Some of the replies, especially from the open-minded females, were very interesting. I know something about porn and I like stuff that is clearly shot, believable (no outrageous costumes, make-up, sets, etc.), and doesn’t objectify or inflict pain one sex or the other. I like attractive women. I like it when they really seem to get into what they are doing. However, I and my SO haven’t watched porn together and she indicated she may be into it. She doesn’t like ugly, greasy males or bimbo females. No stupid stuff. No gutter stuff. But still hard-core, not “Emmanuel” R-rated type stuff.
So, can some of you females (or males a with similar successful experience) point me in a direction to finding what might work. No links are necessary. I don’t want this to get deleted or anybody to get banned. Just point me in some directions of things to check out. I want my SO to be turned on. The last thing I want is to turn her off to mutually watching porn. I won’t mind doing the research.
And as for couples porn, I like Phil Foglio’s XXXenophile comics. Yes, they’re comic books rather than video, but everyone in the stories is having lots and lots of fun. However, he DOES mean xenophile…just about all of the stories have a fantasy or science fiction element. For instance, there’s the guy who just got married, and his family is cursed. People in his family can’t have sex (after marriage) without having a demon looking on. This has put a damper on most of the family, but this guy is used to poly relationships, so he and his new wife invite the demon to join in. She does, and finds that she likes it too. There’s also sex with aliens, and sex with werecats, and sex with elves and dryads. Sometimes it’s just humans having sex in fantasy or science fiction settings, though.
Many of the sites that sell porn have a ‘couples’ section. Go with the highest rated/rented/purchased within that category and you’re probably going to do well. Some of the more mainstream retailers like ‘Adam and Eve’ give pretty good guidance.
We have a number of large stores in my area that are fairly couples friendly. A few times my wife and I have just rented something based on the pictures, assuming it looks like: 1) high production value 2) pictures show both men and women, so she can see what she’s getting (most only show the women) 3) none of the backgrounds look like bathrooms, alleys, or something else sleezy. The biggest problem we’ve found is #1, because between every idiot having an HD camera and a copy of Photoshop, it’s amazing how often the box only slightly resembles the movie. If the movie boasts that it is ‘shot on location in…(somewhere exotic)’, I find those to generally be higher quality overall since someone at least paid to fly a few people to Hawaii, the Caribbean, Spain, etc. and so they have an incentive to not just use a crappy camera and someone’s random backyard/bedroom.
One other consideration you may want to find out in advance is how your SO feels about certain aspects of porn. I can remember back in the late 70s/early 80s when cumming on a girl’s face/mouth, anal, ass-to-mouth, shaved pubic regions, girl on girl, and even interracial sex were considered more ‘hardcore’ or ‘fetish’. Now this is all very standard, and may almost be unavoidable. If she has hangups about that stuff, you may even want to pre-screen it first to make sure there isn’t anything in there that will be a mood killer. I’ve certainly seen some things in porn that my wife and found a little off (rape scenes, for example).
I’m not sure what they mean by taking “the female orgasm out of the realm of porn theatre, and present[s] it in the erotic context it deserves.” I do know that making you pay for it like its exclusive content doesn’t help.
