And how about “knowing” you would want to be with someone before you even have a chance to talk.
As with many of my friends, I would, just by looking at an attractive girl, know that I would “hit that”. An example would be, if I was sitting at a bar, and a hot girl walked in and then right up to me and said, “Hey, take me outside and bend me over the backseat of your Subaru.” I would probably head out to the parking lot, no questions asked.
Would the same work for a girl if you were looking at the physical aspects of it?
No way. I mean, sure, I’ve looked at guys before and thought “I want me some of that” but when they open their mouths I no longer want them in my bed after that.
But I hardly speak for all women. I think my sig is appropriate:
I think the last time I had a one-night stand I was 19 and I hadn’t yet met my husband.
I picked the most attractive guy who smelt nice and wasn’t giving off crazy vibes.
It wasn’t exactly a carefully thought out decision with military planning.
Pick hot guy, smile at hot guy, talk to hot guy, dance with hot guy, go home with hot guy.
Not rocket science.
Although, I have the kind of mind and memory that I still remember his name, where he was from and the names of his siblings.
I don’t seek one night stands anymore. But if I would, it would have to be on my terms. I want to be the pursuer. If I’m the one being pursued I would feel like I’m being used.
I had quite a few one-night-stands when I was in my 20s/early 30s (I’m 40 now); the last one was about 5 years ago, though just this past Friday I was at a bar and wound up talking with a guy who I probably would have gone home with if circumstances had been different.
For me, one-night-stands are all about mutual physical attraction. Period. Personality generally doesn’t matter, short of anything downright off-putting (though sometimes a guy’s personality can bump his attractiveness from “maybe” to “I hope he has a condom”). I’ve definitely had sex with guys who I wouldn’t have dated. But “mutual attraction” doesn’t mean “only hotties”: I don’t have a physical type, and I’ve slept with – and dated – all kinds of men. The only must-have is chemistry.