Hello respectable members of this message board,
My husband’s stupidity online came up in a topic during dinner and after hearing his rationale for his stupidity I became upset. First and foremost I feel I need to apoligize for him because I feel in a way associated with his stupidity and mean comments. As I write this response on this message board I am irate at his comments and replies. I do not feel it is a representation of who he is as a person, but then again the internet gives everyone a shield to hide behind and pretend to be perfect when in reality it brings out the horrible ego within. Therefore, on behalf of my husbands actions and words I appoligies.
So who is this douchebag Incubus??? He is in his 30’s, works as a bus driver (best job he ever had), he is a college graduate who did not know what to do with his degree and landed in a job he actually likes. He grew up in an upper middle class, but he wont admit to it. In my books when your parents could afford piano lessons you were well off and did not ever know what poverty was. Therefore, don’t believe his bullshit about having a tought life as a child, if he ever express that.
Women he has dated, represented an aspect of his life he did not like. They were what he felt he could settle with and who he believed he could have them abide by his will. Many of his exes were on the heavy side. He has a thing for the same fat people I read he was shaming online. As someone who has a BMI that is considered fat, I am appalled by his remarks. Again, all the shit he says about fat people is more a representation of what he feels about himself as he begins to gain weight. My husband is not fat by any means, but a twig who in his 30’s began to get a beer belly and he hates that about himself. Him and I are something of opposites in every aspect. He says blue and I say red. He is used to being around friends who are on the persuasive side and my friends are the very authoritative no bullshit. Therefore, as much as he likes to pretend everything comes easy to us, HE IS LYING HIS ASS OFF. We have worked and continue to work everyday to make this marriage work.
When it comes to me he knows better than to involve me in his bullshit conversations. I am a strong woman who can speak for myself and do not need my husband to put words in my mouth. I am Latina, a social worker and have a higher education and pay than he does. I make all the decisions in my home because my husband is often too busy posting about his productivity online rather than direct a decision my way. I encourage those in this post to not take his bullshit and address it in the moment, makes it more relevent. It has been working for me, therefore, might work for those in this post.
Now that I have bashed my lovely husband for his bullshit, stupidity, douchebag ways and all the bad words all the members came up with lets look at the possitive:
He is truely a wonderful man, who will take the shirt off his back for his family, he loves me with all my extra pounds (stretch marks and all), he has embraced my culture and language, he has growned in many aspects (he is still working on not being a douchebag), loves his mother and family, super smart and knowledgable (when not stroking his ego) and above all a somewhat honest man (some of the shit he put on here is complete bullshit and not a representation of him and he wanted a reaction) and when it comes to this message board…
He will not admit to this, but he values all of your opinions and feedback. He just likes to argue for the sake of arguing. That is a fight I have decided to just let go of, arguing is one of his passions!
Therefore, if I can give this community advice it is to treat everything with a grain of salt and do not take much notice of all the douchebag comments my husband makes on here. Just remember that it is an internal struggle that he has to arrive to.
For my husband, apologizing is not easy, but as his wife I have come to know when he means it. I feel everyones comments, rightfully made, have affected him in one way or another.
Overall, I apoligize for hijacking his account and writing this lengthly reply, but I do not believe him bullying anyone is an acceptable thing to do. I feel that words hurt more than actions.
The normal, not perfect wife of Incubus (aka douchebag)
PS I will not be replying to any post and am not seeking replies… this is more to englighten the messageboard of the truth!