Women, would you post on behalf of your husband?

In My Humble Opinion
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When you never had before and then say derogatory things about yourself?

In a pit thread about poster Incubus, supposedly his wife took over his account long enough to write just one post, found below:

[Bolding mine] Note how she talks about her own weight.

Anyway, there’s some debate in that thread whether or not that’s a legitimate post from his wife, so I ask you all… if your husband ended up in hot water on some message board you didn’t post to, would you step in and offer some sort of explanation for his behavior? Then would you take it a step farther and out your dirty laundry at home, all the while telling everyone that you are overweight? Inquiring minds want to know. So, please offer details, which ever side you fall on. Thanks!

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Nope. The SDMB is the only forum to which we both post, so if he got into hot water here, I might defend him if he deserved defending, but I would post as myself. Other than that, he’s on his own his other message boards. I don’t even read them. He doesn’t read mine.

3

No, I wouldn’t step in and post like that. The most I do is answer his email as him, but now that he is retired I don’t have to do that.

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What sort of board rules does all this violate?

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What? People start OPs all the time that are spin-offs from something else. I think it’s interesting that, in the other thread, so many people are convinced that’s his wife. So, going from there, why wouldn’t one be curious if others would do the same thing she supposedly did? I know, as a long time wife myself, there’s no way in hell I would do such a thing. However, I’m just one person, so I asked. It’s not like I could do it there.

But, if there’s some sort of issue with me posting this, not only do I apologize, but will gladly abide by the mods closing it. So, guys, do what you will.

To everyone else, thanks for your replies.

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I think he was asking what sort of board rules are violated when your wife posts from your account :wink:

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I asked my wife to respond for [del]me[/del] herself:

"This is TokyoBayer’s wife. While I’m aware that [del]I[/del] he posts on a bulletin board, [del]she[/del] I care[del]s[/del] so little about it that [del]she[/del] I wouldn’t respond.

[del]She is[/del] I am gorgeous, from Taiwan and makes lots of money and am really hot. So you can call me HTW[sup]TM[/sup].

I may get an account, but just to post good things about my wonderful husband. Oh, I’m not a Amerikan, so forgive me bad English.

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No. I have no idea what boards, if any, he posts on. As far as I know he is unaware of the existence of SDMB, so he wouldn’t be able to post on my behalf here even.

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This is ACM’s wife. Rather than post a lengthly reply I’ll just leave you with this: He is, in fact, as sexy as you imagine.

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As sexy as a cantaloupe? Because that’s how I imagine him.:slight_smile:

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I guess there are all sorts of people but it just seems weird to me that Incubus’s wife would actually care about her husband’s message board trollery enough to hijack his account and post like that. Why would she give one flying fuck what The Straight Dope thinks about HMWtm?

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As a cantaloupe? Allow me to rephrase: He’s almost as sexy as you imagine.

13

Ugh, now I’ve got awkward all over me. Spouse posting or poster pretending to be spouse posting; that was uncomfortable either way.

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Nope. If my husband was a dick on a forum, he deserves to be called out on it and doesn’t need me defending him - I’m his wife, not his mother!

15

I got an image of Hermes Conrad in my mind when I read this.

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Not me, but you’re asking the wrong audience. The women here already have internet personas, here and elsewhere. They’d see no need in using their husbands’.

That said, please keep in mind the person writing that (supposedly) is from another culture. I have heard and read instances where the sentiment of what was done is expressed (apologizing for a relative’s mistake).

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I wouldn’t, because a) he’s a longtime member and b) he’s an adult who is capable of defending himself. Aside from Fark (where I’m also a member, albeit a lurker), I have some idea where he spends his time, but not enough that I care about what he’s doing, let alone follow him around.

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Yes, I would indeed post half of my husband. I just don’t know which half.

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The wife of a normal, healthy guy probably wouldn’t do something like this.

But I can see the wife of an emotionally stunted or handicapped person stepping in to fix his mess. If we are to take that post at face value, the poster in question is overly invested in internet fantasies. He doesn’t have much of a life outside of the computer. So maybe if I was partnered with someone like this and I knew they weren’t able to separate message board rejection from real world rejection, I MIGHT feel compelled to help smooth things over for them. If only because seeing someone pouting and fuming over some bizarre message board mess would get real old real fast.

Yes, it is pathetic if it truly went down like this. Not only is it pathetic that the wife would have to defend him (in quite that way), it’s also pathetic that he would be so upset that the Pit thread would even come up in conversation. But I don’t think Incubus is an emotionally well individual. Pathetic behavior is par for the course for someone like him.

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Very true.

Regards,
Mrs. Shodan