What the OP percieves to be “nice”. Women may not be turned onto. Many guys say something to the effect of “I’m a nice guy, why don’t girls like me ‘that’ way”. When their (the man’s) definition of “nice” is that they don’t beat on or put down women or treat them in a disrespectful way.
That is an admirable way to be. But it isn’t necessarily the way to “get” women. There need to be other qualities to you other than “niceness” in order to attract women.
The reason that “jerks” or “bad boys” seem (*note, I say SEEM, here) to get so many women is that part of their bad boy attitude is that they are confident.
I would wager that most nice guys don’t do follow on studies to determine whether or not these bad boys actually get to “keep” the girls that they get. But if they could, they’d likely see that intelligent women quickly see past the confidence and smoothness to the “badness” and leave them.
Sorry back to the point. It takes more than being a “nice” guy to get and keep a girl. I know, I know, it’s catch-22 sitch, how is one supposed to GET confidence when one keeps getting turned down.
Well, another poster here had some good advice. Don’t date. Just get to know women as people and friends. Increase your potential for being a well rounded (interesting and learned) individual. READ!! READ!! READ!! There are tons of books (to suit all tastes, from the simplistic Venus and Mars, to more complicated books regarding Human Sexuality and Response reports) out there designed specifically to teach us how to meet, talk to, fall in love with and stay in love with the opposite sex.
It takes all kinds, the world is NOT made up of only bad boys, nice boys and shallow females who only date bad boys and “use” nice boys.
Some of us have been treated pretty shabbily by the opposite sex (me, for instance) and still love the opposite sex and don’t generalize about them.
Sounds as if you just need a bit of education and confidence, and then to get back out there. Hang in there
