an orgasm? As a guy, I define it as ejaculation and/or I climax with no semen and have to stop due to sensitivity. If the applicable parts of that definition holds for women, HOLY CRAP if you gals get 5 to 10 to 100(!) off in an average night. One night when I was 14 over a span of about 4 hours I got 10 orgasms off and almost died. After like 5 it was just a race to see how many I could get off. Not much pleasure.
Wow. Congratulations. I am perfectly content with like 3.
I have a 99% orgasm rate with hubby. The only time I don’t is doggy style, but missionary or girl on top and I’m there.
Sometimes faster than him.
It’s really embarrassing sometimes
Oh, to add, the only guy who spoke of a girl orgasming continuously was fondly recalling an episode when they were about 16. So, take that for what it’s worth.
In a normal real life convo (as normal as these convos ever are,) saying that I had 6 orgasms in 2-3 hours, or 10 in about 6 hours, most people would think that’s almost extraordinary, (Oh, it was extraordinary, but I digress…) and my veracity might be questioned. But to just offhandedly remark 15-100 as a norm, well, that might be a little harder to believe. I’d like to believe it, it gives me something to aspire to. But.
I have never met a woman in real life who says she can orgasm 15-100 in a night. I know a lot of women. I have only heard one guy mention it, as I’ve already related. I know a lot of guys.
Perhaps we need to have a clear, concise definition of orgasm.
wiki-A woman experiences full orgasm when her uterus, vagina, anus, and pelvic muscles undergo a series of rhythmic contractions.
Sounds accurate.
Never claimed it as a norm. That partnership was exceptional. Ever spend an entire day in bed ?
An for further clarification, the OP asked about “sexual encounters” which I interpreted to include more than just intercourse. The higher numbers always start with orgasms from foreplay. The more orgasms I have during foreplay, the more I am likely to have during actual intercourse.
I have also experienced the refractory period sologasm … current SO is very fond of cunnilingus. If he goes there first, I become very sensitive to direct clitoral stimulation after one orgasm, to the point where it is no longer pleasurable and I have to ask him to stop. (or at least change his focus)
Just once. In 1960. For 20 minutes.
By “sexual encounter”, I mean from foreplay til the guy stops pumping. That is, if you take a break and go at it again after, say, and hour, it starts from zero again. I’m not interested in those “We did it all day” scenarios, I’m interested in “I have # before he’s done with me” counts.
Yeah, ok, Maastrict I never said that multiple orgasms were not possible, I know they are, I’ve had them myself. But there is a big difference between 1-4 in a session to 15-100 in a session. That’s where my confusion lies.
I second this. It’s never enough. Especially now that we rarely have sex because of the one-year-old kid and we’re both exhausted.
If I had to put a number on it now, it’s about once if I’m lucky - my husband is easily set off since we have sex so rarely, which is something we’ve decided we really need to make a priority. We’ve both been antsy for months.
This is what is confusin’ the hell out of me. You’re telling me some chick out there is having 10 -15 orgasms in ONE session? Holy Bejeezus!
Ya know, I don’t even want that. Nope, I’m happy. That sounds like too much of a good thing :dubious: