Women: How often do you get "horny"?

In My Humble Opinion
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I’ve found the variances in this thread from Doper to Doper pretty interesting. Some statistics:

Notice a difference in sex drive due to hormonal fluctuations:
Cadbury Angel; age 19 (fluctuates as a result of menstruation)
Mipiace; 36 (childbirth)
Yumanite; 25, (menstruation)
Lsura, 29 (menstruation)
Sylkyn, 43 (hysterectomy)

Sex Drive:
Very High (masturbate more than 7xs in an average week/want sex one or more times daily)
Irishajo, 28
Draelin; 27
ava, 21
AntaresJB, 20
Orange Skinner; 17

High (masturbate 3-6xs a week/want sex at least every other day)
CanvasShoes; 44
Mipiace; 36, not single.
tanookie, 30
Finger Princess; 19.
LauraLittlePony; 19
Born of Stardust, 19
suki
Angel of the Lord

Medium (Masturbate an average of once a week/want sex one or two times a week)
Cadbury Angel; 19
ABBAJen; 19
AngelicGemma 18

Low (Masturbate once ever two weeks-once a month/would ideally have sex once every two weeks)
Sylkyn, 43
Lsura, 29
SnoopyFan, 25

Make of all this what you will.

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I said ovulation, not menstruation. The former is when I get to wanting “wild monkey sex” phase, the latter is not. Yes, both are part of the cycle, but are rather different things.

Nope, I said:

I just don’t want to be put in the “low sex drive” category when I certainly wouldn’t call my sex drive low. I’d call myself more middle of the road. How often someone masturbates isn’t a good measure of sex drive - I can want a good deal of sex, but knowing that I’m not likely to get any anytime soon, it can be easier to ignore it rather than masturbate, which just kicks things into high gear and makes me spend a lot more time thinking about sex than I already do, and I don’t have that much time to spare in my schedule right now.

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Wow, I don’t even rate?

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Sorry, Lsura. Firstly, I was using menstruation to stand for the entire cylce, ovulation included. If anyone said that they found their sex drive different, whether when they were ovulating, actually menstruating, or directly afterwards, I just chalked it up to this in general. That’s why there’s a discrepency there.

Secondly, the ranking system was fairly generic, as you can tell. (I’d mainly mapped it out to see where the various age ranges/rate of activity would fall, as Whack-a-mole implied ealier that he felt teenagers would skew the results drastically, and from the posts I’d read, didn’t feel this was the case.

To simplify, I tried to use two or three general indicators as far as ranking goes. You would know better than I about where you’d fall, of course. I wasn’t sure if general horniness immediately translated to masturbation, as with many people it doesn’t, and therefor didn’t know where to put you. (I bit off more than I could chew, actually). So for you, and for a couple others, I had to sort of guess at it.

Maureen, you’re so high you’re not even on the chart. ;). Sorry about that. I didn’t add you in, because while it seemed obvious from your postings that you would certainly be in the upper ranges, I wasn’t sure just how high, as you hadn’t given concrete numbers. (I omitted a couple people who just said they “were horny all the time” or “masturbated a lot” on this ground, only because I wasn’t sure of where exactly they’d fall, or what they’re “a lot” might be. That’s all.

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**Orange, **do you need more specific information for this, or are you going to stop with the general study? I’ll be happy to provide more concrete numbers. I have nothing else to do right now. :slight_smile:

Which may have something to do with why I qualified for the “high” category. :wink:

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Orange Skinner, you are too funny, honey! I’ve got a feeling you’re probably going to be the same way in about 17 years or so…

I think maybe Whack-a- mole did have a point, though, as younger women are more likely to answer questions like this then “women of a certain age.”

To clarify something I said to the OP, by “go after women instead of little girls,” I should have said: women who are emotionally mature and comfortable with their sexuality. That really has very little to do with age. My apologies if anyone was offended.

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Fair enough and I agree wholeheartedly. Unfortunately I have yet to find a way to discern this before having sex with a woman. I personally have found no correlation between how a woman acts outside the bedroom as she does in it. Women who seem strong, assertive, open to any and every discussion may be anything but those things in bed. Women who are quiet and reserved may be tigers in bed. Mix and match at will (i.e quiet ones may be mousy in bed and asserive women may be tigers). I have yet to see a trend I can even begin to count on. My sixth-sense doesn’t even tune on this with any accuracy (not trying to be mystical…just that ‘gut’ instinct you generate about people you meet).

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Thanks, Maureen. And regarding the in 17 years…I certainly hope so :).

Draelin: If the thread gets a lot more hits, (and if my current level of boredom sticks around) I might end up adding to the first, so sure.

Oh, and if anyone thinks of some other another aspect I’m overlooking that might be interesting, let me know. I was thinking maybe something to do with sex drive variances with/without a partner…specifically, if it’s higher/lower when in a relationship, if the urge to masturbate stays the same/tapers off/rises while in a relationship, etc. I think that might be sort of interesting.

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(This might also make for some good background, though not as many previous posters have provided this information, whereas several had mentioned fluctuations with/without a SO in the picture):

I’m curious to see if the age at which one started masturbating has any correlation on how high/low their sex drive is today, and secondly, what sort of upbringing did you have regarding sex and sexuality. I’m betting these factors have a lot to do with the end result in many women.

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I’m 34 and I think of sex more and more each day as I’m getting older. I think it’s because as I’ve gotten older, I’ve been with more and more men that actually knew what they were doing in bed.

“Women just know that men are horny pretty much all the time.” -Except when football is on. No, truly, I think men like to act like they’re horny all the time but when it comes down to it, the average man has times when he is “not in the mood” just like women do. Just last night, I stripped naked and said to my bf (of 2 years)… come on, lets go in the hot tub. He’s a generally sexually excitable kind of guy but (to my annoyance) he just didn’t seem very enthusiastic (I made the effort worth his while though!).

As far as masterbating… I’d say once a week, maybe. It’s not that important… sometimes I just get kind of bored.

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I’m kind of shy about sharing this on a public message board, but what the hell…

I’m 26, a virgin, and when things are going about “average” for me, I masturbate between 3-6 times per week, and I’m not happy unless I have between 2-5 orgasms per session. I think about sex about as often as most guys say they do (which is pretty much every other minute).

(As an aside: Being on the Pill or on antidepressants mutes my sex drive, but not by much. Antidepressants seriously reduce the pleasure derived from orgasm, though.)

The reason I feel compelled to share is that I know I’m not average. I discovered how to give myself an orgasm without the help of a man or a vibrator, and being a horndog doesn’t mean that I’m not picky as hell about who I date or sleep with (duh, I’m a 26 year old virgin–that pretty much speaks for itself). And even being really busy/stressed out/grubby/having my period/tired doesn’t usually affect my sex drive. Hell, sometimes those things just make me think spending a couple of hours masturbating would be a lovely and much needed break.

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I didn’t see page 2 before I posted.

Hard to say. In the one long-term relationship I was in, I went on the Pill, which killed my sex drive entirely. I will say that I was mentally hornier but physically unable to respond.

I can remember masturbating as young as 6 or 7–couldn’t achieve orgasm that young but I did have sexual fantasies and I knew what I was doing felt good.

I’d say mine was ideal. Mom told us about the function of the clitoris and that it “felt good to touch it” when we were very young, as a part of general education about our bodies, and made it clear without ever saying so directly that masturbation was perfectly OK but a private thing. My parents also were very open about sex ed (we discussed it at the dinner table, for pete’s sake) and their central theme was balancing grown-up sexual behavior with the attendant responsibilities and concerns. Their message was to have healthy, responsible relationships when we were grown up enough to handle them.

Well, there are a few of us here in the heartland… :wink:

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Age masturbation started…ummm well, I knew what it really was at about 13 or so.
And yes, I think it raised my sexual “base line”.

Family upbringing, my parents have always been and still are raging nymphomaniacs, after 34 years even. Hell, I think my mother has a better collection of fetish wear than most stores out there. Don’t cringe, she’s awesome for her age.
They were very open and would encourage very graphic conversations when we (siblings) got older about the importance of learning proper sex techniques and the role good sex had in a relationship.

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Hmmmmmm…I go through phases, so this is a tough call.

I’m 25. I’m happy with sex two/three times a week; I’d enjoy it more often than that, but Mr. Levins and I have a room-mate, and we both work weird hours, and sleep at odd hours…so sometimes it just isn’t possible.

And I am incredibly horny during the middle/tail-end of my period. (A small part of me is wondering why I am saying these things to thousands of people, but hell. Why not.) Don’t know why, but once the initial two-days’ cramps have subsided, I’m insanely horny for at least a week after that. (Which can suck, b/c orgasms can lead to the dreaded Re-Awakening of the Cramps. Does this happen to anyone else?)

As for masturbating…maybe twice a week?

But my sex drive does go through phases…the more I have it, the more I want it, but if I don’t get any for a week or so, I find myself thinking of it less and less. Girlfriends of mine have said the same thing; if you’re not getting any, you don’t really want any, but once you do get some, you want lots more.

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WHEW!! Then I’m not “weird”!!! LOL.

My boyfriend cannot BELIEVE the difference between my “bedroom self” and my “normal self”. He’s constantly complaining “how on EARTH can you be so shy about talking about stuff when you do the things you do in bed”???

We’ve been going out for about 5 and a half of the last 7 years and he can still make me blush with a “naughty” statement or look.

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You left me out :frowning:

Age: 40
Has sex: At least once a day, usually 2x or more, rarely masturbates (unless it’s part of foreplay)

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Lucky girl. That’s just not the norm. Although it really should be; so many people would have fewer problems if there parents were that open about sex.

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I agree, Maureen. I’d like to be like that as much as possible with my kids, once I have them. I WISH my parents had been like that, but they sure weren’t. I already mentioned how my mom told me not to play with myself when I was little. My mom told me about periods and puberty, but for some reason my parents never gave my brother or I “The Talk” about the act of sex itself. I don’t really know how or when I figured out what it was all about…somehow it all filtered in eventually from friends, media, etc. Furthermore, there was hell in my house when the 'rents found out I was sexually active (course, part of what made it so bad was that I wasn’t exactly monogamous at the time…if I had been I think they would have flipped less), and though they understand that I am mature and can make my own decisions at college, my mother still doesn’t want my boyfriend to sleep in the same bed with me when he visits–we’d have to be married, not even engaged, for that. She still believes that chastity until marriage is the highest moral way to go, and that part of being a loving mother is to expect the highest morality from your children. Sigh…

As far as sex drive with or without a partner is concerned…I’ve been with my current boyfriend for over 9 months, so I’m trying to remember what it was like without one. :wink: With one, my sex drive is high most of the time. There was a time when I didn’t have an SO but still had people I’d get sex from semi-regularly. If I was getting a decent amount of sex, I think my sex drive remained pretty high or increased. Sometimes it would still be high even without regular gittin-it-on, but there were certainly times when, as other people here have said, I’d think about it less when I wasn’t getting it much. Not thinking about it can make not having it easier to bear, after all. :wink:

I’ve mentioned that I was very young when I started masturbating–3 or 4, I think. It was definitely to orgasm, too. I would pile the blankets under me and rub against them and start coming up with more and more elaborate (for who knows what reason) spanking fantasies. I didn’t know what the sensations were, of course, but the fantasies and sensations would get wilder and more intense until they hit a high point–and then suddenly there would be the comedown, and I’d feel extremely silly for thinking the weird things I was thinking and go to sleep. I thought there was something seriously wrong with me for doing this, and I was afraid that I was hurting myself, so I would have periods where I’d try to stop and feel proud of myself for doing so, but I’d invariably go back to it. When I was 15 and first did semi-sexual things with a boy, the big light came on and it all made sense. :wink: Sometimes I’ve felt like my particular childhood experience hampered my masturbation ability in that I never did it by touching myself, only by rubbing against something. I expanded into that of course :p, but some of my most intense orgasms still come from “the old way.”

So, a summary for Orange Skinner :wink: :
Age: 19
Sex Drive: High
Age of First Masturbation: 3 or 4
Upbringing Regarding Sex: Not exactly Puritan, but not exactly open either.
Sex Drive With SO: High to very high
Sex Drive Without SO: Sometimes high or very high, sometimes medium to low

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I wonder if any other woman noticed this… I never even considered masterbating until I was about 6 months pregnant. All of a sudden, I just had to have it at the strangest times.

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About two weeks before my period I get so horny, I feel like my body is on fire from the inside out. It has gotten stronger this past year. I am not a sex fiend by any means. In fact, I can live without it any other time of the month, but for about one week per month, I am EXTREMELY horny and constantly wet. Thank goodness for masturbation and dildos because I am not the type of woman who can have sex with a man I am not in a relationship with. BTW, I am 47.