Women: How rich do you like your men to be?

In My Humble Opinion
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Okay, ideally I would love to be with a man who had an endless supply of money. Then I could work or not work, paint, read books, cross-stitch, travel, go rock-climbing, etc. without having to worry about paying for any of it!! Never have to wonder where the next meal or rent bucks will be coming from, etc. Then again, doesn’t everyone want this? Male or Female?

coughcough* I did say “ideally.”

Realistically, it doesn’t really matter. My SO is a composer and I aim to be a stage actress (Repertory or Shakespeare, not Broadway)…we don’t expect to have much money. I think that as long as you can afford to keep yourselves comfortably fed, clothed, warm and entertained, then it’s enough money.

We all have our dreams, but I (like to) think that most women are more concerned with the kind of person they will be spending the remainder of their life with, not just how much money he makes.

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: You need to stay away from Lodo, for one thing! I haven’t
: been down there much since it became trendified & sports-
: bar yuppified, I hate that stuff.

I’ve been trying to seek out places that are a bit less pretentious, but it seems that with every new Californian that arrives in the Mile High City, the number of places that are “funky” yet non-threatening are disappearing. My neighborhood has either upscale yuppie bars or whte trashy biker bars – there’s no middle.

: I don’t know what circles you hang out in, but I can’t
: imagine you being outclassed by “every other guy.” Trust
: me.

My circles – to be honest, I don’t have a ton of friends here. My friends either tend to be eclectic artsy/brainy females, or obnoxious but loyal males. I actually had far more friends when I lived in Las Cruces, and they came from all parts of town – starving artists, yupscale professionals, gun nuts.

I think a problem is that the affluence is so damn visible here. I mean, when half the cars on the road of Denver are huge SUVs, and luxury cars make up a good portion of the remainder, you don’t really make note of the few driving Dodges or Saturns.

: And, on what planet is 5’ 10", 165lbs fat? Good grief.

When I was living up in Fort Collins, I got it all the time, but a bit less so in Denver. I have about ten pounds of gut that I have to drop. People in Colorado – you know, the state where everyone rock climbs, hikes, skis black slopes – aren’t supposed to have little tummies. I remember reading some statistic stating Denver was the “thinnest city” in the United States.

: I too am glad I bought a house in a funky neighborhood. I
: live one block off East Colfax in Denver, and my mortgage
: is less than most peoples’ rent on a little apartment.

I’m up here in Berkeley – my house is almost exactly two miles from Union Station. It’s not “funky” in the Colfax sense, but it is diverse – young professionals, working class Anglos, Hispanic families, aging hippies, and for some reason that escapes me, lots of butch lesbians.

: Denver probably needs more people like you, and fewer
: Navigator-driving nouveau riche buying trophy houses in
: Greenwood Village.

Thanks! :slight_smile:

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Okay, so I’m not cheap. I am, however, forced by circumstances to be very frugal, indeed (divorces are expensive, even after the fact). Can’t move to Denver, either. I have a 3½-year-old son who has first dibs on my affection (he needs me more than you).

Sorry, but them’s the breaks.

~~Baloo

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I don’t care a bit for the money.
I can live on bread, water, air and some love.:):slight_smile:

25

Wow, I live in the SF bay area, and even in this yuppie and dot.com hell, I’ve never seen an ad with an income requirement. Most people use a euphemism like “professional”, “homeowner” or “college degree”.

I think we’d all like to find someone who’s thin, pretty, charming, has a really big trust fund and loves us devotedly. If such a person existed, would they date us? Personally, I want to date Oliver Plexico from “Year of the Comet”…mmmmm…mustache…rich…flies helicopters…also does plumbing…<glazed eyes, headed towards ladies’ room>…

If I had to but numbers on it, I’d like a man who makes at least 15% more than I do, so I wouldn’t have to deal with the ego thing.

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It depends!

For me, it depends on what kind of “dating” I’m engaging in.

For casual dating, I don’t give a damn how much a man makes, what he drives or how much he spends on dates. Generally, I’m looking for an opportunity to pay my own way without emasculating the guy at the same time. I can handle my own finances, thank you very much. I just don’t want to have to fix your problems, which brings me to…

For serious relationship dating, it only matters that the man has a clean credit record. I really don’t care what his income is – as long as he hasn’t: filed bankruptcy, can’t remember to pay his bills, defaulted on loans, hosed his ex-wife out of her share of his retirement fund, whatever.

Point being: I’ve busted my ass and spent many years cleaning up my credit record to the point where it’s damn near perfect. (One lawsuit to go and that last little blemish will go away!) So, do I want to fall in love and marry some loser whose wages are garnished because he owes back child support? Hell no. I refuse to inherit someone else’s financial problems. I don’t want to have a bunch of problems buying a house or the vacation beach house becuase my SO couldn’t pay his bills when he was 25.

So my only requirement will be basically, a clean credit report. I’m going to start running them, as well as criminal background checks on all future potential life partners! :rolleyes: