Women, how many orgasms?

In My Humble Opinion
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Hubby and I have been together for 22 years, married for 18 (why does typing that make me feel OLD?). I’ve always been multi-orgasmic, but it ain’t what it used to be. Time was, he’d start touching me, I’d start orgasming. And I didn’t stop until he did. Three times, in those glorious days of youth, he lasted long enough (hours) for me to get “AFO” (his terminology, meaning “All Fucked Out”, as in, “Please don’t; I can’t take any more”.

But for probably the last two to three years, it’s a little more work for both of us. Now, our sessions last an average of an hour, and probably produce an average of four orgasms for me.

I won’t say that it used to be better, though. Our relationship has a depth, an intimacy, a richness, that it didn’t have when we were younger. This more than makes up for the shortage of orgasms.

Oddly enough, when I’m “flying solo” (which I feel less and less drive to do as time passes), it’s once. Then I’m done.

ETA: I’d say, on average, we have sex three times a week.

Maybe I don’t like myself as much as I like him. :wink:

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I guess I don’t get it either. On a weekend night, we might “have a session” for 5 hours or so. Which isn’t to say everyone would want to do that, but we do. I guess I just orgasm easily, if he does certain things, I come. And he just keeps doing those things, over and over, until I’m about to die of pleasure, and then he will have an orgasm. And then, we go to sleep.

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My wife says 3 to 5 is typical (we’ve had this discussion before, heh); I always sort of assumed she was just trying to stroke my ego or something. Now I’m thinking I need to rethink my position on that…

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[QUOTE=Cattitude]
Yes! Exactly, how the hell can things be so clearly on opposite ends of the spectrum? We have gazillions of women who cannot have one measly orgasm and yet in the first several posts here BAM, 4.6.10.12.15??? I’ll tell you, in my 38 years, I have done tons of reading myself, talked to many friends and acquaintances and I don’t think I have ever met anyone who has had 10 orgasms in a night. This is just amazing to me. I know it’s the big bad internet and anything can be said but…
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Well, according to Maastricht’s link:

If my rough count is correct, about 55-60% of the serious respondents to this thread claim to have experienced this phenomenon, either themselves or (if male) with their partner.

Most self-reporting polls on this (and probably any other) message board produce figures that place the respondents far above societal norms in whatever characteristic is being reported. Do a search for SDMB polls about IQ or SAT scores, and you’ll find that the majority of respondents will (humbly and apologetically, of course) report that their intelligence is somewhere up in the genius range. There was a time when i wondered whether this message board contained every single person in America with an IQ over 170.

This type of apparently skewed result could mean any one of a number of things. It could mean that the folks here at the SDMB really are an amazingly elite group. It could mean that only the outliers on the right edge of the bell curve bother responding to the polls, while more average of below-average folks abstain. Or it could mean that some people like to yank your chain. The problem is, you can never really know which of these applies.

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[QUOTE=Nava]
Never had one with a partner. Yes, there is such a thing as bad sex.
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I’ve had sex that I felt was fine without orgasming. For some reason it’s really hard for me to come when I’m with someone. And it’s not like I don’t enjoy myself, because I do. If it were all about the orgasm I’d have much more fun by myself, thankyouverymuch. :wink:

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[QUOTE=McNew]
To the women who can’t orgasm from intercourse, do you ever help things along with a little manual rubbin’ while he’s pumping away, or is that cheating?
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It’s not that I can’t, it’s that I never have.

There’s been quite a few times when during intercourse I needed him to. Stop. RIGHT. THERE!

And instead he kept pumping. Actually, if I said anything, he’d pump deeper and faster, which happens to be the opposite of what the doctor ordered. I found myself having to yell OhmyGod (it had to be in English, if I Dios’ed he’d get pissy) so he’d come, drop asleep, and I’d be able to finish damnit.

Since having him inside precludes me from estimulating THERE myself, no, I haven’t been able to.

Oh, and although most of my sex has been with the same guy and pretty bad, I’ve had a lot of fun with other guys, including in situations where our clothes were… uh… mostly on and we weren’t doing anything that could not be done in public (well, at least in Spain, I’m sure trying to do it in a parked car in downtown Atlanta could mean trouble). Just never an orgasm.

mhendo, as another poster indicated (sorry, forgot the name), some people may be mistaking the waves for the flood. I know I masturbated for years without knowing I was doing so: I didn’t “touch myself,” so it wasn’t masturbation as described by every book, teacher and movie!

Some studies about “how long do people from different countries take for sex” got very different results… but apparently, some people started counting when they stopped the car in front of the florist, whereas others didn’t start until both partners were naked. This may be some of the same.

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As others have asked, Wher does one end and another begin? I haven’t experienced female orgasms, being a guy and all,but I can see that there are well-separated periods in which Something Good is clearly happening. Are these separate orgasms, or part of an ongoing single long orgasm with lots of “peaks”? If the former, then Pepper Mill has lots of orgasms, many more than one or two or five. But it’s not just a series of “waves”, because if I stop briefly, things quiet down, but I can easily “restart” , as she is quite sensitive (but, unlike some who have posted above, not so sensitive that continuing is distasteful) and primed.

I know that a guy’s orgasm (this guy’s, anyway) is like riding one long wave in, so I’m disposed to call Pepper Mill’s experience multi-orgasmic, with a great many "multi"s. It would be more appropriate to discuss the cumulative time of orgasm, than to go counting peaks.

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I used to have a fuckbuddy who claimed that once when she was housesitting for a friend, she used the Jacuzzi, positioned herself in front of one of the water jets, and lost count at 75 orgasms. She was a bit of a wackjob though, and was either:

  1. lying;
  2. confusing orgasms with the pre-orgasmic “waves”; or
  3. Hi Opal!