ISTM it would be the other way around- I would be much more likely to have orgasms with a long-term partner that I was comfortable and familiar with than a relatively new man that I was having a secret, furtive affair with. Must just be me?
But at any rate, as to the OP, I can’t imagine that very many women cheat for the orgasms- orgasms aren’t traditionally a motivator for women, are they? Romance, however, seems to be a big motivator.
I don’t get it.
G spot?
She meant** LegsAkimbo**.
Why bother with a secret furtive affair, if not for the orgasms?
Nah, that’s not why women cheat, and while honestly the flat statement of “women have more orgasms with their lovers than their husbands” sort of set my teeth on edge (the way flat statements about 50% of humanity do), I’d be entirely unsurprised to find that people in general are more orgasmic with people they’re infatuated with, and infatuation is usually what leads to secret furtive affairs.
carnivorousplant, I just thought that was a notably conservative view of adultery for someone who’s legs are all the time akimbo.
Ah.
Thank you.
Need a blushing smiley.
:rolleyes:
I’ve read that as well, that women really need familiarity and trust.
Hey, maybe women are complex!
The romance?
What’s the point of romance, if it doesn’t end in orgasms?
Familiarity breeds orgasms?
Chocolate?
Nah, chocolate is even easier to give to myself than orgasms are. 
Wait, you’re a woman. How do you pay for chocolate? Do you have a job or something?
This is our “blushing” smiley. :o
It also serves as our oral sex smiley.
Doubly appropriate for this thread, n’est-ce pas? 
Yours is shaped like a square? :eek:
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In tdn’s defense, I’ve also read somewhere seemingly-credible that women report a higher occurrence of orgasms with lovers than with partners. I think it has to do with the special attention combined with the exciting risk. Oh, and I don’t need all the anecdotes saying that’s nonsense because you’d never feel that way. My point is that the idea’s out there.
I vote DianaG henceforth change her name to DianaGspot.
Unless the oral sex is from Jennifer Wilbanks, in which case we use this: :eek:
Not per se. It wasn’t the lack of orgasms, it was the lack of sex. Remember that thread we had a while back, about what would you do if you had a deep loving intimate relationship with a lot of cuddling and touching but no sex? It was one of those.
The source I’ve read says it’s more on a biological level, though I could see one triggering the other.
I’m betting an awful lot of women cheat for the exact same reason that men do.
I’m betting a lot of women are perfectly fine with the chicken or even steak they have at home, but often crave lobster. I don’t know for sure, but I would take the bet.
Oh, God. The Mods will kill me.
From the evolutionary behavior books I’ve read, what I gather is …
Women don’t cheat because of an absence of orgasms … they have orgasms because they’re cheating.
